Threesome jealousy

[Sarahhhh]

Sarah,

 

I think you are protecting yourself as much as you can. I also think your handling this with maturity. Clearly when your ready to be done with him, you will move on. Lots of bitter people on here.

 

Clearly, the transparency issue is the recommended move on the cheaters advice issues. Younger guys won't get it. Sounds, like you have a good head on your shoulders and aren't overly invested.

 

take care,

 

Bella

 

 

Thank you!! If I could hug you right now I would!

 

I understand that people may have things to say that I "don't want to hear" but jeez, why do they have to take EVERYTHING I say and basically shoot me down and make me feel like a worthless fool. Thats not what this forum should be about, right?

 

So again, thank you!!

[Dexter Morgan]

both. It's not because it's not what I want to hear. And Bella is right.. lots of bitter people.

 

then by all means...stay with him and take what you get.

 

"bitter":rolleyes:...how will I ever sleep at night?

[mitchell]

Sarah, just take a deep breath and think of this as an experiment that went wrong. Perhaps you are just not cut out for threesomes. If there is a next time, make sure to get involved and don't just sit back there and watch. The two of them got off a few times and you had none. This seems like a sore spot for your. If your boyfriend needed a break, she could have gone down on you and gotten you off, or you could have masturbated while they were going at it. Be assertive and use your imagination.

 

I'm sure you love your BF, but he needs to learn to keep his mouth shut about your sex life.

[RegardingMe]

LOL geeze she was involved, he threw her off of the other girl more then once.

 

Sarah, I think people wonder why you seem so smart and yet you are staying with someone who cheats. Most people your age would say, it's not worth it and move on. You have chosen to hold by your word and see what happens.

 

People probably feel that your wasting time. Do what you feel. Realize, they all give their opinions. Everyone has one, and they don't all agree.

 

I think you have put forth a great effort to make this work. You love him, however what effort is he putting forth? That's the question, what is he willing to do to make this right with you? He seems immature by blowing up his car.

[Opheliaimmortal]

Good luck getting through this. My guy wants to try a threesome sometime and I'm afraid it will go like you described.

 

Drunk or inebriated choices can really suck, especially if they are spur of the moment like this seems to be. It does not make anyone in it stupid or a fool, just a bad choice with outcomes you did not foresee.

 

I'm not sure if this is helpful at all but time heals a lot. Try focusing on your relationship and keep communicating with your guy.

 

Try to talk to your friend too, and let her know how you feel. Honest communication helps far more than it gets credit for.

[Sarahhhh]

then by all means...stay with him and take what you get.

 

"bitter":rolleyes:...how will I ever sleep at night?

 

Lol...well I wasn't even trying to offend you... and I wasn't only talking about YOU...I said theres A LOT of bitter people here... aka more than one.

 

But you just go ahead and keep being a smartass, it is kind of entertaining.

[Sarahhhh]

Thank you everyone else, that is the kind of help I was looking for on here.

 

Well, we have had a lot of communication about the situation...he again reassured me he was sorry, and after thinking it out, he realized how completely in the wrong he was. I said no more threesomes, he was perfectly okay with that... He says that he regrets decisions he made.....

 

Idk, he is a douche bag a lot, but he really seems to understand how I feel about the situation, and he is reacting just the way he should...even if it took him a week or so to get to this point.

 

I know I still have to keep my eyes open...there is a chance that its all bull****, but like I said before, I'm going to continue to put my all into the relationship until he screws up again, if he does.

 

Thanks for all the help guys!

[Green]

Sarahhh you seem like a HOTT chick and I say that as a compliment. This guy doesn't deserve a chick like you and seriously I can't believe a guy like this got a threesome. If it had been me lucky enough to have a threesome I would have made it more about the girls and would have made you guys scisor or some other gross thing haha. Then yes you make your gf orgasm first and if you have enough steem left over which you probably would you have fun with the friend.

 

He's a real dick to tell people about the threesoe too but you could easily deny it and people would just believe you.

 

Bottom line there is a guy out there who will treat you right if this guy doesnt. You did nothing wrong but trust the wrong person in a world full of cheats and liars. Please try not to let this upset you to much or make you bitter to people. There will be a guy who will come along an respect and treasure you.

[Dexter Morgan]

Lol...well I wasn't even trying to offend you

 

don't worry...you didn't. when someone calls those who have experience in these matters "bitter", coming from them, its actually a compliment.

 

 

But you just go ahead and keep being a smartass, it is kind of entertaining.

