SithLord Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 Why is it when you truly forget about your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend is when they come back into your life? Does something get throw in the air that signals them. Must be the force! Thoughts anybody. Link to post Share on other sites
Don Ho Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 No, it's more like the Borg, the collective unconscious. Seriously, there is some type of vibe that you put off in the air and they somehow pick up on it. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 Personally I think it's Dark Lord Sauron, who cannot yet manifest physically but whose spirit was allowed to endure. Link to post Share on other sites
Don Ho Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 I was actually serious about the "collective conscious" part. I have seen that many couples have somewhat of a shared conscious. Somehow when you totally release them and let them go, they pick up on it and contact. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Share Posted November 4, 2010 No, it's more like the Borg, the collective unconscious. Seriously, there is some type of vibe that you put off in the air and they somehow pick up on it. Is like what the hell. I posted several things about my x. She not returning back since she has the new guy. i TRIED 3 TIMES, time to move on. Is like when i WAS younger i did things so naturally, after my first heartbreak I lost sight of things. But yeah its like this vibe that your truly moving on... any stories like that? Link to post Share on other sites
Solear Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 The collective unconscious is real methinks there was a famou case of a milk bottle being pecked at by a blue tit in milton keynes, the house tennant was wondering what it was and there were no cases of it happening in that area or in fact nationwide, within a few days it was happening everywhere. the blue tits had spread the word as a collective unconscious message Maybe theres something similar with couples, brainwaves must eminate in a similar way to radiowaves, i suppose when your a couple your tunedin to each other that together with pattern recognition makes a strong binding force with another person (love). It's certainly happened to me Sith when ive finally thought **** em your mean nothing to me now you get a text or a random call, maybe their brain stops receiving the panic signals were sending out. Kepp well sir and keep strong. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 the blue tits had spread the word as a collective unconscious message Either that or they used their eyes. Big fan of Occam's razor, me. Link to post Share on other sites
bleeg Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 This is why I found out the hard way that NC is the best way to get your ex back. If you seriously move on with NC, they will come running back. TRUST ME! Link to post Share on other sites
lapse Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 I agree with collective unconscious. There are all kinds of vibes in the universe that we aren't aware that we are sensing, but we are. I've had a lot of dreams, even about people I don't know well, that end up real in some way. It's comforting. Unless you intuit that your SO is cheating or dream that a loved one dies. ------- Interesting, Ajax! I'm going to google this Dark Lord Sauron. Love some mythology. - just did. LOL Link to post Share on other sites
shayan Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 funny when I let go, she was gone! She still is and I go to college with her! Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Share Posted November 4, 2010 Lol, they say let time rock. Link to post Share on other sites
Weekender Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 It's actually very funny you posted this because to my surprise I got an email myself yesterday Of course, now I'm seeing someone else. To bad and too late. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Share Posted November 4, 2010 It's actually very funny you posted this because to my surprise I got an email myself yesterday Of course, now I'm seeing someone else. To bad and too late. How long did it take? share your story. Link to post Share on other sites
ReturnToSender Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 I definitely think so... When my mind would be all over the ex it was like he was *so incredibly crazy too busy* to lend me a mere second of his time. But I swear its like he had ESP...I could be flirting with a guy and my phone is going off cause hed call or text me. Once while putting a guys phone number into my phone, a text popped up from him asking how I was doing and calling me by his pet name for me, and yeah the guy saw it. I swear...its borderline creepy lol Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Share Posted November 4, 2010 The relationship GODS, im telling you...I know my X would hit me up once day. I have to let time happened. Focus on myself and whats important! Link to post Share on other sites
