affair? urgent!! (long)

[verystupid]

please dont mind my bad english

 

i think its best to tell you the whole story so its easier to understand

first starting with our background:

my family has four members: mom, dad, younger brother, me

-my mother is a housewife, a little bit extreme, but quite okay

-i see my dad as a hard working man, but he really lacks feelings

-my brother is still in primary school, very emotional and spoiled,

most time a sissy

 

5 years ago my father and i moved over here and my mom and

brother stayed at our hometown.

 

my father is always working...at the beginning, he always picked me

up after school and i stayed at his office until we had dinner together

at his friends home, and after that we would head back home, after

some tv we would go to sleep.

 

a year later, he wouldnt pick me up personally everyday, but send his

co-workers. after dinner he would bring me home, but sometimes he

went back to his office to work.

 

the next year, he wouldnt eat with me everyday, but disappear to

places i dont know, and he didnt come back home until i was

asleep.

 

then, my mother and brother came over here, we had dinner at

home, but he still went to work almost everyday after dinner.

 

 

starting last year, he just comes back for dinner 2 days a week, and

never sleeps at home, maybe 2-5 times a month.

 

my parents have been married over 20 years, so their relationship

has already cooled. still, my brothers very young and needs a family,

and my mother cant both work AND do the household. she already

had suspected him doing bad things outside for months, but i didnt

really believe it......

 

i was really worried if it might be true, and i tried to tell myself that it

wasnt, but today i have changed my mind.

 

my father usually doesnt let anyone in this family touch his mobile

phone.

today i wanted to take some pics, but my mobile phones camera

resolution (correct?) is too low, so i borrowed his. after taking them, i

went to check if everything is alright. at that time i noticed 5 photos,

they were in order a boy about 2 or 3 years old, a woman about 30-

45, the boy again twice and my father. the first two were taken 17

jul,and the other 3 on 31 jul. the strange thing is, i know his 3 sisters,

and no one looked like that. he didnt go back to our hometown at

those times, and he doesnt have other relatives over here. the other

thing is, my father usually doesnt let others take pics of him.

moreover, he wouldnt keep pics of himself. so why would he have a

photo of himself in his mobile phone? and who the heck are the

woman and the child.

 

this really gave me a shock...i think i already have an idea whats

going on, but i'm really dont know what i should do now. i dont really

know anything about him, and i really dont know that woman and the

child! i thought of telling my mother, but i'm afraid that would

just give her more stress and worries. i also cant tell any of my

friends... but i dont really know what to do...

 

could anyone please give me a hand? its really urgent.....

[scatterd]

I do not know how old you are but would you be affraid to tell your dad what you saw and who they are?

[Crazy4what]

if things are smooth right now, dont add stress to your mother. She probably knows.

[tinktronik]

OP tell your mother. This is not your burden to keep and it's not up to you to confront your father. Just let your Mom know what you saw and that it's bothering you. Your parents, the adults, can work the rest of what to do out.

[verystupid]

thanks much everyone...i've told my mom already and we're trying to turn things better...hope we're able to

[FanFan]

thanks much everyone...i've told my mom already and we're trying to turn things better...hope we're able to

 

Did your mom confront your dad? What did he say?