Ex boyfriends/Girlfriends return stories

[SithLord]

If u ever had an ex girlfriend of ex boyfriend who returned back into your lives, post it here! The purpose of this thread is to show people that 85% of Ex es return when you don't desire them or even concern yourself with their lives. Although that's that other percentage they may never return, the point is usually when they come back u dont care.

[Billie The Puppet]

I have had 2 ex's come back when I wasn't trying and my recent came back after a break only to end it a month later after using me.

 

1. P and I were together, My Friend S and her Friend A were together so we were dating couples of friends. After Girl Talk between P and A A decided to break of with S. After that S was devastated and convince me that P was no good. So I broke up with P even though I didn't want to I let my friend S get to me. A couple weeks go by NC and P contacted me and I told her I made a mistake and let a bro tell me what to do, we got back together but ended mutually shortly after

 

2. On and Off Girlfriend so that is pretty much ex's coming back , again final was mutual.

 

3. My recent ex' had a break in which we were in LC, got back together and she broke it off with me for good and has a new man now. <- This one I wanted back, so it just goes to show if you want them back all hope is lost.

[Oscar Wilde]

Dear Sith Lord,

 

totally agree with you man.

 

Bests regards,

 

Oscar.

[Leandro]

Well I can put down some stories. 2 of my ex's from high school tried to get back with me. One used me as a rebound so I dumped her, later the next year she tried to get back with me. The other dumped me, I don't remember why, and tried to get with me again a year later. In both situations I moved on and had feelings for other girls. We became friends but that was it.

 

My sister dated these two guys who tried to come back as well. One of them dumped her because he said he was a "hound dog" and would cheat on her, she was devastated but moved on and found her now bf. This summer that same boy texted her and asked if she was seeing anyone and she replied yes and he never replied after that. Another guy she dated dumped her, why? I really don't know. He went to the Navy and got married and now his wife is pregnant and he's texting my sister all of a sudden.

 

My mom said she use to date a guy back in High School and they went to prom together, the summer after that he ignored her and she thought it was over so she moved on. Later the next year he came back and tried to get with her, they did get back together but the trust was gone so she finished it.

[SithLord]

Great story guys so far!!!! My recent X I dump

And she went back to her boyfriend and slept with him, I couldn't be friends with her bc she kept throwing the guy in my face. I decided to move on and not contact her, if she comes back she comes back, she doesn't she doesn't. Have to set it and forget it

[selena_cat]

You have to be positive about it,if you want them back,which you have to be really careful bc if they were total jerks to begin just like mine..but never lose hope. Speak it and move on,speaking it means say and believe that they wil come back,make sure when they do that if they have more to offer than just friendship/crumbs etc. Have faith it will happen,like everyone says when you least expect it or care

[SithLord]

It shouldn't matter, life continues....can't leave your future to external forces. Me personally I'm not trying to think about it, she's the past....I wish she comes back one of these days, but it is not the way to think. U is what matters.

[chocolate_boy]

If u ever had an ex girlfriend of ex boyfriend who returned back into your lives, post it here! The purpose of this thread is to show people that 85% of Ex es return when you don't desire them or even concern yourself with their lives. Although that's that other percentage they may never return, the point is usually when they come back u dont care.

 

Depends what you mean by "returned", I'm back in touch with most of them and are now friends, I've never got back with an ex though. One who dumped me and broke my heart met me again randomly at a party 3 years later, we ended up making out then having sex at her place, not seen her since (18 months ago), my ex fiance recently told me she had second thoughts about us (8 years after we split) and maybe we should go on a date, she then changed her mind and said it could ruin our friendship.

 

I had my live-in ex ask me back 9 months later, but I said no, I'd moved cities and our relationship was abusive. A few of them are back in my life in some way, big or small, but I've never had a "second chance" as it were.