Weekender Posted November 4, 2010 Share Posted November 4, 2010 How long did it take? share your story. She ended things in mid September claiming there was no warmth and we were both too cautious with each other. But she had mentioned it before and I had done my best to change my behaviour because I did see what she was talking about. And she did say things were getting better afterwards. When I would ask if things were going well, she would say yes...until one day she said it was over. Listed the same reason, this time said it was going downhill from the beginning and can we be friends. I had told her earlier I don't believe in second place and after she thought about it for a while she decided she was right in ending it; so I went NC (about Oct 1). She is not a bad person, she just didn't think either of us could change. Even when I pointed out that wasn't true. But anyway, I went NC as recommended on LS. Didn't delete or block her from FB or yahoo...I just decided the best way to recover was to date others. At first I would spend time chatting up friends about the situation but realised that we had only dated for 3 months and I was simply missing the possibilities of what could have been. And probably unresolved issues from a previous long term relationship were coming up too. I decided to try online dating. Well, to my surprise I met someone who lives nearby and we actually hit it off. Last night I was online buying tickets for a show and tah-dah... email LOL. The thing is: I has no emotional reaction to it.. I had moved on. The thing is, I'm 39, I know there are others out there if a relationship does not work out. When I was younger it was much worse, because I didn't know as much. That's why I recommend going out and dating others. The time you spend pining over the one who got away can be better spent with the one who will decide to stay. But you won't find him/her unless you are out there. It is not easy, but believe in yourself Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 4, 2010 Author Share Posted November 4, 2010 yeah im fighting off the voice inside, saying that she'll want me back one day..im trying not to care for it and move on.. Link to post Share on other sites
Weekender Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 lol...the messages are kinda angry from her. Link to post Share on other sites
Ajax Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 I don't think my ex will ever come back. She's moving 500 miles away just because she wants to start over. Her job and family are here, so she has no reason to leave other than wanting to escape. Who knows, maybe I'll get a call when she gets there saying she misses me, but what good would come out of that? Link to post Share on other sites
fabio10 Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 Last weekend first weekend really starting hooking up with chicks since we spilt, today is my birthday and get a card and a present from the ex saying 'hope we can talk soon, life is too short' she's right life is too short ! Ajax, Im going to the other side of the world to get away from my ex she did nothing wrong bar break up with me but I feel I need to find myself so to speak and grow maybe your girl is the same ! Link to post Share on other sites
Cratsky Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 You should look into psychic cording. It's a description whereby whenever you meet people, in some way an energy link is created. In the descriptions you read, you'll find that it happens to everyone. If you successfully cut a psychic cord to an old friend, you'll find they call you and ask why you haven't caught up lately etc. You may experienced it yourself. One day you'll be out and about and have a curious thought about someone you haven't thought of for a while. That's because they say the psychic energy linking to you is severed and you can subconsciously feel the break. Hence the sudden want to reconnect it. All those stories where you contact someone and they say 'oh that's funny, I was just talking to someone the other day about so and so..' That's it in action right there. I don't believe it but that's an explanation for you Who knows, maybe when you truly sever the cord, the ex does somehow feel as if their chance is gone and that's why they make contact again. Something is missing and they don't know what it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 5, 2010 Author Share Posted November 5, 2010 Is funny you say that, that's happened to me so many times, that's it's like what the f****, it's something in the air....yeah I'm trying to move on and forget her! Memory wipe. Link to post Share on other sites
dng Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 Its much simpler than any esoteric explanation. People are very sensitive to change in patterns. So when you stop emailing them, picking up the phone if they call, when they don't see you where they usually do, or when they themselves realise something in them has changed, they get a red flag and an inkling something's going on and they try to contact you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author SithLord Posted November 5, 2010 Author Share Posted November 5, 2010 That guy being there, clouds my judgment. When in reality it shouldn't matter. I mean she rebound to her X, during this time I shall disappear... Link to post Share on other sites
alwaysoverthinking Posted November 5, 2010 Share Posted November 5, 2010 It's true with some chicks, for sure. They have a sixth sense. This one girl I dated last summer for about 4 months. Very intense connection as we were great friends first. She totally whigged out on me, and I don't really want a lot to do with her. But every time I meet someone new, or feel like I'm just really not wanting anything to do with her anymore at all, she hits me up. It's effing wierd. Especially because she's been in a relationship for like a year since we split. I'm tellin ya, it's a sixth sense. Link to post Share on other sites
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