My_Single_Life Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 (edited) I was married for about three years…. Then towards the end of that three years (and while I was pregnant with our second child) my husband started becoming stressed at work and verbally taking it out on me. He was always a little controlling throughout our marriage, but nothing that was “out of line” until this point. He also started talking to women off of the internet and sending pics back and forth. He became controlling with money and seemed to like being “in charge” of me. I admit that during this time I wasn’t the best wife, I had prenatal depression and I hated my life and myself…. So obviously I couldn’t show him love either. But that’s NOT to make excuses for him. When I found out about the internet relationships (there is no proof that he ever met anyone off the net or had sex with anyone) I took my two children and left him We’ve been separated for a year, living our own lives. At first it was very rough and we would fight about everything. And then we didn’t speak for about 4-6months…. For the past two months we’ve been talking on the phone and actually enjoying each other’s conversations. We recently met up for a week so he could hangout with our kids, it was the best time I have ever had with him. We have been talking ever since (he’s military and is stationed about 14 hours away from me He has truly seemed to have changed… and he’s made a lot of healthy changes in his life since we’ve left. We have even been toying with the idea of getting back together or maybe just dating/getting to know one another again. (we are still legally married for another month Because I would have to move up to where he is and up root my kids again I said that I really can’t take any chances on him becoming that same person so we both talked about and agreed upon Counseling He reimburses me for lawyer fees and he is willing to sign a prenuptial (or postnuptial) to make sure if anything happens again I would be financially covered because I’m a stay at home mom and part time college student. I would LOVE an outsiders take on all of this..... thoughts? thanks for your help Edited October 14, 2010 by My_Single_Life Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 A postnup is a good idea. I did it. I am not attorney and only familiar with what I could do in MY state. The terms on a post-nup have to be pretty much within the limits of the divorce law in your state. By "terms" I am not talking dollar amounts...but more whats legal to ask for & whats not. So...you will want child support and thats a given. You also want spousal support and I dont think you will have a problem with that but will need to specify the length of time that is to be paid and the terms of that. By "terms" it means like: Spousal support for 2 years as long as you are a student, not remarried, not working. As to the lawyers fees...I dunno. A post nup is a good idea, but will not absolve you of the risk involved in a marriage contract. Link to post Share on other sites
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