Very Scared

[xu1234]

My ex boyfriend and I dated for 3 years. We broke up for almost 2 years. Our relationship was a turbulent one. I was young and happy. He was my first love. He cheated on me more times than I can think of. Our mutual friend became intiment with him and we broke it off. I was devestated. It was so bad I burned all of the pictures that we had together. I was recently dating a good guy who treated me well. My ex came back into the picture and I broke up with my boyfriend and have been dating my ex for a few months. He claims that he has changed and is treating me right. It is like we were never apart. I am afraid that he might cheat on me again. His ex (whom he cheated on me with recently broke up with me.) I broke up with a good guy for him because I did not have a spark with him. I am wondering if I should forget the past or will it happen all over again?

[dyermaker]

People only change when you give them a good reason to.

[BBelm]

i just had a good think about what dyermaker said. and its true.

 

much as his behaviour sounds appalling - you allowed him to treat you that way, and you cant change him but you can change how you react to it. if he cheats on you, and you stay, you validate his behaviour and allow it to continue - you have to take a chance sometimes and if its worth taking that chance, then go for it, and you should accept him for who he is and love him for who he is, but as you have made the decision to be with him, you also need to make the decision of what will make you leave and let him know, however if you make an ultimatum, you have to be prepared to stick with that decision or again you will end up where you once were. and you will only have yourself to blame for that. you know who he is and what he does

 

hes still the same person, but you have chosen to be with him - dont worry about what might happen or you have a self fulfilling prophecy on your hands. and we dont like those.