You got to want it

[shayan]

I realized something, the more you pay attention to your loss the more pain it will bring. You see the world works like this when you are hurt, if you focus on the hurt your mind sends out the message that you want more hurt, whether you do or not. And that's what you get. You want to move on, then you got to want to, you have to focus on things which will rebuild you.

 

A concrete example is this,

 

Instead of thinking about your ex, focus on how much you love yourself, focus on visualizing your new wonderful life. See yourself regaining better love, do things which replenish you. If you focus on loving yourself and a better life these thoughts will be transmitted and you will bring yourself well being.

 

Our thoughts are powerful, they accomplish more than you think.

Not only do they lead to action, in a sense they are actions because they still cause us to change and affect us.

 

What you focus on amplifies and becomes real, simply put. You want to move on then don't let yourself dwell find greater things to focus your energy on.

[strength-abounds]

Well said Shayan.

[rebeccajones]

If I could just let go! I can think of myself and my happiness. I just haven't been able to let go of him and the possibility of us. It is wearing off, I'm assuming he may hurt me or show me how it's really over, only then will I let go, but I should do it on my own before it gets to that. For example if I see him with someone or if he tells me to f off. In the past it had to get to a bad place and only then did I let go. It's hard for me but I will take it day by day.

[shayan]

yes rebecca, you don't have to do it all at once but day by day let a little more go and focus a little more on other things.