UCFKevin Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 I know that most people say that looks don't matter, it's what's on the inside that counts, but I have to wonder if people TRULY mean that? Personally, I HAVE to be physically attracted to the girl to begin with. Have to be. I've never begun to like a girl I didn't find attractive by getting to know her. HOWEVER! If the girl is gorgeous and has a crappy personality, screw it, there's nothing there. Looks get your foot in the door, personality opens it completely. Link to post Share on other sites
supermom Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 I feel the same way. Also THEY MUST HAVE A JOB! No losers Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 yes. regrettably, yes. Link to post Share on other sites
jester Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Looks get your foot in the door, personality opens it completely. Well said, kev. And, you're right. Link to post Share on other sites
amazinglywow Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 The nice men are ugly. The handsome men are not nice. The handsome and nice men are gay. The handsome, nice and heterosexual men are married. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men, have no money. The men who are not so handsome, but are nice men with money think we are only after their money. The handsome men without money are after our money. The handsome men, who are not so nice and somewhat heterosexual, don't think we are beautiful enough. The men who think we are beautiful, that are heterosexual, somewhat nice and have money, are pigs. The men who are somewhat handsome, somewhat nice and have some money and thank God are heterosexual, are shy and NEVER MAKE THE FIRST MOVE! The men who never make the first move, automatically lose interest in us when we take the initiative. i use to be shallow, upto the age of 18. looks were the world to me. but i realized that all the relationships i've been in, no relationship existed within the relationship. i dated all the cute cute dumb guys. i obviously didn't want that. i became wiser. and seeked all kinds of guys. ok ok... i seeked uglier looking men... and behold, i got an ok looking guy with an awesome personality. but he dumped me! at first, yes i think it matters, until you know what you want. its hard to find the whole package. the guy i'm with now, isn't all that looking. well thats what i thought when we were just friends. but i fell in love with .. and every time i fall him deeper, i think he just gets cuter and cuter... to the point where i now think he's so super hott! i dunno maybe i settled for less...? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 We've gone 'round this one a bunch of times, but what the heck. For me, no. There are some people I find unattractive, but they are few. Most folks are acceptable on first glance. However, it has been my experience more than once that the person's heart and soul have touched me so much, and I have grown to love him so much that while he might not have first caused my heart to pound, I later lust for him totally. You can find a sexy feature on pretty much everyone, if you try, and I always have. But then, passion for me begins above the neck and behind the eyes and then travels downwards. It is rare that I find a person unattractive, but even rarer that looking at someone turns my crank. It is ALL about who he is. Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Looks are somewhat important, in my mind a girl must be at least a 4 on a scale of one to 10 for me to consider. But my scale is a Bell curve, so most girls fall in the 5 or 6 level. Link to post Share on other sites
bella8464 Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 yes, kevin...looks do matter somewhat. and that is why i am going to kiss you at in-n-out...because you are just TOO CUTE Link to post Share on other sites
Darkangelism Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Originally posted by bella8464 yes, kevin...looks do matter somewhat. and that is why i am going to kiss you at in-n-out...because you are just TOO CUTE You and every other female person on LS. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Oh yeah, looks matter. I have never even tried to pretend they didn't. The funny thing is that looks are not fixed at birth. Stay fit, don't overeat, exercise, stand up straight, smile, bathe, brush your teeth, dress neatly/well, act polite, be interested in other people...and funny, you tend to look good. Then of course Kevin always looks good...even when he wakes up with big sheet wrinkles in his face. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Then of course Kevin always looks good...even when he wakes up with big sheet wrinkles in his face. You have GOT to tell how you know that! Link to post Share on other sites
