Azaroth Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I am 21 years old.... and i just recently been having sex again- but now with a girl that means somehting to me... I remember back in the day "2 years-3 years ago" i never had a problem with errections... I was about to do any position and have no problem (keep in mind this was with unprotected sex) But now i notice that - if i don't do just misionary i ended up loosing errections (with protected sex with this new girl) or it doesn't stay hard enough for her to get on top - where it would bend and really would be clumsy for her to have sex with me that way or it wouldn't work for me... but with a condom - I don't feel anything, I like this girl and i don't want to not use a condom till im 100% sure i dont have anything - and just got tested todya and will find out soon if i do... but she doesn't want unprotected sex so she doesn't get preg.. which im ok with Do other guys have problems with errections? where it won't stay hard enough - or loose it after some time? Do you think it's the condom? I don't have problems when I mastarbate, or recieve oral sex... just the sex act seems hard..... why? ~Az Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 You should still use a condom cause you don't want kids. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Condoms definitely don't enhance erections. I have heard that putting a little condom-safe lubricant inside the condom improves sensation so you can stay hard. Just make sure not to get any lubricant on the part of the condom that fits around the base of your penis. Lambskin condoms do not protect well against disease, especially HIV, but they feel much better and much more natural. Maybe spice things up with dirty talk, a little porn, nipple clamps, long foreplay, weight lifting, whatever... Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I always have had this problem! I can get easily aroused with clothing on, and when nothing is expected. However, as soon as I am expected to have intercourse I have problems getting or maintaining an erection. Once I get comfortable enough to get one (Performance anxiety hinders this) I can often lose it when I shift positions. Using condoms doesn't help either. When I have had unprotected sex I noticed less of a problem maintaining an erection, but it still happened unless I was relaxed enough. I never got around to trying it yet, but I hear wonderful things about Yohimbe weed supplements (Can get them at a vitamin store). These are supposed to help blood flow to help erections. For me it's more of a mental thing. I have some intimacy problems emotionally. Maybe you need to be stimulated more emotionally and mentally, and more at ease with yourself. I find that if love-making isn't expected or scheduled, and I initiate it then I have no problems. Until you are certain about both of you being healthy, and your partner gets stabilized on another method of birth control, keep using the condoms. That or another tip I know that has worked for me... Refrain from actual intercourse, but get comfortable sharing intimacy in other ways with your partner. You'll be able to feel comfortable and maintain when you take your time in making the next step. Link to post Share on other sites
Azaroth Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Thanks gents/ladies She is on birth control, but I don't push things for unprotected sex.... For a while i was scared that she was with other guys - and i think that may have had a problem but last night she told me that she is only with me right now in the beginning it wasn't just me... I'll try some of the methods you guys suggested and see if they work Thanks again, ~Az Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts