Learned some new stuff about the ex...

[Username37]

Hey LS UN37 here...ya know, the HS boy..

 

I think my story is known by now, and if not, here's a break down. Broke up May 16th after a stupid fight, tried getting her back, she strung me along and tried to use me as an emotional tampon, treated me like garbage after calling me her "best friend", found out she got with a guy only 3 WEEKS after we broke up, sent her a second chance letter without knowing about the hookup, and been on NC since June 20th (ironically the first day we spoke to each other 2 years ago). She broke NC 4 times, twice on my birthday, one text asking for friendship and she tried skyping me.

 

Anyways, to the topic. Today, I volunteered at my old elementary school and I run into a family friend who is also okay friends with my ex girlfriend. They both work in crew for my school's theater and well....my ex girlfriend opened up a little to her.

 

My ex girlfriend didn't hook up with one guy....she hooked up with 5 GUYS. And she doesn't even regret any of them. And according to her, when she dumped me, she was really really hurt (I don't get why?). She then tells me that she's more cold, bitchy, and not the same girl as she use to be when she was with me.

 

Another thing is, she's STILL self conscious about her weight. SHE'S FRICKING SKINNY AS HELL NOW! So I think my ex might be annorexic or something.

 

As for the new boy, they met on a blind date apparently back in september. They apparently had a "click" and now they're together and moving pretty fast. What's ****ed up is the fact that she said she couldn't "handle a boyfriend" What a liar!

 

My friend ended it all with her telling her "don't tell UN37 and his father"

Me and this girl are pretty much family. She's like my little sister. Why would the ex tell her all of this? She knows that I'm really really close to this girl.

 

Well, I'm surprised at the new her. Not really mad at the new guy. Just at her. And I feel bad for the new guy. It seems like she's using him as a toy until college and the fact that the new guy gets the trashy version of her instead of the awesome one I had

Edited October 23, 2010 by Username37

[Leandro]

Don't worry about it man. How are you and that one girl doing?

[Ajax]

Truely sorry to hear that man. It's still gotta hurt.

[Username37]

It stings but I'm not losing sleep or anything over it.

 

I just have so many questions.

 

Why did she mention "don't tell him or his father"?

Why did she open up to my family friend?

5 guys really?

Is this new guy a rebound?

 

What do you guys think?

 

She's so different now, and I'm at a point where I feel truly sorry for her. Because she has no respect for herself. And I seriously think she cheated on me, which would messed up because her father cheated on her mother.

[USMCHokie]

Why did she mention "don't tell him or his father"?

 

Irrelevant.

 

Why did she open up to my family friend?

 

Irrelevant.

 

5 guys really?

 

Irrelevant.

 

Is this new guy a rebound?

 

Irrelevant.

 

 

Because she has no respect for herself.

 

You need some respect for yourself...stop worrying about what's going on in this girl's life and focus on your own life.

[Username37]

I am focusing on my life. Especially school. I have good friends and I feel like I'm in a good spot right now. And I love who I am and she's missing out. Its just that I have these questions and they bug me a little bit. I just want interpretations and stuff.

[Username37]

Don't worry about it man. How are you and that one girl doing?

 

As for me and that one girl, we're cool. Just been hanging out.

 

She too is wondering what's up with my ex haha

[Username37]

I know, it's none of my business, but it still hurts me.

 

I don't know, it's maybe because it's my first break up with my first love. I can't help compare the old her to her now, how different she is and how I use to have someone so special in my life, now gone and treated me like I was nobody.

 

The things she told me during our relationship just seem like a bunch of lies now.

[Leandro]

The things she told me during our relationship just seem like a bunch of lies now.

Yea I hear that man. They say something things, but in the end they were just lies. Oh well. Sounds like your moving on pretty well.

[Username37]

Yea I hear that man. They say something things, but in the end they were just lies. Oh well. Sounds like your moving on pretty well.

 

I honestly don't even know if I am or not.

 

I still think about her like crazy, find her attractive, still wonder what she's doing. But yet, I have no desire to contact her or anything.

[Leandro]

I honestly don't even know if I am or not.

