Girl doesn't want a relationship because she's moving

[originalusername]

Hello, I'm new. This looked like a good site to get an answer to my situation.

 

I have older woman I started seeing for about 3 weeks. The 1st week was just talking in person. She is almost 39 and I just turned 33. She has two kids one 17 one 9. She shown even further interest in me about two weeks ago complimented me etc. She suggested I get her # so we can talk. I like her. So we texted and she let it know up front when we 1st started talking that she didn't want a relationship because she is moving to a far away state at the beginning of June. I didn't say much to this and kind of side stepped it, but assumed this meant she just wanted to have fun... Ok don't have a problems with having fun.

 

So we eventually hang out. We were talking about music mentioning bands we like etc. At one point I say "Korn" for some reason she thinks I said "porn" and this started out funny but turned into a sexual conversation of sorts. We did nothing that night but agree we want to see each other again. Texted alot. We talked on the phone she mentioned past relationships and asked me question regarding relationships. If I cheated , what my longest relationship was etc.. which I found odd because she said she wasn't looking for a relationship but was asking questions regarding them. She complimented me more etc - as did I in return.

 

One night we talk and agree to see each Thursday which is just this last Thursday. She ends up coming over on Tuesday instead of Thursday because her youngest was at the fathers and we hang out watch a movie and previous conversations indicated that she would like something sexual. So we got sexual right after the movie. Great sex. She said she loved it. Talked about it the next day some about how she liked it how she wanted it again, and how were going to meet Thursday.

 

Some time around here she also mentions that she had a guy last year she was seeing for a bit say something about just "hanging out" and she found out from her oldest daughter that this means basically a **** buddy. So she told me she asked the guy about it and he said ya thats what he meant and she proceeded to tell him to drop her # and that was it. So this tells me she is looking for more than just sex and maybe even a relationship again even though she doesn't want a relationship!

 

So Thursday comes along we end up not hanging out because she was tired from staying up so many nights in a row and texted me at 12 am. Asked her if she wants to come over or vice versa but she says she has to get up early but we ended up talking for 3 hours till a little after 3. It got sexual at the end and she expressed her desire to come see me sexually and how she should have just came over.

 

Friday comes along we were supposed to hang out but we don't because she ends ends up falling asleep around 11 pm when we were going to hang out because she stayed up too late the previous night.

 

Finally we hang out on Saturday. We were going to watch a movie with her daughter but her daughter fell asleep so we end up just renting some movies and watching them at her place. We were close. kissed. touched etc but said we can't do anything because her daughter was upstairs in the room next to hers and her oldest daughter could walk in anytime.

 

She actually picked me up that time so she drops me off but we end up talking for an hour in her car and she mentions she is not sure if she can do the whole sex and seeing each other too thing because there would be feelings and whats going to happen when she moves in June. I mention some things that we like -- she seemed good with the idea of seeing me again for a movie Monday but hinted not to expect anything more. Now she had briefly mentioned something like this before we had sex the 1st time-- about how having sex and hanging out could be difficult since their could be feelings and she is moving in june. She also revealed that her last bf was the guy who said we could "hang" . So she was under the impression that he was her boyfriend but to him she was just someone to hang with. So many different messages here. I like her so I'm trying to figure out the best tactic. Is she looking for me to give her a reason i wont fall for her so we can just hang and have sex? What is she trying to say. She seems to send mixed messages. I would not mind hanging out and being sexual -- I dont like the idea of hanging out and not having sex ever. But, I would be open to a relationship possibly down the road if it wasn't for her saying she didnt want one because she is leaving in June.. So what do you think is going on? What would be the best route to take to get this more sexual and hang a little? Thanks in advance!

[Shindig]

It sounds like you want different things: she wants a "bunk mate" and you want a relationship.

 

I can't recommend chasing her in good conscience. Find someone who wants what you want. You'll save yourself a lot of anguish and expedite finding someone who will make you happy.

[jerbear]

In all honesty, she wants one thing and you want another. You're sticking around and she knows she is not.

 

I suggest you enjoy her company, make it sexual and when she moves in June, she moves.