Your best relationship, did it happen when you were actively looking for someone?

[slownumbers81]

Have you had better luck in dating & happy relationships when you were actively looking for someone to date, or when you just stopped caring/searching?

[Pyro]

Once I got a grasp on dating I had the I don't care approach and that is what lead me to my last couple of relationships, including my best relationship ever. Never did I expect or try to get involved in an LDR but it paid off.

[TheMENemy]

Me too. The I don't care way worked for me too.

[tigressA]

All my relationships happened when I was not looking, or even really thinking about dating. Some were good, some were bad. I was online dating on and off since last fall (off for the last few months), and haven't had an official relationship blossom until recently.

[Andy_K]

I'm a guy. As such, if I do not actively look or make an effort, nothing happens. So it's safe to say my best relationships & dating happen when I'm actively looking.

[musemaj11]

When I have the 'I dont care' attitude, I seem to attract girls more. However, the problem I have is that Im very peculiar in what I what. I dont go for the prettiest or the hottest girls, but when I see the type of girl that I want, I just want her and no one else.

[carhill]

Have you had better luck in dating & happy relationships when you were actively looking for someone to date, or when you just stopped caring/searching?

I've never met anyone otherwise, so I'd say yes. All my relationships and my marriage resulted from proactive and consistent efforts on my part. I did try being interested in other things during most of my 20's, and enjoyed my life thoroughly, but it was spent alone.

[lso802]

Best girls come into my life, when I'm intensely focused on something else.

[Jannah]

I base my response on the best O.