SlevinKalebra Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 Before anything is said yes I am making plans to meet a lawyer. Separated from my wife two months ago. Two weeks ago, she moved her second husband "scott" back in with her. This was the same pattern as when her and scott broke up, only I was in her shoes. She is a very pathetic individual and this does not surprise me in the least. Scott and her broke up because he had a quirky habit of getting drunk, blacking out, and beating her. Now he lives with my daughter and I am not comfortable, obviously, with the arrangement. If you haven't read the posts on her son I found a journal he wrote which read "I will never innapropriately touch my sister." To which Social Services was contacted and non to my shock they did nothing. Then two weeks ago when she came home to me she was extremely irritated from her laborial apex all the way down. Her mother claimed it was because I did not wipe her well three days ago. Another question here, is a rash that high in the genetalia area even possible from lack of wiping? The house is dangerous and unstable and litigation seems to be my only course of action, but to have a child removed especially from the mother I am 99.9% positive there has to be a history of broken bones or obvious and severe sexual abuse. Which I will not wait for. I am concerned about the financial issue of hiring a lawyer. I am already 50k in the hole, working two jobs, and going to school. I don't even know where to find the money for this. Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 If you rely honestly think your daughter is in danger spend every penny you have trying to get her out of that situation. It sounds like a nightmare. Know that your money and time and tears may make NO difference but you have to try and try again. Then leave it in your attorney's hands. Link to post Share on other sites
2sure Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 This is not right. I agree with your assessment of the situation, but wish I knew differently. I'm wondering...you know I think there is an organization called : Father's Rights. Do a google. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 I agree with the above posters.. Would like to add though.. do you use my bubble or bubble bath when she bathes at your house ? Bubble baths can reek havoc on a little girls private areas and cause them to turn red and hurt caused by a yeast infection.. Link to post Share on other sites
porter218 Posted October 14, 2010 Share Posted October 14, 2010 This breaks my heart to read!! I have a baby girl about to turn 2 in a couple weeks and I know I would go for full custody if it were me. You should contact a family crisis center or something asap. Try to enlist all the help you can...I just can't understand why your x isn't as concerned as you are. I think the family crisis center for your local area should be able to help you find all the legal help possible. This is an emergency situation that should be treated as such. Take care of that sweet baby:love: Link to post Share on other sites
fooled once Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 Before anything is said yes I am making plans to meet a lawyer. Separated from my wife two months ago. Two weeks ago, she moved her second husband "scott" back in with her. This was the same pattern as when her and scott broke up, only I was in her shoes. She is a very pathetic individual and this does not surprise me in the least. Scott and her broke up because he had a quirky habit of getting drunk, blacking out, and beating her. Now he lives with my daughter and I am not comfortable, obviously, with the arrangement. If you haven't read the posts on her son I found a journal he wrote which read "I will never innapropriately touch my sister." To which Social Services was contacted and non to my shock they did nothing. Then two weeks ago when she came home to me she was extremely irritated from her laborial apex all the way down. Her mother claimed it was because I did not wipe her well three days ago. Another question here, is a rash that high in the genetalia area even possible from lack of wiping? The house is dangerous and unstable and litigation seems to be my only course of action, but to have a child removed especially from the mother I am 99.9% positive there has to be a history of broken bones or obvious and severe sexual abuse. Which I will not wait for. I am concerned about the financial issue of hiring a lawyer. I am already 50k in the hole, working two jobs, and going to school. I don't even know where to find the money for this. I am familiar with social services. Unfortunately, many times, there isn't enough "evidence" for a FULL investigation. Many times, words aren't nearly enough - they DO need 'proof' of accusations. Call your local bar association. Call local lawyers and see who is willing to take on a pro bono case. Call legal aid. Keep calling until you can get someone to talk to you so you can plead your case. I cannot emphasize enough - DOCUMENT everything - from the drop off/pick up times to words spoken (and even have a phone you can make recordings on when you pick up / drop off your daughter. I am undecided on whether it would be a good idea to put your ex on NOTICE that you ARE going after her for custody -- maybe that will wake her up so she gets the drunk out of the house. Get your hands on anything related to prior domestic violence on Scott - police reports, hospital reports, etc. If you rely honestly think your daughter is in danger spend every penny you have trying to get her out of that situation. It sounds like a nightmare. Know that your money and time and tears may make NO difference but you have to try and try again. Then leave it in your attorney's hands. Ditto. Ditto. I also agree that bubble baths are NOT good for any kids -- even boys can get infections/rashes from them (happened with my son). I wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Clep Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 I think it would be a good idea to take your daughter to the doctor every time you notice something wrong. If she does have an infection she can get treated and if she is being abused there is a record. Try to get a pro bono lawyer or legal aid. I would suggest to do your research well for a legal aid lawyer. You will have to probably spend a great deal of time on the phone but she is worth it. I would also look up agencies that specialize in the rights of fathers. I have a friend who has gone through one of them and they have done wonders for him. Maybe get the info through the local courthouse, family law center or google it as well. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SlevinKalebra Posted October 17, 2010 Author Share Posted October 17, 2010 How do I go about finding a pro bono lawyer? I also may have another ally. Her parents were going to disown her when they were together. I am looking at ways to bring them in. That may resolve the issue of Scott but I still need to worry about her kid and her she has shown a pattern of horrible mothering. I first need to get the parent that decides the school. As she is most likely trying to move 2 and a half hours away and since she will be with me monday through wednesday (according to current decree, but hopefully changing to more after all is said and done) it would make sense that I am the parent which would decide the school. But I wonder if living with my parents until I get back on my feet would cause issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Clep Posted October 17, 2010 Share Posted October 17, 2010 Start calling lawyers and present your case. Is there currently any orders through the courts? Link to post Share on other sites
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