purpleknif67 Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 ...but sometimes who I find physically attractive really varies, and there have been many a time I have been attracted to men who were not what one would call conventionally hansome, but i found them very very appealing. I mean, I've got a thing for Richard Belzer from "Law and Order SVU" and all my friends look at me like I am nuts. Most people would think Belzer is ugly, but I find his whip-smart intelligence, humor, cynical demeanor touched with sensitivity really appealing. I think that chunky guy who plays on "King of Queens" to be kinda cute, but in general I don't find fat men appealing at all--I've gone out with some, and I kinda feel bad and really shallow, but I just can't go out with big men. I have trouble explaining to some of my guy friends that there are some men I find to be really good-looking but have absolutely no sex appeal, and then there are some average looking men who are really sexy--usually it is their confidence, humor or intelligence that for me can raise their sex appeal. Lots of men are trying to find the pat answer or magic formula as to what can make them appealing to women and that is all subjective. Perhaps that is my problem--maybe I need to look at dating as some game or problem one must find an answer for, but I guess I am not wired that way...hard to explain. I have also met some physically fantastic looking men who upon opening their mouth become very, very ugly very, very quickly... Link to post Share on other sites
yes Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 the only reason looks matter is if he's gonna father my daughter, i want her to be pretty as for the relationship, looks don't matter - i've been attracted as hell to guys i considered not good-looking, because their other qualities took over. but of course i prefer those who look allright as well (might as well get the fries). what matters to me more is if he's in shape. i won't go for somebody overweight, not b/c of that per se, but because of what it indicates. similar for neat clothing - doesn't matter in itself, but lack of it is an indicator of other issues. 2c, -yes Link to post Share on other sites
carla Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 I think amasinglywow said it all. I usually go for the medyocer guys. The good looking ones are usually jerks and think that they are gods gift (Except UCKevin ) The really not so hot guys are maybe really nice guys but lets face it, you need some kind of spark to get a hot sizzling love going. The guys that are cute but not drop dead gorgeous are the safest bet. Link to post Share on other sites
hurtingandconfused Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Yes! I can start to build back my confidence! LOL Link to post Share on other sites
gaia Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 No, not really. I seem to be attracted to the person someone is and then find them sexy because of that. If I had to say what physical attributes I go for, I'd say - body hair, big shoulders, legs that would look good in a kilt!! Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 No. I'm Lucky enough not to have to make such a choice, but I don't see looks as being either a deciding factor nor a 'foot in the door' for a gal. I'm assuming you meant, what they're given to work with, not how they work with it--as I could see my opinion changing if it were something like a refusal to brush ones teeth, etc., Link to post Share on other sites
meanon Posted March 5, 2004 Share Posted March 5, 2004 Better move to Scotland, Gaia Looks don't matter much to me. People who fit my preferred type I find attractive straight away but often I start to find people attractive as I get to know and like them. Very conventional good looks do absolutely nothing for me although I do enjoy the view. Link to post Share on other sites
faux Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 Looks matter to everyone innately. Anyone saying otherwise is not being honest. Looks are not the only thing which matter however. I begin to notice from these forum responses how very confused many female members are here. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 I begin to notice from these forum responses how very confused many female members are here. Hold on just one second here. Nobody on this planet is entitled to state an opinion and then assert that anyone who doesn't hold the same opinion is 'confused'. How dare you extrapolate from your own experience to all other humans? What utter gall!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 Do looks matter to me? Not always. Initially, maybe. Attitude is what I like. She may not be all that and a bag of chips, but if she is a confident, sexy woman, whom isn't afraid to tell me that I'm being a dick when I'm being one, she will win me over anyday! I'm not into gorgeous, drop dead bombshell women. I like women with sex appeal and the right attitude can make her very sexy, even if her looks don't really weigh out. ~V Link to post Share on other sites
Author UCFKevin Posted March 6, 2004 Author Share Posted March 6, 2004 Yeah, I'm more into the girl next door look myself... Link to post Share on other sites
amazinglywow Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 aw look at Kevin's new pic Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted March 6, 2004 Share Posted March 6, 2004 lol! i know! it's quite pleasing that he posted this thread on the eve of his picture change: so pavlovian. Link to post Share on other sites
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