lovehurts Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 How is one supposed to deal with unrequited love?? You want to offer all of you and the world to this someone, and they dont want any of it. How is someone supposed to cope?? I ask because me and my ex broke up 3 months ago, although we strated seeing each other again like a couple for a month, it seems i am still not what he wants. I fell head over heels for him all over again and it seems this time together was good for him, as he used it to get over me. I have now asked him not to contact me, because we want different things - I want to be his girlfriend and he just wants me to be around until someone better comes along (in my eyes) Although I never asked him where it was going again, because he borke up with me, I sensed he wasnt into it in the past couple of weeks. I am in sooooo much pain. Any suggestions which might help me ease this pain?? Link to post Share on other sites
look forward Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 lovehurts i'm really sorry for your pain sweety and in time it will get easier.. right now I would suggest cut all ties with this guy or he will continue to string you along.. take the time to heal yourself the best way you can.. keep busy, join a gym, go out with friend, read a book cry whatever you do stay away from him as he knows your emotionally connected to him and he'll use it.. you deserve someone who loves you back just as much as you love them and one day you'll find them till then look out for number one... Love and hugs to you XXX Link to post Share on other sites
BBelm Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 i agree with my fellow londoner - you were right to say no more contact. there's no need to prolong the pain. it hasnt worked out because its not meant to be, i dont mean in some fatalistic sense, but in the way that means for whatever reason you arent compatible - and it also means you havent done anything wrong as wha when i felt like you did, the only way i could feel better was by my best friend staying with me, with her around it seemed like i was in it with someone else and she stayed up all night with me every friday & saturday putting the world to rights and singing songs and pretending to write film scripts and other such nonsense - laughing at our own psychotic behaviour. i would like to say i did it on my own, that i got through it alone but i didnt and i am eternally grateful to her for her friendship. you need people to be with you who understand you and know you and who you feel 100% comfortable with, then it stops being such a big bad world - you have to talk, talk and talk some more. make the most of your friends - its times like this you realise exactly how wonderful they are and even if one relationship is ending, its an opportunity to strenthen the other relationships in your life. good luck poppet x Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted March 7, 2004 Share Posted March 7, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=green][/color]WOW, you have just perfectly described my exact relationships, word for word what happened to me. I have just told him yesterday to not ever call me again. I did not say this in a mean way. I just told him that I could not be friends with him if he was going to act "jealous" when he knew i was seeing someone else. So i told him that if he could not be friends without being an 'ex' also, because in a weird way it was leading me on. I was thinking 'oh if hes jealous then he might still care'. NOT. It was pride. So he will no longer be contacting me and I will move on quicker from this point on. Maybe you should try little or no contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lovehurts Posted March 8, 2004 Author Share Posted March 8, 2004 Thankyou all for your truly lovely words. It helps so much to hear nice comforting things and that maybe Im doing well, instead of, GET OVER IT AND MOVE ON!!!!!!! Easier said than done... Thanks again darlings It has been a week since I told him to let me go and I already feel much better!!!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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