KennyNicholas Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 Hello im a little lost on what to do exactly with a girl whom i work with. Shes the same age as me shes nice, pretty and shes spanish but has a fairly good understanding of my english and the english language around her. Im a chef and shes a waitress so i see her most nights in the kitchen during service and we laugh and joke sometimes like you do. She lives in at the hotel i work at along with all the other people from different countrys. Friday and saturday i normally hook up with the people from work all of different backgrounds (spanish, polish, lituanian, you get the idea) and we all go out for a drink sometimes go clubbing to which i tend to walk the guys back to the hotel just to make sure there all alright to get back and then walk myself home i dont live to far away. My "relationship" (so to speak) with the girl is fairly good she says she enjoys talking to me and enjoys having a laugh when we go out, there was one weekend where i sat at the bar with just her and i bought her a few drinks got talking to her getting to know her some more was good. There is a few minor setbacks and this is why i dont know wether to take my chances or just give up, she says she still loves her ex bf back in spain and she misses her home town very much and how she wants love over here, i also believe she is quite friendly with one of the other lads from work due to the fact hes spanish, i believe from what i heard (could possibly be rumours) that shes having sex with him as a sort of "friends with benefits" arrangement. Any advice would be great and thanks for reading. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 she says she still loves her ex bf back in spain and she misses her home town very much Believe her. how she wants love over here, This is the female mind-f*ck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KennyNicholas Posted October 18, 2010 Author Share Posted October 18, 2010 I do belive her, i feel somewhat sad for her because shes in an unfamiliar place, shes been here a month and although shes made friends such as myself i cant help but think she wants more and for someone to step up and i dont know if this other spanish lad wants to or just wants to have sex with her. I get the mindf*ck =/ get it alot. Cheers for the fast reply, anymore advice would be greatly accepted thank you Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted October 18, 2010 Share Posted October 18, 2010 In the guise of 'intimacy', she reveals truths. These truths, while seemingly open and transparent, are designed to have an emotional effect. This is how women build things, just like you use tools in a toolbox. Women use their tools to work on your psyche and emotions. I remember a similar situation happening once, though a lot more emotional and physical. A LS lady commented 'you know it doesn't mean anything, right?' and I responded 'sure, it's just a situational ego-feed'. A woman using her tools to get her ego fed. No harm. No prejudice. Another man will definitely feed it. If you can play her game an remain emotionally detached, you might enjoy the tools. Good tools build a great rollercoaster Link to post Share on other sites
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