P1xie Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 I've been reading post about guys and Porns. I too and a woman that does believes that if a man is thinking of another women when he masterbates that he is cheating on her with his heart. I am not against porn I just feel that there is a time and place for it. If you love and care for someone and see that it is ripping her apart do you continue doing it? Is that love? I have been with my boyfriend for three years and have battled with him with porn (Not masterbation). He promises and promises that he will not have porn but I recently caught him again. I do believe in compromises and understand that men are visual creature so I agreed to allow him to videotape us. I have given him naked pictures of myself for when he felt the urge and I wasn't around. Not to get into details our of our sex life but as prudish as I am with Porn he says that I do everything except the lesbian scenes. I also have more of issue with Playboy (example) because he is looking at one girl and getting off on her as with a porno flick I feel it's more of the act that is getting him off. Right I hurt more of the fact that he lied and broke his promise than catching him watching a porn. He says he wants to be my friend and I asked him would you break your a promise to your friend or lie to them. Why am I different? I don't understand, I'm hurting so bad right now. I don't know if I should leave him or give him yet another chance. I love him but is he really showing me love? I told him if I found it again that would be it...if I don't keep to my word will this just worsen because he knows I'm weak? Please someone HELP Link to post Share on other sites
CarolineP Posted March 1, 2004 Share Posted March 1, 2004 Ask your man how he would feel knowing you masturbate to photos of firemen or hunky guys with large penises? Would he be ok knowing you're fantasizing and getting yourself off to photos of these men? If he says that doesn't bother him then suggest that both of you have a little party and bring your magazines and masturbate together - see what he says about that. Also ask him if he'd break out his porn and masturbate in front of you. Say "Can I watch you look at these women and get your rocks off?". It's highly unlikely he could do that in front of you. Tell him you'd love to share this experience and will bring your magazine of Men With Huge Erections with you so you can get off as well! Men think women don't do this sort of thing - it might get him to realize how it feels if he thinks of you looking at men (with big hard ons) and playing with yourself. I'm sure he'll ask "What...am I not good enough for you?". Some men don't get it until the tables are turned. Link to post Share on other sites
chill Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 personally, i don't think what he does by himself is any of your business. don't you ever have an unpure thought about anyone else? it is YOUR thought and PRIVATE. you wouldn't want someone else telling you how to think would you? leave him alone. mind your own business. it has NOTHING to do with his feelings for you. try not to be so controlling. sex is a complicated issue not necessarily related to love. Link to post Share on other sites
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