Any ideas anyone?

[always wondering]

I've asked this before in other forums. It really bothers me that even though I think I know the answer, I still would like other's opinions.

 

There's a very good friend in my life. Simply put, we get along great. He phones me every single night. Sometimes twice. Even though we've gone to a couple of places together, we haven't dated. We've known each other very well for about four years now. He worries about my being safe. He knows when something's bothering me. If he doesn't call one night, he'll explain why even though I never ask. Even though I do not know any details, he's been through bad relationships. So have I but I have told him about mine.

 

The question? I care more about him every day. Am I so blind that I can't see that it's a real possibility he feels the same about me? I know men have a different way of expressing their feelings than women do but no matter how hard I try, I can't read his mind. Anybody out there see something I don't? Does this sound like I may have something to look forward to? This girl will wait forever if I have to but I don't want to see this situation wrong. He is so very worth everything to me.

 

Thanks

[quankanne]

you might hold the place of beloved sibling in his esteem, which could explain why he's so open with you and stays in constant communication.

 

unless there is an explicit pronouncement of him loving you as more than a friend/relative, don't hang your hopes on this fellow. It really does sound like he loves you like a sibling.

[Cee]

I think the boundaries of your friendship are blurred and you are reading his actions as romantic overtures. The way he's acting is like a boyfriend by calling you every night.

 

That happened to me once with a friend I had for two years. We talked too much & spent too much time together. It was like a platonic BF/GF thing. Eventually, things came to a head when I revealed my romantic feelings. He said that he wasn't interested and that we had an unhealthy attachment and severed the friendship. We went NC for 2 years and over the past 2 years rebuilt the friendship. We almost never talk on the phone & see each other maybe once every month or two.

 

It was devastating to lose my friendship at first, but it is more appropriate now. He's not my pretend boyfriend anymore. He's simply my friend.

[always wondering]

I appreciate what I've read so far but I think I may have left something out. Others at work have told me that this guy cares about me very much. He's not a talker and he doesn't trust anyone but he sure talks to me. Last night he called twice. I know he trusts me by the things he has told me. I praise him constantly and even though he tells me it isn't necessary, he brings up what I've said over and over. He's really been good to me. This is why I'm confused. I've had so many tell me to give it time. He'll surprise me one day in a good way.

 

Thanks again for helping me read a man's mind!