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my partner has left me for another guy: what are the chances that will it work out?

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At the moment, things are not great. I've got into a situation with the actor guy that isn't healthy, He's freeloading, and I am letting him walk all over me. I've made a thread here.

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At the moment, things are not great. I've got into a situation with the actor guy that isn't healthy, He's freeloading, and I am letting him walk all over me. I've made a thread here.

mel! You're often in my thoughts when I think of LS. I'm sorry to hear this bit of bad news. :(

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mel! You're often in my thoughts when I think of LS. I'm sorry to hear this bit of bad news. :(

 

hey 0hpenelope. It's not soooo bad. I've got him to leave, and I recognised the issue as something I really need to work on. I need to learn to say "no", and "that's not OK". The trouble was I lost my temper and didn't handle it as well as I would have liked, but at least I said something. He's clearly a vulnerable guy, but that is not my problem. Half the trouble was I was constantly worried about him. Now he has gone, I feel greatly relieved.

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Today marks three years since I found out about my ex cheating on my with my friend, and he did a runner. I fell apart.

 

To cut a long story short, I'm OK. I'm not quite fully healed, but I am fairly happy. I enjoy the life I have now. I've made myself open to new experiences, I've done plenty of stuff I'd never have been able to do in my last relationship. I've tried much harder to be more open to making friends, and I've made plenty.

 

There's stuff I still need to work on: I'm still too much of a doormat. I am taking steps to deal with that. However, undoing a lifetime of conditioning takes more than a few months.

 

I won't say this last year has been easy. There is no question that this breakup has been the most challenging event of my life. However, I think I am well on my way to fully getting over it. A year ago today, there is no way I would ever have believed that possible.

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