[Trovador]

Well, not really getting back, but after I made myself clear that I didn't want anything to do with my ex, not even being friends (although we still talked), she came back with a vengeance, she acted almost like the first days of our romance, she called me all the time (I never did) and started to get personal with me (asking things only a gf or a date would), this got worse the colder I felt and acted and I really didn't give a damn if she called or not and, of course, this showed, but she kept doing the same, showing too much interest in me, but I resented the long talks and having her as a friend because I really don't want her in my life anymore... I felt like I was wasting precious time (I was), also I felt like a fake, feigning interest when I couldn't care less...

 

So, a day we fought and without too much ado I said goodbye to her, forever... she said it was a pity, because she was going there again, and as I didn't understand the meaning of her words she said it again at the end of the convo, sort of "you'll be sorry because I was getting there again", and it showed...

 

I don't care, though. I don't want her to contact me at all. I don't want to see her and least of all, being near her.

 

As I said on another thread, it's like one of those Murphy's Law jokes: if you want your ex back, you must show fehaciently that you don't want them back...

 

It´s like they feel when you are being sincere...

[listen_to_me_please]

A ex of mine from highschool found me on myspace and contacted me about 8 years after the split. She said she never stop loving me and always wondered what happepn to me.

 

Another ex contacted me about the same time and also said she never stop loving me and she always felt like she wasn't good enough to be with me.

 

My most recent ex, the one whom was cheating on me and stringing me along as well as using me for finical support to which when I found out threw her out, cursed her out and then tried to get her back after about month or so to whom told me to basically **** off and never contact her again to which I spent the next few years recovering, moved cities and changed my phone number to eliminate all hope of her return. I haven't heard anything from her in about 2 and half years, oddly enough I still have dreams about her.

 

The ex after that, we dated for a while but I ended it, she found someone else, got pregnant with twins, had a abortion, cheated on her guy whom she got pregnaught with because she says he wasn't treating her right and doesn't feel any remorse about what she did because in her words "he was crying and said he was sorry", we remain friends today however she does not let me have sex with her and we call each other once every few months.

 

The ex after that, we dated for a while, I ended it, she stalked me for a few months then I assume found someone else. I contacted her a few months later, she doesn't pick up the phone and also deleted her entire face book account.

Edited October 18, 2010 by listen_to_me_please

[SithLord]

The reason I put this thread, naturally as humans beings, after a break up we want the other half to return to us. I recently came off a 3 year relationship and conflicting thoughts of her returning back after i left her. At the end it shouldnt matter and those thoughts shouldnt matter. That hope that she still has love for me, although she went back to her ex boyfriend she sleeping with. What matters is my happiness, because at the end when the time comes it doesnt matter.

[swfc_77]

i was with my GF for 2 yrs, quite a recent split 4 weeks. if you want to read it its here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=249380

 

im not feeling too bad at the moment, but i hope i never have to make to choice between taking someone back and letting them go, i was weak last time. my family and friends told me not too, but i did. 2 months later she walked out on me again.

 

problem is i cant get away from her, she lives close by.

 

some days are hard, some are good. but i will always regret taking her back after what she did.

[SithLord]

It'll get better, just vanish bro off until the night without a trace....

[Pipeline010]

with the exception of my HS girlfriend, every SINGLE one of my exes reached out to get me back.

 

ALL OF THEM.

 

By all i mean like 4-5 over the years. Almost all of them dumped me, and almost all of them cheated on me in the end.

 

I promptly told them to go F themselves.

 

(as tough as I sound, I'm now reconciling with my fiance who did the SAME g/d thing to me...bleh).

[SithLord]

Pipeline01 what were some of things u did that made them return? Did u vanish and moved on with life, kept in contact, everyone works differently.

[bleeg]

LOL!

All my ex's are married right after me. Kinda sad.

 

To be honest with you, I find a lot of people online have horrible horror stories about how they broke up.

 

My ex who broke up with me 3 months ago broke up with me because she wasn't happy anymore and I wish her nothing but the best. I started dating shortly after, was seeing 2 girls. My ex contacted me. I broke it off with the 2 girls, not because she contacted me but because they weren't panning out.

