god parent crisis :[

[xomissraddox]

i am having a son sometime within the next 2 weeks and there are quite a few people that want to be a godparent. i am unsure of what religion i want to christen my son or if i even want to at all. there are some people that have recently emailed me about the matter and i am not sure how to choose without hurting anyones feelings, plus the fact of im really not thinking about that sort of thing because my life is/has been extremely hectic and i still have a lot left to do to prepare for his arrival. i mean, i havent even finished getting the new room that will fit both the baby and myself done (it still needs to be finished painted, and it needs a new carpet) plus the fact i need to move in.

 

i just feel wayyy overwhelmed with this all and am in no position to pick and choose godparents regarding other peoples' feelings atm.

[britchick]

Just tell them you're not even thinking about all that at the moment and to back off!!

It doesn't sound as if you are particularly religious so why do the Christening thing?

 

The only important point here is that when you have a child then you must plan for the future, for instance if anything happened to you, who would you want to raise your child? That is between you and the person you ask. Spend your time and money drawing up a will instead!

[quankanne]

"godparent" signifies some sort of religious belief is involved, and the person who agrees to be such also agrees to help you raise the child in that particular faith as best as he/she can.

 

maybe you need to forget about the "godparent" idea since religion doesn't seem to be important enough to merit serious consideration at this point, and just give the kid all the "aunts" and "uncles" he needs. Because those folks still help foster a sense of family, they still help you raise the kid to the best of your ability and best of all, there's no sticky subject of religion raised where none is wanted.

 

just my two cents ....

[desertIslandCactus]

Just tell them you're not even thinking about all that at the moment and to back off!!

It doesn't sound as if you are particularly religious so why do the Christening thing?

 

The only important point here is that when you have a child then you must plan for the future, for instance if anything happened to you, who would you want to raise your child? That is between you and the person you ask. Spend your time and money drawing up a will instead!

 

I agree. Tell them you aren't thinking about this at this time, or ignore the situation altogether.

 

After you have the baby, you will be in a better position by observation as to who would be closest to your child to raise him/her if not (or besides) your family - should anything happen to you.

[2sure]

Having someone stand for your child in a religious ceremony such as god parents...has no legal bearing what so ever should you die or otherwise become unable to care for your child. Thats what a WILL is for.

 

Many couples these days who do not belong to an organized religious group but still want to introduce the baby to their loved ones in a personal spiritual way have some sort of baby dedication ceremony. Its a sweet thing.