 

nothing smartass about it. its the cold hard truth. you want to deny your role in it and bury your head, be my guest.

[112233]

If it had been me lucky enough to have a threesome I would have made it more about the girls ...

 

I've been there, done that, it's overrated. Maybe twins, just for the novelty, but even sisters wasn't what I thought it would be.

[Dexter Morgan]

Sarahhh you seem like a HOTT chick and I say that as a compliment. This guy doesn't deserve a chick like you and seriously I can't believe a guy like this got a threesome. If it had been me lucky enough to have a threesome I would have made it more about the girls and would have made you guys scisor or some other gross thing haha. Then yes you make your gf orgasm first and if you have enough steem left over which you probably would you have fun with the friend.

 

He's a real dick to tell people about the threesoe too but you could easily deny it and people would just believe you.

 

Bottom line there is a guy out there who will treat you right if this guy doesnt. You did nothing wrong but trust the wrong person in a world full of cheats and liars. Please try not to let this upset you to much or make you bitter to people. There will be a guy who will come along an respect and treasure you.

 

looks like someone is trying to do some buttering up for an internet hookup:love:

 

very smooth

[Green]

I've been there, done that, it's overrated. Maybe twins, just for the novelty, but even sisters wasn't what I thought it would be.

 

Overrated. Not all threesomes are created equaly, maybe you wern't attracted to the girls you had one with.

 

Bragger

 

looks like someone is trying to do some buttering up for an internet hookup:love:

 

very smooth

 

I have a gf so it would have to be a threesome lol. But seriously I just feel bad for her. and angry at the same time that guys like him get all the fun lol.

 

She'll be fine though, she can easily deny the threesome and he'll look like a liar. Plus she'll get over a guy like this pretty quick if she cuts all contact... month tops

[KRWA1]

The other night, my boyfriend of over a year and a half, my friend Krystal, and I were hanging out at the house. We were drinking, and just generally having a good time.. In the midst of drunkeness, the subject of having a threesome came up..joking at first. My boyfriend really liked this idea, and at the time so did I. Well, the night continued on, and things progressed, well next thing you know me and Krystal started kissing, and i'm sure you get the picture. Well, during it, I would be kissing Krystal, and several times Matt threw me on my back and just started doing her... he would still make out with me and stuff, but I totally felt like a third wheel... she got off like 3-4 times, I didn't get off once. So you can clearly see who he spent more time with. Since I was drunk, I didn't really think about it till the next day. I thought everything would be fine and my feelings wouldn't be hurt, but I was wrong. I spent almost the entire day after bawling my eyes out. I just hate the thought of the love of my life having sex with another girl, and I do feel like he enjoyed her more than he enjoys me. Since half the time when we do it he has a hard time keeping it up. I don't know what to think or do, because I am just devistated and the images of him screwing another chick while I was laying there getting nothing keep popping in my head and it's killing me. I entirely regret what I did, and will never do it again... but I don't know how to fix the problems this already caused. On his end, everything is totally fine, on mine, I feel horrible, ugly, and betrayed... please help.

 

I dont know if betrayel is the word to be using, as this entire situation was invited. I will however empathize with your position in all of this. People make mistakes and are regretful the following day, or when they come to their senses.

 

Given this situation, I thought it rather interesting that this happend all in a nights work. Being drunk and 3 different people agreeing to doing this over a period of time is one thing, but beind drunk and 3 people agreeing to doing this in such a short amount of time may lean towards another meaning.

 

If this is something that you both were considering, or perhaps the three of you, then chaulk it up to an experience that your not willing to try again. If this was something that took place during only 1 evening, then chaulk it up to a drunken retardedness and move on. This should not make you feel down. As the entire purpose of a threesome is for 1 woman to enjoy 2 men, or 1 man to enjoy 2 woman. Not for 2 woman to enjoy 1 man. That doesnt happen often UNLESS, he's the best thing since sliced bread, and we both know, he's probably not. He's just the best thing since sliced bread to YOU!

[112233]

Overrated. Not all threesomes are created equaly, maybe you wern't attracted to the girls you had one with.

 

Bragger

 

Eh, I wouldn't have done it if they weren't attractive, I did a 4-some once (3f1m) and it wasn't great either, more a confusing logistical mess of legs and body parts. The kinky sisters were the best but still not that great, the time with the girl and her pregnant friend was sort of odd too.

 

All those were just pickups, I would be afraid to screw up a relationship, my GF wanted a threesome the last few weeks but I keep demurring. I think it's too much trouble for very little payoff.