 

We'll see what happens now. As long as my ex is happy. I love her and she's been through a lot in her life and my biggest regret is I didn't notice this when with her.

[johnnynum18]

I registered just so i can give some hope to some of you guys. I used to come here and lurk after my breakup with my girlfriend of two years, hoping to see some stories of getting back with an ex, but it was almost always stories that left me with no hope.

 

First of all, i took the no contact at all approach after we split. I did end up seeing her for about two weeks (out of 8 months total we were not together) to help her with some school stuff but afterwards i cut contact again. She of course wanted to be friends, and to keep in touch but i couldn't heal this way. Also in my mind, was if she wanted to leave me then she doesn't deserve my friendship. She would contact me sometimes, wished me a happy birthday ect.. but i just wouldn't respond (even to tell her not to contact me), it hurt everytime i saw a message or missed call but i knew it was for the best.

 

Eventually she stopped trying (she did get a boyfriend), i tried to move on as well and start dating, then about 8 months later she started messaging me where it was obvious she was interested in getting back together. I thought about it for a couple days to decide if i was prepared to give her another chance. For the record, she was right to be upset at me at the end of the relationship for how i was treating her, but i didn't excuse her for not trying to let me know how i was affecting her, or for not choosing to work things out.

 

I chose to see her again, but first i made sure she knew she was wrong to breakup with me, that we discussed our issues we had with each other before we broke up, and that if we didn't work out this time, there would not be a next time. I told her we should date casually first as well before just jumping into anything. After about a month a half, we finally made it official and it's been about 3 great months.

 

First off, i'm happy we are back together as she was the only girl i could see myself with. I'm not going to lie and say there aren't times i feel really angry with her that she left me and even had a new boyfriend even though i also dated as well, but she seems genuinely sorry and either i accept it or break up with her.. but i'm choosing to give it another shot. I also accept the fact that this might not work out, and i'm prepared for that as well.

 

Any way for those of you waiting for an ex, i'd say no contact is the way to go. So you can heal and move on. If they do come back, even though it's exactly what you want.. be prepared to have feelings of resentment for them leaving you. Also, don't be a pushover and just take them back.. make them work for it, if they truly want you back it won't be an issue, and lastly, make sure before you get back together you talk about ALL the problems you've had with each other. Can't stress that enough as it will indeed become a problem once again.

[bleeg]

johnny nailed it right on. Congrats brother. Hope it works out.

[TLCbear]

Had 2 ex's try and come back. First one, I broke up with him. He kept calling and stopped by a couple of times to see me a couple of weeks after the breakup. Never took him back. Second one broke up with me, came back a year later, got back together, however he wanted to get married and I didn't, so the relationship ended. My most recent breakup, I broke up with him and he has recently called twice, doing NC right now, so not sure what will happen in the near future. Part of me want him back and part of me doesn't.

[SithLord]

I just tell myself they never coming back. I left my X and a month later she started sleeping with her x boyfriend and try to make me seem like the worse. I try to go back because of my ego, for all the wrong reasons and she wasnt having it bc she honeymooning at the moment. Like wow i HAD 3 YEARS WITH u and u turn around and do that quick.. I dont want to place hope inside my head, so i take the she isnt coming back route.

[alittlejaded]

Sometimes it is easier to trick yourself into thinking one way or the other, but you must believe that if it was meant to be that it will eventually happen. Should you wait around-- no, but don't think that you have to close the door on that possibility and throw away the key. However, still live your life because the woman/man of your dreams might just be around the corner.

 

Wow-- sometimes I wonder why God had to invent emotions, but I would rather feel love and loss then never to have experienced it at all. Easy to write this, but very hard to take my own advice-- I am human.

[SithLord]

The other guy being in the picture clouded everything lol

[pandagirl]

I registered just so i can give some hope to some of you guys. I used to come here and lurk after my breakup with my girlfriend of two years, hoping to see some stories of getting back with an ex, but it was almost always stories that left me with no hope.

