iheartboobs Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Glad to hear that piece of **** is getting what he deserves, but how have you been doing? The ex doing worse is all well and good (I know I certainly enjoy it), but the important thing is that you continue to do better. So... are you doing better? Link to post Share on other sites
vtbrokenhearted Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 (edited) Hey there. I'm so sorry for what you're going through, but it's so very similar to mine. My stbx and I got married in August after being together for nine years, and two months later he left. He then came back a month after that to tell me he'd been having an affair with one of his clients since May, four months prior to the wedding. Ever since then, lie after lie has surfaced, and every time it happened, I fell deeper and deeper into a horrible space. Now that it's been three months since he left, I'm seeing things so much more clearly and not allowing myself to be affected by his lies in the way I was before. I've realized that I spent nine years being controlled too and silenced. It feels very liberating to be able to talk and not be talked over and to be able to eat what I want, wear what I want and just be without someone standing over me telling me how I should be. Strange, he would argue with me in the grocery store too and I've been begging to get a cat for years. Did you get one? Were we married to the same guy?! My stbx told me it was over first too, but when I waited to get divorce or annulment papers, they never came. So, I filed. Waiting to live sucks, just live. There is such good advice on here. If you are a beautiful, caring, loving and compassionate person, you deserve another person to treat you that way and so do I. I'm not really looking right now, though. I'm loving being able to do what I want and learning to love who I am again. Hope you're still doing well. Edited January 4, 2011 by vtbrokenhearted Link to post Share on other sites
robf1971 Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 My ex randomly messages. Change your mobile number !! Link to post Share on other sites
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