how to stop my brother from being a sore loser way

[rockmanmegaman]

whenever I play a game (video game) with my bro (16yr old) and sis(10 yr old), it's fun and all, but, the problem is whenever, he loses he react with violence, by smashing everything around him, insulting me and my (he's my younger bro, but he's way bigger) and sometime might resort in violence. I try to avoid this by losing to him on purpose a lot, but when me or my sis win atleast once, he goes angry. His anger level is like this

 

anger level 1 - start swearing and saying how the game cheat for me and my sis

*me and my sis usually try to end the game here, but when we do, his anger level skips to "anger level 4"

anger level 2 - He start mashing the controls violently

anger level 3 - Declare to end the game and chuck his controller away really hard (sigh, I have to pay and buy for every new controller)

anger level 4 - start sitting near his computer and say how the game cheats and what ever action you do, he'll say oh the cheater doing this and that and when walking he purposely smash on object (eg. airconditoner, GC controller, etc)

* I sometime get angry, because the way he's acting is really immature and annoying and that his violence action made me waste money to replace them (since my parents doesn't punish my bro and won't pay to buy new things, I've gotta waste my hard earn work money to replace these items when I could be using it for something else).

anger level 5 - Kicking object, causing it to break and insulting me. He calls me a coward (I guess, it's I'm just physically smaller than him) and say that I act like a loser and a fag (I'm not homophobic).

* I mostly get angry because of this, he doesn't understand that i need to work to buy these items and that it's ironic, because he's acting like a loser for crying over losing.

anger level 6 - start recounting my past mistake, that i really want to forget and not remember, these mistake are really hurtful, and he just say it out without even caring the impact it causes

* I always stop there, because the past memory is just to painful, to make me stay angry, I can always say the same thing to him (eg. no wonder you get bash like nearly everyday, back then), but I don't because it'll just make him angrier and it's painful to him.

anger level 7 - he use violence

* at least he didn't use violence for years now (since I always stops before he reach to this point) and the fact he work out in the gym, i can't really hope to beat him in turn of raw strength.

 

and if he's still angry tomorrow, he'll go to school the next day and say bad thing about me, so practically all the student in his year (exept for those that knows me), thinks I'm a bad guy and all, but I can handle that since all i need to do got left is finish my HSC and leave the school, but anyway, I want to know how to stop my brother from being sore loser, please don't say don't play with him, because usually, I like to play some multiplayer game.

[Shindig]

That's pretty lame of him. You're including him in your game (nobody has to play multiplayer on their own machine) and you're replacing his broken controller. I would stop including him: play online or get a single player game.

 

If he can't play nice and accept that losing is part of any game, he doesn't deserve to be enabled by having his controller replaced and to be included. (the new MegaMan 9 is single player)

 

I get that you don't want the solution to be "stop playing with him" but he's being a jerk and needs to learn that playing is a privilege and not a right. You're rewarding his bad behavior by including him when he behaved badly.

Edited November 1, 2010 by Shindig