tim0208 Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Hi...sorry for my bad English:) here is my story... Me and my gf are from different countries. I lived with her in her country then I left. We both loved each other, I left due to other reasons. She gave me 2nd chance and waited for me 1 year. I didnt come, though I love her very much. I thought I would be over her in time cause it was difficult for me to live there in her country. By some reasons she couldnt leave home. But its almost 2 years and I still love her like in the beginning. I didnt have any other girl. We talk on phone sometimes. Its true love and it is stronger than other problems so I decided to fight for it. We didint see each other for almost 2 years so I offered her to meet and then to see how all would turn. She refuses to meet and says that she must get over me. I understand she is afraid to go through it all again and doesnt trust me. But I know she loves me still. Sometimes I want just go to her without telling her, but I respect her choice. What to do?? To go despite her wish not to see me or give up my love. She is my true love and I regret so much I didnt go to her when I got a chance. Am I worth 3rd chance...? And how should I fight for our love not making her scared.... Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 CAn you see yourself spending the rest of your life over there? Because that's what it's going to take..... Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim0208 Posted October 21, 2010 Author Share Posted October 21, 2010 I believe that people can live everywhere if they have who to live for...and want it. Here in my country I feel empty without her.. Just I am not sure if I will get another chance after almost 2 years without seeing each other... Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 21, 2010 Share Posted October 21, 2010 Are you sure that emptiness is not coming from somewhere else? This is very important. Are things OUTSIDE of this past relatioship having a negative effect on your life? I've moved halfway across the world to be with the one I loved and it didn't work out. It took a year to get myself back on track mentally, financially and emotionally. Are you prepared to deal with this? Has she shown you any indication that she would be open to this? What would make this time different? Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim0208 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Share Posted October 22, 2010 We didnt have any problems in our relations as persons. All was just perfect. The only problem was my adaptation to new place. I just had to stay longer and get used to new country and culture. And I believe I can do this. I think she is afraid to get hurt if I leave her again. So she tells me to move on. She didnt have any other person in these 2 years just like me. So I believe she still loves me. I wrote her a letter a week ago and told her how I feel about it and that I am ready to make it. Waiting for the answer. But I have so less hope. Why it didnt work for you? Was it because of relationships of because other reasons? Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted October 22, 2010 Share Posted October 22, 2010 A lot of things that had nothing to do with distance. She always thought I was going to leave her, so she had to leave me before I left her. It was hard for me to adapt over there as well. You haven't seen her in two years, a lot can happen in that time, people change. There was a time in my relationship with my ex where she felt that I wasn't serious about our relationship. I was in America and she was 6000 miles away. It was long distance and we knew that eventually someone was going to make a move. It was me, I got on a plane and proposed. It was like something out of a movie. Right there on the beach she said yes. But that's the easy part. Eventually, the honeymoon phase wears off and the relationship starts, that's where the true test of love is measured. It's a dangerous game that you are playing here. Are you working in your home country? Do you have something set up over in her country as far as work? Are you ok with depending on her for a while? I thought I was until it all got thrown back in my face. These are all things you need to think about. My breakup was awful and I could honestly say I wasted a year of my life beating myself up and not opening myself to anyone or anything. Now i'm with someone new, who I love. Sure, the relationship isn't as "exciting" as my ex, but it's more stable than I could've asked for. If she's open to seeing you, go for it. Otherwise, you might be beating yourself up for a long time. Just remember that you are going to have to show her that you are completely committed to her. I would wait for her response first...there's a million ways she could respond. Let us know what she says... Link to post Share on other sites
Author tim0208 Posted October 22, 2010 Author Share Posted October 22, 2010 Thank you:) Yes, I am working in my home country and I was there before I know what to expect. And I am ready. The only problem is if she still wants it. Maybe in 2 years her feelings have faded... Even if she still has them I know she is afraid to be hurt again and may say no. But I will wait:) Link to post Share on other sites
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