safeashouses Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 This is something Ive never experienced before. I am with my partner 6 years, he wouldnt be the kind for compliments or big jestures, he takes it that I know how he feels about me, thats fair enough. Recently, a new freind has come on the scene, this guy is grand, Im not attarcted to this person and would never cheat on my partner but I do find myself enjoying compliments from this person. I then feel bad for speaking to them because this person always tells me I am looking well or whatever. I dont really know what Im thinking, I know all people are different but I would be so thrilled if my partner did this. I feel like the invisble woman at times. Nothing will ever happen with this other person but its wrong of me to like the attention, I dont know. What to do? Link to post Share on other sites
Owl Posted October 25, 2010 Share Posted October 25, 2010 First off...try reading the book "The Five Love Languages" by Chapman. It sounds to me like compliments/vocal appreciation is important to you, but not so much to your partner. It wouldn't hurt to explain to your partner that while it might not seem like much to him, it's a great way for him to make you feel loved and appreciated. The investment is likely going to be well worth the reward. It's also clear that while you appreciate the attention from the other guy, it also is making you uncomfortable. Tell him that, in so many words. "Hey, I appreciate the compliments, but frankly it's making me a little uncomfortable.". Put an end to it, and make sure that the friendship there stays within the right bounds on his side as well that way. Link to post Share on other sites
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