bleeg Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 After 3 months of no contact. My girlfriend called me and asked me where I stand. Have I moved on? After we both made it clear we haven't moved on. We decided to start slow and see if the chemistry is still there. We address the issues of the break-up. We reflected and all that jazz. This is coming from a girl who told me she can't be friends with me and me and her will NEVER happen again. LOL! Thank you no contact rule. You saved my ass. Link to post Share on other sites
strength-abounds Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Congrats dude. Take it slow and wish you the best of luck. Link to post Share on other sites
Jayerjay Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Congrats! She is lucky you were still around and hadn't moved on! Link to post Share on other sites
Billie The Puppet Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Congrats, treat this relationship like a 100% brand new one. I think it's a little premature to post the instant these things happen because they take time themselves my first reconciliation lasted 4 weeks but engagement was mentioned and we were going to do it. It broke because she found another, lied about it, my accusation of her cheating was founded correctly but wrong person. Yet I still have feelings for her and miss her. All I'm saying is be very careful and really make sure the past issues have been addressed. Link to post Share on other sites
collegeguy_24 Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 you lucky son of a Bitch. I am jealous of you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 21, 2010 Author Share Posted October 21, 2010 You know what? I totally understand. It is premature. But I wanted to post and let everybody know it is possible. I've been browsing this forum and all I said is bad news. I sucked it up. I didn't stalk. I didn't call. I went through hell. I "kinda" moved on. I've been seeing girls and keeping myself busy. I've also been working on myself and improving myself. Bottom line, it is possible. She would now have to earn my trust back. Let's see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
theone11 Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Good for you man! How do you feel about it? Keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 21, 2010 Author Share Posted October 21, 2010 I'm taking her on a day date tomorrow, we both have the day off. Honestly, it's still surreal. I can't believe she swallowed her pride and called me and told me what she did. It's all about taking it slow at this point and playing my cards right and not just jumping in again. If I play my cards right and it doesn't work out, I know full well it wasn't me. Link to post Share on other sites
TomerT Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 Kudos bro ! It gives a lot of hope for others waiting for their 2nd chance. Please keep us updated (if you have time . I think we all would like to learn something from this, including how to take it after she crawling back... Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 I wish you well. I also wish my ex would see the light. Definately keep us in the loop. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetstuff Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 I love that kind of ending. I really hope it works for you two! Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 So when she called you how did the conversation go? Did you pick up right away or did she leave a message for you to call her back? It's interesting that she reached out to you, and were my ex to reach out to me I'm not sure how I'd respond. I miss her and love her, but at this point I'm afraid I'd be the one to come off as cold so as not to get hurt again. Link to post Share on other sites
Hhhh Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 Best of luck dude I'm happy for you I love this community we suffer together and when someone makes it out of hell we support them Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 22, 2010 Author Share Posted October 22, 2010 She texted me. She said can you call me? I need to ask you a question. I said i'll call after work. She said i'll be busy by then because she has a late shift. She said she'll call tomorrow. I said let's get together tomorrow for a coffee. She said sure. 3 hours later, she called. So I went out with her today and all was going well. At the end of the date, she said she still harbored resentment toward me. She still feeled anger and it won't work out. I tried. I regret nothing. Now I guess it's time to move on? Link to post Share on other sites
Gt.ooh Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 Time to move on. Sorry it didn't work man. All the best, we're all here. Link to post Share on other sites
Trovador Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 I guess you told her you still had feelings for her. It's typical of exes. They contact just to know if the other party is still under their influence. When they satisfy their monstruous egoes, they go aways as if nothing... But sometimes they want to see if we have changed. When they realize we jumped at their mere suggestion of a possible chance and that we are still needy and emo, they leave, thanking God for not being with us... Sorry, man, but you'll be fine... Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted October 23, 2010 Share Posted October 23, 2010 She texted me. She said can you call me? I need to ask you a question. I said i'll call after work. She said i'll be busy by then because she has a late shift. She said she'll call tomorrow. I said let's get together tomorrow for a coffee. She said sure. 3 hours later, she called. So I went out with her today and all was going well. At the end of the date, she said she still harbored resentment toward me. She still feeled anger and it won't work out. I tried. I regret nothing. Now I guess it's time to move on? So what then was her point in contacting you? What does she resent you for? I guess it does sound like she was baiting you to see if she still had you. I'm starting to realize just how lucky i am that my ex doesn't think about me. At least that was she doesn't care one way or the other if she still has power over me... which of course she does. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 23, 2010 Author Share Posted October 23, 2010 She contacted me saying where I stand? Have I moved on? I replied "have you heard from me in the last few months?" But I told her I'm slowly moving on. I'm keeping busy. I'm doing my thing. She said can we take things slow and try again because she feels she prematurely broke up with me. I said I can try. Secretly I had my hopes up. Literally the second we got into the car, she said "I was hoping we would've had a stronger connection" and then she went into her being scared. I didn't yell, I didn't cry. I told her in a calm manner to never contact me again and I don't want to be friends. It was a looooooong ride home in traffic but she poured it out, she balled crying, I dropped her off at her car in the parking lot we met and she sat in her car crying for at least a good 5-10 mins (the amount of time it took me to get out of the traffic in the lot). The way I see it? She'll be back when all the resentment is gone. Question is, will I? Link to post Share on other sites
TomerT Posted October 23, 2010 Share Posted October 23, 2010 Thanks for sharing with us your experience. What I learned from it - that I will never answer her (my x) questions first, until I am not 100% sure that she genuinely has answered all of mine. It will be my pre-condition to even meet with her in the first place. I reckon, otherwise what's the point ? Just to let her feel good that you are still "somewhere around", waiting and hoping...F**k her. "Bleeg" --> Why do you think she cried if this is what she wants ? She told you that she is not want you in her life. So why she cried ? It's like beating yourself and crying cause it hurts. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 23, 2010 Author Share Posted October 23, 2010 Her explaination was that she really wanted it to work. She really thought her feelings of resentment were gone but it was still there and it didn't help that i've changed for the better and she resented me because I didn't do it while in the relationship. She told me she still wants me in her life, to which I laughed and said no thank you. Link to post Share on other sites
strength-abounds Posted October 23, 2010 Share Posted October 23, 2010 F****** women! Ever since Eve gave Adam a little a** to eat the apple women have been giving us men the shaft. Your better off dude. Link to post Share on other sites
Author bleeg Posted October 24, 2010 Author Share Posted October 24, 2010 Funny story. She text me this morning telling me she's sucking it up because it can work and she loves me and does see more then a future with me and begged me back. I told her to earn my trust back. Link to post Share on other sites
tbird509 Posted October 24, 2010 Share Posted October 24, 2010 tread on carefully,at this point i wouldnt trust her Link to post Share on other sites
Gt.ooh Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 I like this story, it's applying everything people say on here..about playing hard to get with them. And making them want YOU. I'll be sure to keep checking in bleeg. Keep us all updated. Link to post Share on other sites
rimjhim Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 If you really love her, forget about the past and then talk to her cool headed, things will definitely work out. i had kind of similar situation with my girlfriend on site Goodwizz but then it is totally fine. And now its going all fine Link to post Share on other sites
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