nikki Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 My bf and I have been together for almost six years. However, a few months ago, he developed a friendship with one of his female customers. We have all hung out a few times. Unfortunately, he and I took a break ( my decision) and he got closer with her. They hung out alone and confided in each other. She had a bf at the time, but she is now single, and my bf and I aren't technically back together (but we might as well be b/c we still act like it). However, there were a few times when I caught him lying about things that had to do with her. I told him that I felt really insecure with them hanging out and he told me that he understood what he needed to do. I thought that would be not to talk to the girl, but he says that he just doesn't hang out with her anymore. The other day, she stopped by his house to say hi. She calls him at his work with her problems, and just stuff like that. I am convinced that she likes him and is trying to win him over, in spite of knowing that I am still around. She even told him that he needed to get over me. He said that if it bothered me that much, he would stop talking to her. But as our argument went on, he made comments that threw me off. Stuff like, " Well, she was there for me when you left me. She's a good person to talk to, etc." He says that they're only friends, but the only image I have of them is the two of them sitting in her car alone in his driveway. Now, he's mad at me for even telling him that I don't want them hanging out anymore. I just don't want them to hang out alone. Am I over reacting? Can a guy who is in a relationship be friends with a girl who is single? Does it sound like she may be interested in him, and him interested in her? What should I do about this situation? Do I have the right to tell him to stop hanging out with her? That is what I want, but I don't know if that was right for me to even say. please help........there's so much more to this story, but i just gave the basics. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 I work a job where there are predominantly men around me all day. Many of them have become like brothers to me. BUT....if one of them had a wife or a girlfriend who was troubled by our friendship.....I would expect them to be man enough to do what is right towards the woman they love. Maybe the joking will stop, no lunches together, certainly no after-work beer.....HE should call the shots depending on what his wife/girlfriend is comfortable with. I will ALWAYS respect that. If HIS female friend doesn't feel the same way....she is NOT a friend. She is COMPETITION. Link to post Share on other sites
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