 

First of all, i took the no contact at all approach after we split. I did end up seeing her for about two weeks (out of 8 months total we were not together) to help her with some school stuff but afterwards i cut contact again. She of course wanted to be friends, and to keep in touch but i couldn't heal this way. Also in my mind, was if she wanted to leave me then she doesn't deserve my friendship. She would contact me sometimes, wished me a happy birthday ect.. but i just wouldn't respond (even to tell her not to contact me), it hurt everytime i saw a message or missed call but i knew it was for the best.

 

Eventually she stopped trying (she did get a boyfriend), i tried to move on as well and start dating, then about 8 months later she started messaging me where it was obvious she was interested in getting back together. I thought about it for a couple days to decide if i was prepared to give her another chance. For the record, she was right to be upset at me at the end of the relationship for how i was treating her, but i didn't excuse her for not trying to let me know how i was affecting her, or for not choosing to work things out.

 

I chose to see her again, but first i made sure she knew she was wrong to breakup with me, that we discussed our issues we had with each other before we broke up, and that if we didn't work out this time, there would not be a next time. I told her we should date casually first as well before just jumping into anything. After about a month a half, we finally made it official and it's been about 3 great months.

 

First off, i'm happy we are back together as she was the only girl i could see myself with. I'm not going to lie and say there aren't times i feel really angry with her that she left me and even had a new boyfriend even though i also dated as well, but she seems genuinely sorry and either i accept it or break up with her.. but i'm choosing to give it another shot. I also accept the fact that this might not work out, and i'm prepared for that as well.

 

Any way for those of you waiting for an ex, i'd say no contact is the way to go. So you can heal and move on. If they do come back, even though it's exactly what you want.. be prepared to have feelings of resentment for them leaving you. Also, don't be a pushover and just take them back.. make them work for it, if they truly want you back it won't be an issue, and lastly, make sure before you get back together you talk about ALL the problems you've had with each other. Can't stress that enough as it will indeed become a problem once again.

 

I like this second chance story. Why? Because it shows that there is no way to navigate your way to a reconciliation. If it happens, it's going to happen, and all you can do is continue living your life to make YOU happy.

[Pipeline010]

@sith

 

to answer your question I got each of my exes to come back by letting them go (after they'd gone, that is. At first I begged them to stay, but after they walked that was enough for me).

 

You may not pick it up from my recent posts due to my recent situation but I'm a bit of a cocky ****. When they walked I took it as such a shocking affront and that they must be the dumbest chicks on earth. So although I took the time to mourn the loss of the relationship I never mourned them. Didn't take very long for me to realize I was better off.

 

I think that's the bullet that gets them every time...you KNOWING you don't need or want them. Every time one came back I truly couldn't give a ****, and they never got past the testing the waters stage of them trying to reconcile. I wasn't rude, but it was clear I wasn't having it and didn't need it.

 

My current situation was different. I couldn't let this one go, she's simply the great love of my life. Praise Santa Claus that we're working it out.

 

But to get a girl back that doesn't want you? If she REALLY doesn't want you then you need to KNOW (not fake!!) that she's not worth a damn. Problem is if you know that than you won't want her anyway.

[SithLord]

@Pipeline - Its crazy how people change with time. I use to be so cut throat before and not gave two **** about things. I drop her because of some many reasons and the finisher was when she got to big in weight, as a man i lose my attraction to her. I try working with her for over two year and 0 results. Again, I felt my judgment is clouded for the fact she ran back to her X boyfriend and is currently sleeping. I laugh because she makes him seem like the greatest thing in the universe lol and tired making me jealous referring to him as her friend every chance she got. For a women who said she doesn't love me no more etc cc..she still had harbor emotion. I'm upset with myself for opening contact again after my ego got of control..i currently have 5 days without contact..i had over a month without contact and then i opened. She likes to play basketball because she dealing with a rebound...At the end I didn't want it..Emotionally im fine, obviously i was with her 3 years so i think about her here and there. Again im programming my mind she isn't returning back to me, so in the event she doesn't. i wasn't surprise.