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I am leaving on my final hunting trip of the year in the morning. I will check the thread when I get home

 

When are you returning from your trip?

 

How can you trust your wife while you're gone?

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Buglemn

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When are you returning from your trip?

 

How can you trust your wife while you're gone?

 

Be back Nov. 29th, I just have to trust her. She will take the boys to her parents house for Thanksgiving, and she will be traing very hard for next marathon in Dec. Maybe I can release pent up frustration by killing a large buck. See you all in 11 days.

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Mr. Lucky

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Good luck. Maybe killing something will make you feel a little bit better.

Maybe he's going wife-hunting.

Hard not to wonder what exactly it is you mean...

 

Mr. Lucky

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Mme. Chaucer

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Be back Nov. 29th, I just have to trust her.

 

That's right. There really is no other option. If one can't find a way to trust their spouse, I don't see how they can stay married. Or why they would want to, for that matter.

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Be back Nov. 29th, I just have to trust her. She will take the boys to her parents house for Thanksgiving, and she will be traing very hard for next marathon in Dec. Maybe I can release pent up frustration by killing a large buck. See you all in 11 days.

 

So, she will be husband and kids free and have the whole house and rooms to herself? :eek:

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NoLongerSad

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So, she will be husband and kids free and have the whole house and rooms to herself? :eek:

 

 

No, she won't have it all to herself. It's just that her husband and kids won't be there with her.

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is it possible that she views you being gone as your way of not making enough effort for her?

 

this would normally be a time where two married folks see that something is missing with their connection in the marriage... then make changes to reconnect.

 

i am not seeing those changes at all.

 

she continues her marathon routine - you continue to be gone with hunting...

 

 

there is no reconnecting going on here. so expect to stay feeling disconnected.

 

the M appears to be a convenience. an environment where you do your thing and she does hers... that's not enough to feel intimate and close to the spouse.

 

if nothing changes = nothing changes.

 

you will always have a disconnect unless you start changing everything... by making time and taking energy for each other instead of leading separate lives.

 

DO things that involve just the two of you - to create an environment of being connected.

 

now you are gone again - hunting for 9 or 10 days... you have no one to blame but yourself... for the way that you CHOOSE to NOT participate in your marriage.

 

stop and look at the way YOU are choosing to participate... you are being selfish... when you should be making her a priority - but you are not.

 

why would she think that is enough? it's not! you have made her your option instead of your priority and that is simply not enough for a healthy relationship.

 

so now you are gone again... no one to blame but yourself... your wife will find her own fun and happiness while you are away. she's learned to live without you as a part of her life.

 

if nothing changes = nothing changes.

 

 

what are YOU willing to change in order to get a different result from this inadequate marriage?

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He's probably not ready to divorce her. If he had chosen to make her the priority, he would also have to face the reality of her actions and his perception of her making him a priority and, if no joy, what that means. I walked that path of priority, meaning prioritizing the M and my spouse and got a nice seal from the court a month or so ago on the divorce. I had prioritized it, and her, long before my EA. Unlike the OP, I let my fear of divorce lead me to the unhealthy choice of having an EA when I didn't experience that priority being reciprocated. He can make a better, healthier choice and face his fear straight on. His hunting trip tells me he's not ready to face it yet. The familiar path is the path of least resistance.

 

Here's how it will go. He'll return from his trip and then both of them will throw themselves into all the festivities and obligations of the holidays and the marital issues and the Vegas trip will be shelved until next year, probably after Valentines day and whichever of their or their children's birthdays occur early in the year. Spring will be in the air, marathons will be starting up again and another year and another round of the familiar path will be upon them. And so it goes :)

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Darth Vader

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* somebody walks funny for awhile *........:lmao:

 

 

Believe it or not, I saw a woman walking around kinda funny once, not a hobble walk, but, more like a careful stepping walk, but, that's unrelated to what we're refering to. Although I think she got some really good sex IMO.:bunny:

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He's probably not ready to divorce her. If he had chosen to make her the priority, he would also have to face the reality of her actions and his perception of her making him a priority and, if no joy, what that means. I walked that path of priority, meaning prioritizing the M and my spouse and got a nice seal from the court a month or so ago on the divorce. I had prioritized it, and her, long before my EA. Unlike the OP, I let my fear of divorce lead me to the unhealthy choice of having an EA when I didn't experience that priority being reciprocated. He can make a better, healthier choice and face his fear straight on. His hunting trip tells me he's not ready to face it yet. The familiar path is the path of least resistance.

 

Here's how it will go. He'll return from his trip and then both of them will throw themselves into all the festivities and obligations of the holidays and the marital issues and the Vegas trip will be shelved until next year, probably after Valentines day and whichever of their or their children's birthdays occur early in the year. Spring will be in the air, marathons will be starting up again and another year and another round of the familiar path will be upon them. And so it goes :)

 

things won't change in his house until something changes (or everything changes).

 

to live with the status quo is his idea of "normal" - however, her behavior screams that something is terribly wrong. until the obvious is no longer looked at with denial there is no reason to expect anything to be different than the way it's been for all these years.

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Believe it or not, I saw a woman walking around kinda funny once, not a hobble walk, but, more like a careful stepping walk, but, that's unrelated to what we're refering to. Although I think she got some really good sex IMO.:bunny:

 

I need some :)

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Darth Vader

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I need some :)

 

 

Tell me about it lady! It can be hard at times to find a good looking woman willing to go riding(like a bucking bronco)if ya know what I mean!

 

UM, was that a proposition from you, or is it just me?;)

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Tell me about it lady! It can be hard at times to find a good looking woman willing to go riding(like a bucking bronco)if ya know what I mean!

 

UM, was that a proposition from you, or is it just me?;)

 

You mean ride you like a wild donkey ?

 

ok my bad...:lmao:

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Darth Vader

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You mean ride you like a wild donkey ?

 

ok my bad...:lmao:

 

 

Hahaha:lmao::p A person has to be carefull what they post, hey, what happened to the poster of this Thread? Hows about an update.

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Hahaha:lmao::p A person has to be carefull what they post, hey, what happened to the poster of this Thread? Hows about an update.

 

I think you and I will get a spankin' for going off topic :)

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Darth Vader

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I think you and I will get a spankin' for going off topic :)

 

 

That's why I'm asking for an update, I wonder how the poster is doing......

 

Oh, to spank a woman's ass!;) Naughty girl!:p

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Darth Vader

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You two need to get a room.

:p

 

 

I'm working on it Baby!;):p Wanna come riding with us?;):p:bunny::bunny:(No married people)

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You Go Girl

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I'm working on it Baby!;):p Wanna come riding with us?;):p:bunny::bunny:(No married people)

 

Oh my. Never been in that situation...and never will :p

 

But you have fun now...ummm...thanks for the offer? ummm....

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