why can't I have normal knowledge of life?

[always_searching]

I don't believe you. There is common knowledge.

 

LOL, I never said there wasn't! I'm asking for examples.

 

Jean-Luc, I think I love you.

 

There. That's now common knowledge (as I've just told everyone), and you possess it!

 

[always_searching]

I don't see why you're trying to push me off track. Again, you don't even understand basics of social interaction, don't expect me to immediately warm to you.

 

Jean-Luc, I don't understand what you are talking about. How do I not understand the basics of social interactions?

 

I want social knowledge as this:

 

Your family has fallen into predictable behavior patterns, as most families do. Unfortunately for angry families, that involves purposely pushing each other's buttons.

Try being different yourself. Walk past your parent, say Hi with a nice tone of voice. Then keep walking to your room.

I know, it's a tiny thing. But tiny little improvements add up to eventually big improvements.

So you be the bigger nicer more generous person. It will come back to you tenfold, if you keep it up.

The rewards won't come immediately, so don't expect them to.

Next, try doing the dishes or cleaning something without being asked. Just help out. Don't expect a thankyou. Don't expect anything, but do things like this on a regular basis.

In time, your family will start to notice the change in YOUR behavior. And this little miracle is going to happen. They will decide to change to.

Here's the warning though--if you lose your temper even one time, they will believe that YOU haven't changed one iota, and you will be back to square one, with nothing gained.

 

Everybody has it by default.

Is this your example, or are you talking about my family? If the former, then it sounds like if you consider this common knowledge, and you, obviously, already possess it. So, I guess I'm not seeing what the problem is. If the latter, well, I'm not sure this situation applies to me as I no longer live at home, and the only parent I had problems with has been out of my life for over 10 years.

 

Is there something going on in your family life that is causing you to believe that you lack social knowledge? Is this your situation?

Edited November 8, 2010 by always_searching

[Truthseeker-John]

then go, see if i care. You label me as bad, when you flagrantly state somebody's issue is nonsense, and have no logical foundation for saying as such. Both you and BlackLovely clearly think too much of yourselves and need deflating, if you think you hold a right to dictate as such. screw both of you.

Hey! They were trying to help you!

[jean-luc sisko]

Jean-Luc, I don't understand what you are talking about. How do I not understand the basics of social interactions?

 

Is this your example, or are you talking about my family? If the former, then it sounds like if you consider this common knowledge, and you, obviously, already possess it. So, I guess I'm not seeing what the problem is. If the latter, well, I'm not sure this situation applies to me as I no longer live at home, and the only parent I had problems with has been out of my life for over 10 years.

 

Is there something going on in your family life that is causing you to believe that you lack social knowledge? Is this your situation?

 

I just want social knowledge. which everybody else has. The quote is an example of common social knowledge.

[jean-luc sisko]

Hey! They were trying to help you!

 

No they weren't. People should simply accept it's my right to get normal knowledge. If they can't, they should get locked in the mental slammer, since it's not reasoned action or psychology. You are bad people, for telling me that I can't have it. Are you so small that things easily offend you?

[BlackLovely]

go away. I don't like/respect any of you. why don't you understand the human truth that one must act accordingly for others to warm to you? Fool.

 

If you don't like us, don't ask us anything. It's as simple as that.

[BlackLovely]

Hey! They were trying to help you!

 

 

Truth, he doesn't want help my dear. He wants to post a thread and then reject everyone that posts in it.

[jean-luc sisko]

If you don't like us, don't ask us anything. It's as simple as that.

 

Why should anybody like somebody as rude as you? I bet you cannot even debate my point, fool.

[jean-luc sisko]

Truth, he doesn't want help my dear. He wants to post a thread and then reject everyone that posts in it.

 

it's my right to have normal knowledge, nobody can stop me, not even people like you.

[skydiveaddict]

You again? I already told you how to do it.

[jean-luc sisko]

Wow. What was once a lighthearted thread has turned for the worst!

 

Jean-Luc, I really can't tell how genuine you are in these posts. I don't think any of us mean to be rude or make fun of your problem in our responses to you, but you haven't been very clear in what your problem is. You want common knowledge, but it seems as though you have it.

 

Can you give an example of something that you deem is "common knowledge" that you don't possess? For example, I need better social graces--I blurt out things and am way too honest about myself and my feelings for others. Social grace is a kind of "common knowledge" that I naturally lack and have to really work on.

 

What are some examples you can give us to go off of here?

 

Do you have some haughty complex? Why are you implying I must acquiesce to you? Are you autistic and don't understand human interaction properly, or are you babied, even as an adult?

[skydiveaddict]

Do you have some haughty complex? Why are you implying I must acquiesce to you? Are you autistic and don't understand human interaction properly, or are you babied, even as an adult?

 

 

I already told you I know ALL the secrets to life. You are just unwilling to learn. And quit calling people names. That's not nice

[jean-luc sisko]

You're babied. Again, we are not friends or associates. Isn't the norm of life to ignore people who insult you? Why don't you follow your own morals/norms?

[skydiveaddict]

Tsk tsk tsk. I see that we will have to start at the very beginning, young Skywalker

[dreamingoftigers]

It's 42 dammit!

[jean-luc sisko]

You need to learn healthy psychology. If somebody is hostile to you, ascertain why. I think it's established that nobody owes others a favourable response. I think your ego is too large frankly. It needs popping, just like a balloon.

[skydiveaddict]

Pop away, I've got a parachute

[skydiveaddict]

It's 42 dammit!

 

 

Huh?..........

[jean-luc sisko]

Big ego people don't prosper, and others won't like/respect you. All human interaction is initially neutral.

 

Incidentally, I am "rude" since you collectively tell me my issue is nonsense. You clearly hold warped conceptions of human interaction. I'm nice, I've never told a person here their problem means nothing.

[skydiveaddict]

That's not true, you called Black Lovely a fool.

 

And you want to pop my fragile male ego like a balloon. C'mon now, who's really being mean here?

[jean-luc sisko]

Neither do I. I don't understand why this nonsense thread has gone on for FIVE PAGES.

The OP is craving any kind of attention. If what other posters wrote is true, this has become a pattern.

Don't feed the troll, everyone. I'm going to find other members with REAL issues.

Jean-Luc, why the eff are you wasting our time?

 

lol... and you complain why I am rude? lol... self-important bitch. you can tell me I am not being "respectful", but there is no supreme reason why I should respect you.

[jean-luc sisko]

That's not true, you called Black Lovely a fool.

 

And you want to pop my fragile male ego like a balloon. C'mon now, who's really being mean here?

 

You both aren't nice, hence my critiques/rebukes of you. I never tell anybody here that their issue is nonsense.

[skydiveaddict]

And now you just called her a b..ch. Now who's "not nice?"

[jean-luc sisko]

I am nice. You are not. You said my issue was nonsense, when you hold no objective/absolute right to label it as such. you're all self-important and ego-driven, which are hardly the most desirable of human personality traits.

[Truthseeker-John]

Either Jean-luc is simply a troll or he has the psychological condition of Projection.

 

http://www.wisegeek.com/what-is-psychological-projection.htm

"Psychological projection is a form of defense mechanism in which someone attributes thoughts, feelings, and ideas which are perceived as undesirable to someone else."

 

See also:

http://www.lifescript.com/Soul/Self/Growth/Psychological_Projection_Dealing_With_Undesirable_Emotions.aspx