dmoore Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 a new co-worker and I work for the same company but different locations. i met her in person once and we chatted for a bit and had some common interests but nothing happened after that. i got her email and referenced I’d follow up on some work stuff but never did anything. she then emailed me about a work issue out of the blue and mentioned something that made me realize who she was from our only face to face conversation. i thought she was cute and would like to ask her out – but I will not be able to see her in a casual work environment again, only through email or if I called her directly at her office location. is it unprofessional to ask her out via email? I figure calling would be worse since it could put her in an awkward position over the phone w/ other co workers around. if email is OK, should i make it more casual and mention getting together but not directly asking her out? should I do it separate from a business related email? we just don't have to interact too much - (1 – 3 times a month via email would seem to be how much we’d need to email for work) Link to post Share on other sites
NEONINK Posted March 2, 2004 Share Posted March 2, 2004 Pick up the phone and call her. just do it. "Would you like to grab a bite to eat sometime?" Everybody eats lunch or dinner. If she says no, she will at the very least know you are interested. If she says yes, then good. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 First find out if your company has a "no-dating" policy so the both of you don't get into some kinda mess - especially if you're using company e-mail to hook it up. I wouldn't say don't date if your company does prohibit dating, but just be discreet about it if such a policy exists. Even if there isn't a prohibition on dating, I wouldn't actually ask her out via the company e-mail. The company wants to try and maintain a professional atmosphere and won't appreciate your using their email to play the love connection. The best way to do it might be to invite her to coffee after work but don't do it in a way that's suggestive of a date for the aforementioned reasons. Just drop her a short line sometime saying that you'd like to meet her at Starbucks after work one day when she's not too busty, errrrrrrrrrr, busy. Good luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dmoore Posted March 3, 2004 Author Share Posted March 3, 2004 should i do it within a business related email or in a separate email? Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Separate email, but keep it light and casual, with maybe a business spin: "I'd like to hear sometime how you folks over at Y Division handle customer requests. Let's have lunch on Tuesday and you can tell me all about it." If you have to see someone from work, it's great that they're at a different location. That reduces the chances of a backfire. Good luck, and pat yourself on the back right now for not letting fear of rejection slow you down. The fear is there - name it, acknowledge it, tell it to get lost - and go send your email, or better yet, pick up the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
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