Ganderson Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 My girlfriend's attitude has changed for the past few weeks. We have not seen each other and she refuses to have sex with me unless I buy her gifts. I confronted her and called her as a gold digger, but she argues that I must be a good provider in order for her to show her love and affection towards me again. Should I continue to call her and hopefully change her character or just forget about it. The sex was great and I always have that thought back in my mind, which stops me from being a rational man. Link to post Share on other sites
Cpunch75 Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Basically the translation is, All youre good for is the money you bring home and the gifts you provide to me, then ill love you. Scrap her dude, she's nothing to be depressed about. she's a loser. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 4, 2004 Author Share Posted March 4, 2004 I know she is a loser, but we had great sex together and I found myself in love with her. she used to called me ten times a day, but now she told me to get the f** away from her. This healing process has affected my life drastically. Is there any way to get her love me again without spending money? She told me that she is not a gold digger and she just wants a sense of security Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Put this in your brain and parse it. <?PHP $you = $whipped++; $check_1 = mysql_num_rows(mysql_query("SELECT * FROM her_responses WHERE rude_and_unloving = 'TRUE'")); $check_2 = mysql_num_rows(mysql_query("SELECT * FROM your_pocketbook WHERE withdrawer = 'her'")); if (($check_1 > 0) AND ($check_2 >0)) { exit(relationship); }else{ $you = $unhappiness[you]; } ?> Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 4, 2004 Author Share Posted March 4, 2004 If I don't call her, what is the chance that she will call me and ask me out again? She usually calls me when I ignored her. But I am not sure if the circumstance is still the same. George Link to post Share on other sites
Girlie Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 My question is.....why the hell do you want her to call? She's treating you like garbage. If you like being treat like crap, wait around for her phone call. If you'd like to be treated like a decent human being, get out there and date around. Don't wait for her to call and ask you out. Just go on with your life and enjoy yourself. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Basically, what you've shown Gander is that you've got your agenda (sex) and she has hers (money). When you get right down to it, she has what you want (pussy), but you don't have what she wants (toys). So there's an imbalance there, and unless you start earning more money, well, it's hasta la vista. She's playing you because she knows she's got the leverage in this relationship. She'll only f*ck you if she's bored. You can go out and lay some other girl and have half the trouble. Drop her and look for someone else. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Or, if you think paying money to get sex is a good idea, call up a hooker service. All the sex with less grief. Link to post Share on other sites
Liv'nLearning Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 OK, on the one hand, this chick is totally in yer-face hand out, finger-tapping on watch and waiting for wallet-man. You on the other hand mate, are finger-pointing, finger-tapping on watch waiting for some play. I am trying to figure out who is worse? Sex does not equal love. Neither is some vaccuous chick who has the audacity to ask you out flat she wants you to prove by laying out moolah that you're worth it. Conversely dear man, you expect a roll in the hay to love? You both better grow up and find out what it really is you both want? Right now, you both sound like some teenagers with some pretty shallow needs. Time to grow up now. Sorry Link to post Share on other sites
dario Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 You know if it's just the sex...or if it's love...if you feel some attachment to her and you've got the chance. Hell, I say attack it and play it right. Spin her around - beyond this money crap. Give it a shot, a day in court....whatever. Might as well. She wants to go to a restaurant? Yeah, you tell her if you're hard up for cash: 'Babe, it's take-out at Hungry Jack's tonight.' Pursue and see what can be done. Think. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Ganderson Posted March 4, 2004 Author Share Posted March 4, 2004 I think there is definitely some love initially. However, the relationship involves too much verbal abuse that love fades quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
calithin83 Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 she doesnt love u.... i love my bf and i have sex with him regardless if he gives me stuff or not, i honestly dont care much if he doesnt buy me gifts ..i know that if he cant, he cant and i love him regardless...and i show him too..i dont get it..it seems like in relationships its always one taking advantage oft he other..its weird..i wonder how my bf would react if i stopped having sex with him and told him to **** offm, maybe then he would love me...its weird ****... screw her...good sex is somethingu can have with another partner... Link to post Share on other sites
Cpunch75 Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 My Friend, Welcome to life101. How could you love someone like that? she will make you miserable! you buy her a mercedes, next thing you know she wants a Bentley, Shame shame shame!!! vac·u·ous ( P ) Pronunciation Key (vky-s) adj. Devoid of matter; empty. Lacking intelligence; stupid. Devoid of substance or meaning; inane: a vacuous comment. Devoid of expression; vacant: “The narrow, swinelike eyes were open, no more vacuous in death than they had been in life” (Nicholas Proffitt). Lacking serious purpose or occupation; idle. See Synonyms at empty. See Synonyms at empty. Link to post Share on other sites
Mysticwolf Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 Get rid of her.. She is a b*tch. I hate people like that. U deserve better! Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 ganderson: never have sex in the mercenary position. don't call her; she's a loser. Link to post Share on other sites
gaia Posted March 4, 2004 Share Posted March 4, 2004 I really can't believe that you are asking for advice on how to get this woman back. "the relationship involves too much verbal abuse that love fades quickly" Will you listen to yourself????? Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 >>>I think there is definitely some love initially. However, the relationship involves too much verbal abuse that love fades quickly.<<< There are some women who can be dealt with with technique, but this chick ain't one of them. There's nothing you can do to give her romance. That's because she's not after romance in the first place: she's after toys, boy. The only way you can keep her satisfied is by earning a bigger paycheck. You have to ask yourself if she's worth it. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Not all girls want big paychecks, mine wanted my big heart & that still wasn't right! This is why i thought we were forever, we both have ambitions & know the meaning of love, but now i understand why she never wanted marriage, just in case her partner was unfortunate enough to get ill. Link to post Share on other sites
reasontosigh Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 Now I know the whole story..... (thanks again, jenny!) There are so many great posts from all who replied that all say the same thing I couldn't pick just one or two to quote. I did find one from you, however that should have not just put the light bulb on, but given you an entire fireworks display complete with John Philip Sousa soundtracK: "the relationship involves too much verbal abuse that love fades quickly" It should have long since faded to black, IMO. Show's over. Link to post Share on other sites
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