totallyunsure Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 i am fairly confident and confident in my appearance-looks,clothes etc.but i never seem to be in the right places to meet women who do mind being approached in a certain environment.i have done the whole club scene but all clubs are just full of players looking for one nighters-which i am not.most of the places the internet suggests like the mall is no good because the women there are there just to shop or go in large groups another place that is suggested is the gym but as i found out when i joined a gym the women are usually not feeling at there best due to sweating etc.the park is feeling more of a better place because theres plenty of places to sit and relax for everybody.so my question is where do women feel relaxed go to not minding if they get approached? Link to post Share on other sites
worlybear Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 Try the library! Or borrow a dog to walk through the park- Hey, worst case scenario- even if you don't meet anyone, you'll be brainier and fitter! Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted October 29, 2010 Share Posted October 29, 2010 *** totally joking here**** Mental wards Convent prisons and if your really lucky a knitting club! .....Now for a thoughtful answer...... You are more apt to meet a lady thru a social hobby or network affair...Such as a book club, bowling, habitat crusades, anything that involves community ....church, school functions (volunteering).... What does concern me as a lady, is a guy who's first post mentons, attire and stature...while it may give the air of confidence, most ladies find confidence thru the attitude and how generous or intriguing the person is....I've met some confident guys in jeans and a flannel shirt simply because they had a charisma that was inticing.....in a book store of all places!! Link to post Share on other sites
Disillusioned Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Uhh... the Realdoll factory in San Marcos? Link to post Share on other sites
Grobyc Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I've always met cool people in the coffee shop I frequent. I didn't want to date them though. The coffee shop I go to is such a lax environment, so it's easy to just sit down to some person who's sitting alone and say hi and start talking, or if you're just relaxing on one of the couches usually someone has came up to me and started a conversation, guys and girls alike. I'm not talking about a starbucks, I frequent a locally owned and ran place. Places like that are great for meeting people in your area. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 (edited) It isn't easy, is it? I do think the more sociable activities are your best bet, maybe walking clubs or music events. If you tend to go to the same activities in different places, then you start to see the same people cropping up after a while and, as long as you say hello and smile each time you see them, you'll eventually get talking and then you have a chance to get to know the ones you are interested in. It's possible that you are making some assumptions about the women you've met so far though. Are all women in clubs looking for a one-night stand? I suspect not. Just because they are wearing clubbing clothes, it doesn't mean they all have the same beliefs, standards, personalities. I can remember going to clubs with my friends and was actually scared of men chatting me up. I was quite shy and the last thing on my mind would be to want a one-night stand. If you stopped judging people on appearances and got to know them as people, you might find there are more women you like in the places you do go to. Rather than approaching women with flirting or dating in mind, why not just strike up a conversation about something going on around you. "What do you think of this club?" "What music do you like?" and so on. The idea is just to make contact in a friendly, unpushy way. In the days when I went to clubs, the men were really hopeless. They'd appear out of the blue from behind or at the side (don't pounce like that) and then seem very serious, clingy and persistent. I found it awkward and my instinct was to get away. If you are just friendly and look after her like you would your sister if you took her there, then she'll relax and you have a better chance of getting to know her. I think it would help to remember that women are people who are apprehensive in that situation too. It takes a while to get used to someone new and to start to trust them, don't expect it to happen all at once. Assume you will need a few meetings to build up trust. Take it a step at a time. Edited October 30, 2010 by spiderowl Link to post Share on other sites
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