Babies and visiting grandparents away?

[DearlyDevoted]

My baby is 10 months old. We live in one region where my family is from and my husband (her dad)'s family live 600+ miles away. Since she has been born they have seen herat least once every month of her life whether it's us flying down there with her or them flying up here to visit us. At times his mom (her paternal grandmother, my mother in law) has stayed for a week to watch her during the day while I work. (My mother watches her regularly during the week if I have a hectic work schedule that does not allow me to work from home). My in laws seem to have a somewhat competitive issue with the fact that my mom may see the baby more regularly than them. They have been somewhat intrusive with the baby since she was born. Its hard for me because they were not close or visiting or keeping in touch much before she was born, but I do think it's impt for my baby to have a good relationship with all of her family. They just don't seem to respect my position as her mother or try to keep her away from me when I am around.

 

Getting to my point, my husband wants to travel with her (before she is a year old) to stay with his parents for a week or weekend. I have an issue with this because of how far away they are and I personally do not like the idea of a baby under the age of 1 or more preferably a baby that cannot walk and talk yet being so far away from their mother. So instead I have taken 7 trips in the last 4 months down there with her to try to balance time with them. My husband doesn;t understand or respect this and he has called me out on it in front of his mother. I suppose I may feel slightly different and more inclined to do it if his mother shared more similar rearing beliefs with me, but she is a lot more carefree and risky. Maybe I can be overbearing but I am admit I am attached to my child and just not ready to let her go for days at a time fo far away so soon. I don't even allow her to spend nights with my own mom yet. I think I will get to a point soon (esp after she turns a year) where I will have less anxiety, but I am just not comfy. Am I overreacting? How do I get my husband to understand if so? I spoke with my FIL about it and he seems very understanding. My husband isn't a bad dad necessarily, but we disagree a lot on the baby's level of care, and often I have seen him just plop the baby in his moms lap when he is the caretaker. To me, it is fine for grandparents to be grandparents, but I did not have this baby to let his parents be parents again or send my child off like that, but it seems that is what he wants. What to do? :-(