LisaSpars Posted October 23, 2010 Share Posted October 23, 2010 [sIZE=2]I work with a guy who puzzles the s**t out of me...I've never in my life had a guy show so much interest in me...But not...Usually pay no attention to male coworkers, but this has messed with my mind... I first noticed this guy when he started showing up in the coffee room every time I went in there in the morning...I switched up my time for two days then return and have never seen him in there again...Then he starts coming to my department quite often and having conversations with coworkers and trying to engage me in convo when I'm free from the phones (I work at a Call Center so it's hard to talk)...If I wasn't on a call he'd sit down and try to talk, but would leave the 2nd I picked up a call...This progressed to having lunch in my room, where he'd always sit facing me...If I called him about something work related (he's the network engineer for the building I work in), he wouldn't answer (but would for everyone else) but would show up at my desk asking if I called him..>Same with email... So, I figure he's interested as he was giving off the usual signs of a male when they are interested...And he's attractive...And I'm interested...Until...A coworker asks him to a concert we're going to...He acts interested until he hears I'm going. Then declines. So, I figure I'm misreading him - I mean if he was interested wouldn't he have jumped at that?... He doesn't slow down on coming in my department...Or hanging out in the hallway at my department constantly...So much others in the department are making comments of how he's driving by to check you out (they all tell me he never comes in there at all if I'm not in there)...He seems to be watching when I come in in the morning too because he's now showing up in the entrance hallway all the time...Constantly calling me asking me stupid questions...And I'm clearly getting the impression he's even tracking my work calendar because suddenly I'm walking out of training rooms, gym classes, and meetings and he's appearing within ten seconds after... So, a month or so later, I figure he's just shy and ask him out to lunch via email which he shoots me down saying he doesn't eat lunch with people from my department... He keeps up what he's doing though...When he leaves for the day he'll walk all the way up to my department and say bye in front of everyone..He starts doing these real long gazes at me anytime I talk to him and try to keep me in a conversation with him...He seems to drop everything he's doing and run up to my desk anytime I call...But yet, if I ask him to lunch he shows no interest in that! WTF? I'm seriously confused...Never had a guy do things like this but then blow me off... [/sIZE] Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted October 23, 2010 Share Posted October 23, 2010 No wonder you're confused! If he's really doing all these things and your co-workers have started hinting that he's interested in you, then he's being very weird by not accepting your invitation. I can understand why you're confused. I think, given what's happened and your feeling that he is doing this delibrerately, I'd be likely to show absolutely no interest in him whatsoever. If he rings, just answer when you have to, as with any other colleague. Don't encourage him or let him get to know you personally. I know you like him but you have nothing to gain from letting him pull your strings like this. The minute you realise someone is trying to attract attention but simply not following through when given the chance, then forget them. He's had chance to act and he's either stupid or weird, neither of these is good! Some people just want to know they can have an effect: it's a sort of power play. Seriously, do you think if you got involved with him that this behaviour would get any better? I suspect it would carry on being weird and you'd wish you'd never bothered. Link to post Share on other sites
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