husband left for coworker

[mickeymouse]

my ex left me and our 9 year old son, 9 months ago, and our family after 12 years togethe. We had a good reltionship we did not fight just little bickering and small arguements, we had fun did all kinds of family things together and got a long great. We both have great jobs, family friends and so on. I thought he had morals and values like my self and put his family firts. I always suspected he was having an emotional affaiir with his coworker whom he works closely with, actually so do all the coworkers. He denies it. I was starting to get on with my life, looking at buying a new house, if ours sold and so on. He was around helping to get the house ready to sell and I could tell he was feeling sad and confused and I was righ. At the end of the summer he was back around stating he regretted it and thought he still loved me and was going to go for counselling. For two month he was around every day, having supper with us and trying to get me to have sex, i would not, only play around. He knew my family was the most important thing to me and i would do anything to make it work. He would not go for couple counselling because now i knwo i was right, he had something to hide which would come out so he went for counselling for himslef. I asked him if there was anything with her the coworker and he stated he thought he was attracted to her but he is not they are only friends. I told him he could not be friends with her he wanted to work this out. Everyghitn was goind good and then, Well all of sudden he got cold towards me for about a week and then called me to tell me he told his coworker that he has feeling for her and she stated she has feelings for him. whatever, that is such a crock of **** this is not the first time. he is gone for good i am moving on, buying my own house and so on.

 

This girl has already left her husband and child for another married man before, she moved to our area to be with this married man, caused all kinds of havoc on his ex wife and this man was not really the sanest of them all. all during this reltionship over three years she was confiding in my husband when there were working, she and this married man broke up and after that at a party for their work she hitted on him in front of me, i spoke to her and everyone at the party was mortified at how blatant she was. my husband said he spoke to her about it. from then on she was with my husband every day, flirting with him and what ever. then she met someone new dated for about two months and was planning to find a job where this new man lived to close to him, i do not about her child and where she fit in this plan, however the man must have dumped her as she is a little unstable. then after we broke up and i beleive it has been going for at least year maybe not physically but he has definiteyly leaving the house to either see her or talk to her, then after xmas he left me, now he says he has feelings for her, crock of ****. As you can see this girl is not very nice and husband one week says he thinks he still loves me to no i have feelings for her and none for you. None of his coworkers like her, there have been rumours going around that they have been together, i have been told through a mutual friend that all his coworkers think he is a fool and that she nothing but a little (*&*))) and no one can stand her. They believe she purposely set out to do this.

 

my question is and it may sound pathetic but will this relationship for them work.

 

our fellow coworkers cannot stand her they all think she is crazy and a homewrecker, as this is the second one. what do you think??

Edited October 25, 2010 by mickeymouse
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[mickeymouse]

i am looking for any advice, i am moving on, but i was right the first time he would regret it and i will be right again.

[health]

Who knows. The important thing is you forgive him and stop thinking or checking up on him.

 

If this is repeated behaviour for her - she'll probably do it again.

She sounds like a ho bag. That's her way of getting attention.

In the end - none of this is long term - just please don't ever take your ex back - improve and grow - so he'll relize what he lost.

[Fouts]

Of course it can work with them. There's a million and one dysfunctional relationships out there. I hate that your family is broken, it will never be the same, but hopefully one day you'll find real love.