 

I still think about her like crazy, find her attractive, still wonder what she's doing. But yet, I have no desire to contact her or anything.

Well I still think about my ex too. I'm sure I still find her attractive but I also have no desire to contact her now or at least for a long time. Just keep it up.

[Ajax]

I honestly don't even know if I am or not.

 

I still think about her like crazy, find her attractive, still wonder what she's doing. But yet, I have no desire to contact her or anything.

 

That's normal. You're not going through anything that a normal healthy person doesn't go through after a painful breakup. I still dream about my ex almost every night. I think about what she's doing and who she might be with. I even was tempted to drive by her house to see if she was home a couple times. I didn't do it of course, I'm not a stalker. But it takes time to get past the feelings. And even when you've moved on, you'll still think about her from time to time. And despite what you may think, she will think about you too.

[Username37]

That's normal. You're not going through anything that a normal healthy person doesn't go through after a painful breakup. I still dream about my ex almost every night. I think about what she's doing and who she might be with. I even was tempted to drive by her house to see if she was home a couple times. I didn't do it of course, I'm not a stalker. But it takes time to get past the feelings. And even when you've moved on, you'll still think about her from time to time. And despite what you may think, she will think about you too.

 

I feel pathetic compared to my other friends, they seem to get over break ups quicker and find new gfs in no time.

 

I don't know about that. She has the new boy in her mind and from the looks of it, he's "better"

[Ajax]

I feel pathetic compared to my other friends, they seem to get over break ups quicker and find new gfs in no time.

 

I don't know about that. She has the new boy in her mind and from the looks of it, he's "better"

 

Some relationships mean more than others. I've had my heart broken a few times. I've also had girlfriends who left me and I felt relieved and moved on fairly easily. My last relationship was the best and I felt a deeper connection than ever. I really saw a future for us and I'm having a terrible time moving on.

 

As for him being better than you, you can't think that way. Look how many actors and musicians get dumped for no talent poor folks like us. Even the best of us get left. I think about my ex "upgrading" too. But I treated her well and truely loved her. The only upgrades she can make are to someone with a better body or richer, and if that's what she cares more about then she deserves what she gets. Try not to compare yourself, it'll drive you mad.

[Username37]

Some relationships mean more than others. I've had my heart broken a few times. I've also had girlfriends who left me and I felt relieved and moved on fairly easily. My last relationship was the best and I felt a deeper connection than ever. I really saw a future for us and I'm having a terrible time moving on.

 

As for him being better than you, you can't think that way. Look how many actors and musicians get dumped for no talent poor folks like us. Even the best of us get left. I think about my ex "upgrading" too. But I treated her well and truely loved her. The only upgrades she can make are to someone with a better body or richer, and if that's what she cares more about then she deserves what she gets. Try not to compare yourself, it'll drive you mad.

 

It's my first love and break up and from what I read and hear, those ones are the most painful.

 

I'm trying not too, but it just happens, I have him in one of my classes and I look at him and think "what does she see in him?"

[Username37]

I woke up, feeling really angry. I been lied to by someone who use to say she "loved me no matter what"

 

She basically said these things

"I can't handle a boyfriend"

"HS relationships are stupid and small"

"I'm not gonna have anything until college"

"I won't date in HS anymore"

 

I'm not mad at the new guy, he's not hurting me, he doesn't know. Although seeing him smile as he walks in class bugs me a little.

I'm mad at her. The **** that she's done to me. And I know I shouldn't care, but I can't seem forget about it. Those words, the way she broke up with me, the way she tried stringing me along, is still haunting me and hurting me to this day. It's been like this since June...it's almost November. And plus, November is a special month that my ex and I shared and now, she's with someone else.

 

I've been healing one step at a time everyday. But there are those damn thoughts that pop up.

 

Just need to let out right now.

[Ajax]

I woke up, feeling really angry. I been lied to by someone who use to say she "loved me no matter what"

 

She basically said these things

"I can't handle a boyfriend"

"HS relationships are stupid and small"

"I'm not gonna have anything until college"

"I won't date in HS anymore"

 

I'm not mad at the new guy, he's not hurting me, he doesn't know. Although seeing him smile as he walks in class bugs me a little.

