curious49 Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 What do you all think? Would like to hear from those left in shock. Is it better or "easier" for those left to get an explanation about why things didn't work out and offer to remain friends OR is it better left unsaid? Do we really want to know all of the reasons? ALSO: Has friendly humor ever been tried? Did it end ok? I know it depends on how serious the relationship was but what if it was of short duration and not too serious but "budding"? Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Breaking up is always awkward but I prefer to know the reason or reasons. Yes, they will be very painful but the bottom line is always that we were not the right person. The other person may not know exactly how to say this. If it was because of problems which were not able to be resolved through effective communication, that's a good reason to break up also. I find that in a great cases, it's simply because for the dumper there is no longer any chemistry or interest...nothing to keep them there. It's not their fault, it's just the way it works out. Link to post Share on other sites
bbfbb18 Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I definitely would like to know the reason. What if it was a misunderstanding? If you sit down and talk, maybe you can work through it. If you don't sit down and talk and you've invested a lot of time and energy into the relationship, what a waste to not know what the reason is. Yes, you should defenitely find out the reason. Second, I don't know about humor. If you have a good relaitonship, sure! Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 What if the reason is, "I'm bored" or "I am sick of you" or "I want to find someone with larger breasts/penis"? That's where I would prefer NOT to get detail. Of course, it depends on the relationship and the people. If both are resilient, and good friends, and the relationship did not mean a lot to either one, sure, a little light humor might work. But if you're ripping someone's heart out of their ribcage, humor would be cruel. And explanations would also be cruel. "You're boring", "I've outgrown you", "You're no good in bed". ?? DON'T tell me why you're dumping me... Please. Link to post Share on other sites
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