is it bad for a girl to have all guy friends?

[Corporation Lizzie]

I don't think it's a bad thing, however from the perspective of a female who's had more guy friends in the past a few issues come to mind.

 

I've always enjoyed the company of men. This has generally had little to do with attraction. I just tend to have more fun hanging out with guys. I enjoy the laid back approach and ridiculous shenanigans that tend to folow a bunch of guys around. I've always had close female friends too however it's usually a smaller close-knit bunch.

 

However I am more than aware that there are often members of these groups of guys who develop crushes on me/want to screw me, whatever it may be. This has certainly caused issues and I'm generally mindful that I need to make sure I'm not sending false signals and becoming a tease, and sometimes tone down my somewhat flirty personality.

 

I do agree with some of the comments hat if anyone is only able to have platonic friendships with one particular gender (either way) it's probably a sign of some kind of shortfall in their character.

[exoduse22]

It is rare for a girl to have all guy friends and no friends that are girls

[miracle252]

is it bad for a girl to have all guy friends? just curious

 

I don't see a big problem in this. However, I doubt that all those guys are really friends and that you can't find even one girl from your surroundings.

[Mad Max]

It's a red flag. In many cases, it means she constantly needs attention and re-assurance from guys. It would be the same thing if a guy's friends were all girls. If you can't get along with your own gender, there's something wrong.

[Els]

I honestly think it's silly to immediately make assumptions about a person - attentionwhore, constantly needs reassurance, flirt, etc - just based on one statement.

 

Firstly, I don't know a single person who has ALL friends of just one gender. I hope the OP is exaggerating. I do know people who have more friends of the opposite gender than the same, though, and I am one of them.

 

Some of them ARE attentionwhores, no doubt about that. Some, on the other hand, were put there by circumstance. For example, one girl took an engineering course in a very secluded college campus. Most of the people who were even available to be friends with to begin with were males - it was either hang out with them or not have friends at all, and she chose the former. Equally so, I've seen males in a traditionally female course (nursing, teaching, etc) have more female friends than male.

 

Me, on the other hand - my hobbies are almost all male-dominant, and I find it difficult to hang out with people with whom you share no interests. I do have female friends, but spend more time with male ones (because time just passes so fast when you're gaming!). I do have a few hobbies that could include females as well, but they're mostly non-interactive, or less interactive. For example, I think one would be hard put to have a book-reading outing, and I'm not old enough to join a book club just yet.

 

When you assume, you make an ASS out of U and ME.

[Els]

Also, I just realized that in general, part of the reason I have more male friends is that I have had more experiences with guys being helpful and girls just sitting around and expecting help, than vice versa. I'm sure this isn't the case everywhere, maybe just my country, or maybe even just the type of girls whom my college course attracted... I had some good female friends in highschool, and they were pretty helpful too, but the girls in my college were just... useless. Perhaps it has something to do with my high school being a girls high school which was connected to a girls primary school... So, not having had guys around all our lives, maybe we were all used to being independent and doing things for ourselves instead of waiting for the guys to help us lift stuff or whatever. A bunch of us had quite a shock when we went to a co-ed school for pre-university level, and when the 4 of us had to carry our desks to the next classroom, 4 guys stood up and took them for us, and everyone acted like it was the norm. o.O

 

In contrast, one day when a bunch of us were carpooling in college to go somewhere an hour's drive away, the 4 girls squeezed into my car going all 'Woot, girls stick together heehehehe!', leaving the 1 other guy to go with the 2nd driver (male). Halfway through, my tyre punctured. I pulled over, and got all the tools and spare tyre out of my car ALONE while the girls didn't even bother to help, but instead stood by the sidewalk giggling and chatting and taking photos of the tyre (WTF??). I was standing there with the jack trying to figure out how to lift the car when the guys' car reached us and they helped me change it. On the way back, I was advised to drive very slowly because the spare tyre was very old, and we needed to go back home before I could get to a workshop - that would extend the 1-hour trip to 2 hours. The girls all immediately piled into the guy's car quick as lightning, while the other guy was the only one who offered to come with me to make sure I'd be okay. I was sorely tempted to ask them, "So, what was all this about girls sticking together again???"