I'm mad at her. The **** that she's done to me. And I know I shouldn't care, but I can't seem forget about it. Those words, the way she broke up with me, the way she tried stringing me along, is still haunting me and hurting me to this day. It's been like this since June...it's almost November. And plus, November is a special month that my ex and I shared and now, she's with someone else.

 

I've been healing one step at a time everyday. But there are those damn thoughts that pop up.

 

Just need to let out right now.

 

Let it out then man. It's not easy seeing someone you love move on. It's even harder to think that they've misled you. You start to question your relationship and what it meant to them. I do the same thing. My ex meant the world to me, and it seems like despite what she told me I was rather insignificant to her.

 

Start thinking about your future and the possibilities. Are you going to college? Are there any other girls you're interested in?

[Username37]

Let it out then man. It's not easy seeing someone you love move on. It's even harder to think that they've misled you. You start to question your relationship and what it meant to them. I do the same thing. My ex meant the world to me, and it seems like despite what she told me I was rather insignificant to her.

 

Start thinking about your future and the possibilities. Are you going to college? Are there any other girls you're interested in?

 

She moved on so quickly. Got with 5 guys and a new one in a span of 5 months. ****ing slut.

 

I saw them making out like crazy today. Twice in her car, once in his car, and outside his car. It pained me so much. I was with my friends, just talking and boom. I think they saw me, that's why they moved to her car...they're moving so fast and they only met in September

 

I'm focusing on that stuff don't get me wrong. College is a definite yes and there is a girl I'm interested in, problem is, she's one of my best friends and you know the whole don't date best friends thing. Plus, I wanna be over my ex and not use her as a rebound, although the flirting and the time we share is a good distraction.

[Username37]

I always thought about sending a letter. Not gonna send it.

 

Basically, the letter was gonna talk about all the pain she put me through, how she changed, and how her lack of empathy is the reason why I will never forgive her and be just her friend.

[Leandro]

She moved on so quickly. Got with 5 guys and a new one in a span of 5 months. ****ing slut.

 

I saw them making out like crazy today. Twice in her car, once in his car, and outside his car. It pained me so much. I was with my friends, just talking and boom. I think they saw me, that's why they moved to her car...they're moving so fast and they only met in September

 

I'm focusing on that stuff don't get me wrong. College is a definite yes and there is a girl I'm interested in, problem is, she's one of my best friends and you know the whole don't date best friends thing. Plus, I wanna be over my ex and not use her as a rebound, although the flirting and the time we share is a good distraction.

Stay strong man. Some guys would snap seeing that. Just focus on the new girl and college. Trust me there are hotter girls at college and most aren't sluts.

[summerl0vesyou]

Hey LS UN37 here...ya know, the HS boy..

 

I think my story is known by now, and if not, here's a break down. Broke up May 16th after a stupid fight, tried getting her back, she strung me along and tried to use me as an emotional tampon, treated me like garbage after calling me her "best friend", found out she got with a guy only 3 WEEKS after we broke up, sent her a second chance letter without knowing about the hookup, and been on NC since June 20th (ironically the first day we spoke to each other 2 years ago). She broke NC 4 times, twice on my birthday, one text asking for friendship and she tried skyping me.

 

Anyways, to the topic. Today, I volunteered at my old elementary school and I run into a family friend who is also okay friends with my ex girlfriend. They both work in crew for my school's theater and well....my ex girlfriend opened up a little to her.

 

My ex girlfriend didn't hook up with one guy....she hooked up with 5 GUYS. And she doesn't even regret any of them. And according to her, when she dumped me, she was really really hurt (I don't get why?). She then tells me that she's more cold, bitchy, and not the same girl as she use to be when she was with me.

 

Another thing is, she's STILL self conscious about her weight. SHE'S FRICKING SKINNY AS HELL NOW! So I think my ex might be annorexic or something.

 

As for the new boy, they met on a blind date apparently back in september. They apparently had a "click" and now they're together and moving pretty fast. What's ****ed up is the fact that she said she couldn't "handle a boyfriend" What a liar!

