goingstrong Posted November 12, 2010 Share Posted November 12, 2010 LOL ! Horsey-sex ! Looks like she took the "pole" position in that race...errrr I meant "post" position. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 12, 2010 Share Posted November 12, 2010 Note the keen eye the lover is casting upon the picture of the wife's husband BTW, that's Lee Teri and 'Windy', acting in the movie 'Airplane'. Peter Graves is the erstwhile cuckolded husband Captain Oveur. I liked the Secretariat angle and ran with it. What's next? Only time will tell... Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 12, 2010 Share Posted November 12, 2010 Mr. Lucky, just curious, have you ever had children or taken care of someone else's children? Little kids will often look you straight in the eye and deny putting their hand in the cookie jar even if they have crumbs all over their hands and face. No sane parent raising a kid would require a "standard of proof" for this kind of stuff which requires contemporaneous photographic evidence or a signed confession. It's really no different in OP's situation. Do you treat all your relationship partners like children? I can't imagine a less rewarding approach. My point is two fold - 1). Spouses make mistakes. What is depressing here is the Greek chorus here that assumes(and at times seems to root for) those mistakes necessarily include infidelity. 2). Having known his wife for 20+ years, the OP is better positioned to make inferences as to her character and capability than the snarky subset here. Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Thanks TDP, now that I think of it, I do recall reading that number somewhere. Yes, here it is 20 hours or more per week, often with her brother's wife, presumably (SIL). Omg. She's having an affair with Mr. Ed? THat explains EVERYTHING. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Looks like she took the "pole" position in that race...errrr I meant "post" position. I bet that horse satisfied her.... Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Mr. Lucky, just curious, have you ever had children or taken care of someone else's children? Little kids will often look you straight in the eye and deny putting their hand in the cookie jar even if they have crumbs all over their hands and face. No sane parent raising a kid would require a "standard of proof" for this kind of stuff which requires contemporaneous photographic evidence or a signed confession. It's really no different in OP's situation. Say you baked a cherry pie .....Is cherry pie filling on the childs face circumstantial evidence or presumed evidence ? Link to post Share on other sites
You Go Girl Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Sounds more like a imaginary rotten apple pie. Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 (edited) LOL ! Horsey-sex ! Hence the term: Horsing around!:lmao: Can you imaging a woman "Riding" that? Edited November 13, 2010 by Darth Vader Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Hence the term: Horsing around!:lmao: Can you imaging a woman "Riding" that? Oucchhhhhhh ! Link to post Share on other sites
Darth Vader Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 Oucchhhhhhh ! Indeed! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 Indeed! * somebody walks funny for awhile *........ Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 I don't know what your backstory is or why you're here but I'm guessing you're a cheater yourself based on your attitude. Which is "the cheater's attitude." Nothing you can post will make me believe otherwise, either. Because you're got the cheater's attitude, the facile rationalization of bad behavior to the cheater's advantage, down pat. At least you're consistent. After stating you'd already made your mind up by reading just the OP's thread title, now you're inventing a fictional (and inaccurate, by the way) back story for me. Interesting way "to promote collaboration and to offer support to persons seeking advice". But then that doesn't seem to be nearly as much fun for you as glib sarcasm and cheap shots... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
2sunny Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 OP - to get back on topic... any update? Link to post Share on other sites
112233 Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 How is lying a mistake? How is concealing one's itinerary a mistake, how is any of the stuff OP's wife did a mistake? None of it is, it's all intentional, and calling it a "mistake" is a very common rationalization that cheaters use. I'm sure she was just drunk, stumbled, and several mens dicks went up her vagina. Oopsie! Clumsy me! Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 OP - to get back on topic... any update? Thanks. I'd like to know too... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
Mme. Chaucer Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 I'm hoping that the OP is busy mending his relationship with his wife instead of nourishing his fears and paranoia with all the help available from the emotional zombies here on LS. Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 I'm hoping that the OP is busy mending his relationship with his wife instead of nourishing his fears and paranoia with all the help available from the emotional zombies here on LS. What relationship is there to mend in the first place? You have to be j/kin' here. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 What relationship is there to mend in the first place? Really ??? He's been married 22 years, kids involved, he loves his wife despite the issues and that question is your contribution to a support forum? Sometimes I wonder what's happened to this place... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 Really ??? He's been married 22 years, kids involved, he loves his wife despite the issues and that question is your contribution to a support forum? Sometimes I wonder what's happened to this place... Mr. Lucky I didn't say he doesn't love his wife. But if his wife doesn't love him, what is left that can be called a marriage here? They take separate vacations, he goes hunting, she goes to Vegas to party. What more needs to be said, really? Link to post Share on other sites
fltc Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 I didn't say he doesn't love his wife. But if his wife doesn't love him, what is left that can be called a marriage here? They take separate vacations, he goes hunting, she goes to Vegas to party. What more needs to be said, really? What more needs to be said is that he doesn't trust his wife and rightfully so because of her lying, deceptions and gaslighting, to me that's a deal breaker. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buglemn Posted November 16, 2010 Author Share Posted November 16, 2010 I've been checking the thread periodically, had to catch up on work. She goes running usually around 5 a.m. before work and early Sat. mornings. Been taking it one step at a time. She has only taken 2 trips without me, Vegas & Europe. She doesn't understand how bad her lies affected my trust in her. I don't think that she had sexual relations with someone in Vegas. If she cut loose and just had fun, I'm OK with that. She has a strong conscious & it would get to her if she did. My big concern now is the popularity of this thread, 6000 hits. If it got around, it might cause a divorce. Thankyou for the constructive input. Link to post Share on other sites
Mr. Lucky Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 I've been checking the thread periodically, had to catch up on work. She goes running usually around 5 a.m. before work and early Sat. mornings. Been taking it one step at a time. She has only taken 2 trips without me, Vegas & Europe. She doesn't understand how bad her lies affected my trust in her. I don't think that she had sexual relations with someone in Vegas. If she cut loose and just had fun, I'm OK with that. She has a strong conscious & it would get to her if she did. My big concern now is the popularity of this thread, 6000 hits. If it got around, it might cause a divorce. Thank you for the constructive input. Sounds like you're on the right track. More than anyone here (despite many opinions otherwise), you know your wife and what she would and wouldn't do. How are you going to address your ongoing concerns? She needs to know how you, and other people, perceive her behavior and attitude. I think you're half right. Were I the OP, other people's perception - especially those presented as though this forum was open mic nite at the local comedy club - wouldn't really matter to me... Mr. Lucky Link to post Share on other sites
She's_NotInLove_w/Me Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 The best thing you can do for your marriage is to print out this thread and show it to your wife. She needs to know how you, and other people, perceive her behavior and attitude. Stop running scared. Absolutely! Don't let her intimdate you that way... you're scared that she would divorce you if this thread got around? She's the one who is trying to justify her nutty behaviours! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Buglemn Posted November 18, 2010 Author Share Posted November 18, 2010 I am leaving on my final hunting trip of the year in the morning. I will check the thread when I get home Link to post Share on other sites
NoLongerSad Posted November 19, 2010 Share Posted November 19, 2010 I am leaving on my final hunting trip of the year in the morning. I will check the thread when I get home Good luck. Maybe killing something will make you feel a little bit better. Link to post Share on other sites
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