iknow Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 So he broke up with me almost 2 months ago, and I went strictly NC. But then we had one day where we texted (I initiated) for a while, but not about anything terribly interesting. And then he just stopped responding... Should I try to initiate hanging out with him? The friendship ball is sort of in my court I am just not sure what I want to get out of it. I know I am still not over him and still want to be together, but he does not. I want to see him and hear about his life, but I guess this could just make me worse. NB I am probably not going to see him after December for almost 6 months... Link to post Share on other sites
thatsonlyme Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 if you still want him back it's better to stick to NC. You don't wanna hear about his life trust me! He's most likely happy and you're not, hearing that will only mess you up. I was doing good until I had very open conversation with my ex. She sees me as a great friend, almost like a girlfriend she said! Ouch! It felt like cutting my balls off! When I'm with her I feel really comfortable and nice, although I am sexually attracted to her I don't have strong urge to kiss her or anything but we both know that she has to keep her physical distance. And she does. It's just kinda awkward, she cried the other day but I couldn't hug her because getting too close to her scares me. I told her how I feel and that we'll have to cut all contact for indefinite time. Until I completely get over, if ever. She doesn't want it but she said she'll respect my decision. Honestly I don't think I will ever be able to completely cut her out of my heart and most likely we will never see each other again. Sad but truth. I just love her too much. Like somebody once said, it's like getting over a dead person, you never completely get over, you just stop thinking about them all the time. I can only imagine that if my dad ever came back from the dead for one day it would just open all the wounds once he's gone again. I can't take that risk with her. Link to post Share on other sites
Don Ho Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 No, you should not initiate contact regardless of December. Link to post Share on other sites
Author iknow Posted October 31, 2010 Author Share Posted October 31, 2010 I guess it is just that I never thought this would ever happen to us and regardless of how much it will hurt me, the thought of not seeing him for 6 months makes me feel a little sick and I feel like I need to see him once or twice before I go, just in case I never get to see him again... Link to post Share on other sites
Don Ho Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Sorry Sista, but that's NOT going to help you feel any better. You have been doing well going NC, so don't go back to square 1. You have nothing to gain by seeing him or contacting him and much misery to gain. Hang in there. Link to post Share on other sites
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