iammizundastood4 Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 Yesterday I broke up with my boyfriend, because my best friend called me and told me he was flirting with her and said he was going to ask her out next year. ( Were in Middle School.) Well, I had given my man a million chances, and only becuase one of friends ( his best friend) just died about a month ago and I thought it affected his behavior. But, he was still flirting, and when I found out about him planning on asking my best friend out, I broke up with him. By the way, my best friend says she was just beginning to be friends with him, but now she hates him! Anyway.My sister is very protective, so she was online and she was " ruffing him up" He said he wouldn't do that, and he really likes me, he wants me back. So I said you have to do a few things for me. He's gotta come in during lunch, get down on his knees and beg for my forgiveness. If he does this ( which he might, I've seen him do some pretty nasty things for love.) Should I take him back? I know that he's kind of a jerk, but I still like him, I guess. I'm not that to worked up about him, but I still kinda want him. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I really don't understand this. Why do people even THINK about going back to cheaters? Or those who were GOING to cheat? Don't you realize that chances are, it'll happen again? It's an endless cycle, generally, if they did it once, they'll probably do it again, granted it's not a guarantee, but think about it, if he did that, and you take him back, he's going to realize, "Hell, I can do it again and I'll still get her back afterwards. Screw it, I'll have my cake and eat it too." Don't do it. Cheaters are cheaters. You said yourself he's kind of a jerk. If you go back to him KNOWING that he's a jerk and that he attempted to cheat, how much of a future do you think there will be? How happy will you be? You think you won't be constantly second guessing him? Wondering if he's cheating on you? Is it REALLY worth it, just because you sorta like him? You deserve better than this. Don't do it to yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iammizundastood4 Posted March 3, 2004 Author Share Posted March 3, 2004 I know what you mean. Its just... I feel bad leaving him like this. He has had a lot of problems in his life. You just had to see him the day we came back after we found out our friend died. We were in the social workers office and he just put his head down and cried. It was the saddest thing I've ever seen, I just wanted to take his pain away. He said he wants me back, and I talked to him today, I love him.... Plus he really didn't cheat. He said he liked someone else, but I dunno why, cause then he started hating her again today. he called her all these bad names. He has never been like that with me. I just can;t stand to see him like this. I think I might let him come back to me. But I need to consult some other people. When I talked to him today.. he just had all this anger and I know he could here it in my voice that I was upset. I could hear myself shaking. I dont know. I need to think about it. I said to him " Do you want me back" he said, "Yes", " Do you think I should take you back" And he said " No,but I want you too, but its your choice." I just want someone to help me... Link to post Share on other sites
Iamhappy Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 If you like drama and instability in your life, then by all means take him back. You're both very young and regardless of whether you think another love (hopefully not like this one) will come along, it will. I would also like to point out that normal people don't do the things this guy does. I understand he has a lot going on in his life, but that is no reason to run rough shod over you. I think you should leave him be for your own peace of mind. Let time be his girlfriend. Let a competent therapist hold his hand. Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I feel bad leaving him like this. He has had a lot of problems in his life. This may sound cruel, but so what? How is that YOUR problem? Don't be one of those problems in his life. It's not your responsibility to make him feel better. Plus he really didn't cheat. He said he liked someone else, but I dunno why, cause then he started hating her again today. Well, that's mighty convenient timing. He has never been like that with me. What makes you so sure he doesn't do the same thing with this other girl? Call you horrible names while he talks to her? Link to post Share on other sites
Author iammizundastood4 Posted March 3, 2004 Author Share Posted March 3, 2004 Because THIS GIRL is my best friend Link to post Share on other sites
Iamhappy Posted March 3, 2004 Share Posted March 3, 2004 I'm confused. He hit on your best friend. She called you to tell you about it. He calles her names and has an insane hatred of her.... His feelings and behaviour are normal after all. AB NORMAL. Sweetie, you've got doormat spelled all over you and he's going to walk all over you if you let him. His attitude and behaviour towards you, your relationship and life in general is neither cool, normal nor acceptable. Link to post Share on other sites
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