PhiloDog Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 Hello all, I have posted here before, and my story is filled with betrayal on both sides (I had porn issues, she had an affair), but I suppose I still want to work things out with her. I suppose I can't give up on things until there is absolutely no hope left. There probably isn't any hope left at this point: we're separated and the divorce hearing is in less than 2 weeks. We have been in contact since the separation--keeping things light-hearted and friendly. Last week I dropped off some stuff to her because she was sick. She called me crying. Then she started contacting me, telling me how she was doing on a regular basis on her own (i.e. I didn't call or email first). She certainly seems much less removed in our talks (nothing relationship wise, but we joke as old friends etc.). I suppose I feel like I should show up at her door pouring my heart out one last time the day or so before the divorce hearing to feel out her heart one last time. The last time we talked about things was within weeks after she filed. I think at that point she was still in defensive mode and now it seems the emotional wall has been stripped a bit. I suppose I want her to second guess herself when she has to testify that the marriage is "irretrievably broken." Those little magic words the judge has to hear. I was also thinking of filing an affidavit (since the divorce hearing is so quick and one-sided) stating that I do not think the marriage is irretrievably broken, that I would be happy to pay for counseling and that I want to work on things. Any suggestions from those that have gone through this, or from women who have filed? Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
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