Libra6255 Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 How many people out there who are single constantly get asked by others why they don't have a partner/spouse? WHY does anyone have to have someone in their life - can't we just be single and be ok with it? As a woman in my 40's I feel more pressure now to be married or have someone. I am widowed with one child and I actually enjoy my solitude and my life. I'm focused on my son and have friends and date every now and then but the men I seem to get involved with end up smothering me and I dump them. But at the same time I feel society pressures women (and men) to have a mate or there is something wrong with them. I not only have to deal with coworkers who think I should be married but being a young widow on top of that - some people just treat me weird. I try to not worry about what others think but its like people think you're odd or there is something wrong with you if your not married. I went thru trauma losing my husband then I remarried someone who was abusive and divorced him - my last relationship the guy wanted to get married after four months and I just hate the PRESSURE! Can't anyone just date and be single anymore? (I sound like a committment phobic man - most women are dying to get married!!!). Although life hasn't been easy for me raising a child alone as a widow - it's been peaceful and I've managed. It's when I'm in a relationship is when things become chaotic or I'm pressure to hurry up and get married. Does anyone else feel society pressures people to be married? Even companies seem to prefer people who are married to those who are single because they look at married people as being more stable. Why is that? I'm just curious if anyone else notices this. Link to post Share on other sites
likemind Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I agree with you! I was legally separated for almost 20 yrs because I wanted to make sure I couldn't remarry. Then decided to clean up loose ends and got divorced. Got married about 1 1/2 yrs. later. I went through a terribly depressing period after wedding. Still pretty depressed. I think I need to separate again. Some of us just aren't cut out for it, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Please don't think badly of people who always ask you about a man in your life. If I'm correct most of these people are in a happy marriage and are probably thinking that you could be as happy as them if you were in a relationship like their's. That's the problem not all relationships are happy and healthy ones. And if your single friends are always asking about a man in your life they are probably just looking for gossip b/c they have none of their own. As for companies thinking married people are more stable they better shake their heads and do an about face, with todays divorce rate I don't think that to many marriages are stable. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Do you watch Sex and the City? Link to post Share on other sites
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