 

My friend ended it all with her telling her "don't tell UN37 and his father"

Me and this girl are pretty much family. She's like my little sister. Why would the ex tell her all of this? She knows that I'm really really close to this girl.

 

Well, I'm surprised at the new her. Not really mad at the new guy. Just at her. And I feel bad for the new guy. It seems like she's using him as a toy until college and the fact that the new guy gets the trashy version of her instead of the awesome one I had

 

 

ugh high school...not my glory days, thats for sure.

Girls, and guys too, can be really immature. She is one of them.

Im sorry she trampled you. please try not to let it ruin you. Ive seen that happen way too many times, good guys becoming jerks because of that one chick in HS.

For real.

Anyway....my 2 cents.

I was a bit flighty in high school. But.

I loved a guy when I was 16. when we broke up, I was crushed. Didnt want to admit it. but immediately tried to hookup with other guys to relieve my pain. Thats also when I started getting weird about my appearance and got thinner and more attractive (ring a bell?)

In any case, deep down she wants you to know about all of it. or she wouldnt tell ANYONE. She is probably still attached to you in some sense, theres always a reason behind being a rebounding, try-to-make-myself-hot girl..

its possible that shes been taking out her hidden feelings on you. when she used you as the emotional tampon, she probably still had feelings and denies it possibly even to herself.

 

Just my opinion from knowing and being a HS girl at one point. even immature girls would react differently if they were TRULY over somebody. once again, my 2 cents. Im not saying she wants you back or anything, it just sounds like shes running from her unresolved feelings.

[Username37]

ugh high school...not my glory days, thats for sure.

Girls, and guys too, can be really immature. She is one of them.

Im sorry she trampled you. please try not to let it ruin you. Ive seen that happen way too many times, good guys becoming jerks because of that one chick in HS.

For real.

Anyway....my 2 cents.

I was a bit flighty in high school. But.

I loved a guy when I was 16. when we broke up, I was crushed. Didnt want to admit it. but immediately tried to hookup with other guys to relieve my pain. Thats also when I started getting weird about my appearance and got thinner and more attractive (ring a bell?)

In any case, deep down she wants you to know about all of it. or she wouldnt tell ANYONE. She is probably still attached to you in some sense, theres always a reason behind being a rebounding, try-to-make-myself-hot girl..

its possible that shes been taking out her hidden feelings on you. when she used you as the emotional tampon, she probably still had feelings and denies it possibly even to herself.

 

Just my opinion from knowing and being a HS girl at one point. even immature girls would react differently if they were TRULY over somebody. once again, my 2 cents. Im not saying she wants you back or anything, it just sounds like shes running from her unresolved feelings.

 

 

I'm trying not to let this break-up ruin my last year of HS. The only thing ruined is my respect for her and a few friendships. I haven't been a jerk, but I haven't been myself since May but I'm taking life step by step everyday.

 

Thank you for sharing your story.

Did the guy dump you? And did all that hooking up help you feel better? Yeah, that sounds like my ex. After her friend's party, the party she hooked up with someone, she became a new person. Her FB pic became kinda slutty and she got a total makeover. I have a feeling she's trying to send me a message or get a response out of me. Why else would she keep me on FB and tell one of my family friend's all the **** she did?

 

Those 5 boys she got with are rebounds. She can't handle being alone. I have a feeling this new boy is a rebound also. She's just using him honestly.

[Username37]

The day I was not looking forward too has arrived.

 

This was my ex and I's holiday. We hung out with each other on Halloween for 2 years and they were the best days ever. Now, she's going with her new bf and her dumb **** friends.

 

I have a feeling she might break NC today, I don't know why...

[Leandro]

Halloween was important to me and my ex too. We had a lot of fun that day. I also have a small feeling that she might break NC too, but I could be wrong.

[Username37]

Halloween was important to me and my ex too. We had a lot of fun that day. I also have a small feeling that she might break NC too, but I could be wrong.

 

Well she didn't break NC. Sucks.

I had a great day, was with my family and some friends. The ex barely came across my mind....until the end of the night