Binge eating since break up

[ImGrowing]

I started off pretty good after my first NC with my ex. I was so depressed, I wouldn't eat, and I stayed in bed for almost 2 1/2 weeks straight. So I went NC for a week, and my ex adds me on facebook and tells me he loves and misses me. But, he's enjoying his single life, going out, partying, posting pictures of females giving him a lap dance. I thought I was over him, because I had started working out and I felt amazing, and I was healing. But, after a 2 weeks of being in contact with him again, I went back to phase one. So I told him to give me space, and I'm back to NC. It's been about 3 weeks, and instead of not eating, I now eat too much and stopped working out. I need to reverse this somehow. I hate it. Has anyone experienced this? How did you break the cycle? I pretty much lack motivation to do anything right now, and I need to find it again some how.

[Arabella]

I did the same thing this past summer when my ex and I were talking about reconciling but he could never make up his mind... it was a constant roller coaster. Every time it went down, I'd start binge eating.

 

I cut him off entirely and collected myself. I kept binge-eating for a few days but after a couple of weeks, I began to feel a little better and began to resume my normal eating and working out habits.

 

Remember the amazing feeling you get working out and taking care of yourself. Try your hardest to go back to your routine even if its very difficult at first. It will get easier, I promise.

 

Sometimes, all you can do is fake it til you make it...

 

Arabella

[Leigh 87]

I have been a binge eater before, and I have currently stopped. There is a grat website called caloriecount, and there is a HUGE support network for binge eaters there! There are threads dedicated to " preventing binges" ( they are called something similar).

 

It is a great place to get support for your binging, it really helps hearing other people struggling with the same issues sometimes!

 

The basics are; pre make foods as much as you can, so that you can ensure you are eating normal, balanced meals, and also that you are consuming enough calories so that you do not get too hungry and then binge.

 

Eating enough varity, eating mostly clean and unprocessed foods, and eating ENOUGH, will help with binging, but it will not deal with the underlying emotional issues that drive your over eating.

 

Lastly, are certain it is binging, and not actually over eating? Over eating is when you eat too much, but binging is a total lack of control; when you stand in front of the food, and eat large amounts, in a very frantic manner.

 

A lot of people mistake a binge eating problem, with just eating too much. Over eating a lot does not mean you are binging. Binge eating can be a debilitating disorder. It is not pretty.

[Lauriebell82]

I have been recovering from binge eating disorder for 6 years now. It's hard, it seems everyday is a struggle. When I was with my ex boyfriend in college I binged like crazy every time we would have a fight. You do it out of emotion, because the taste of food is calming. Then the guilt comes and it's a viscious cycle as you described.

 

It seems like working out and healthy eating patterns go hand it hand (as it does for me) so you need to just start working out again as hard as it is. When you exercise it gives you the same endorphins that overeating does. Plus you start to look better and feel better as well. And stay away from your ex! He is poison!!!

 

Recently I have been having negative thoughts and making excuses for not working out (like I want to spend time with my husband). I am not binging, but I need to stay on track with working out and staying healthy or else I will be right back there!