The Psyche of the Late Bloomer

[TouchedByViolet]

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[Star Gazer]

Can this please stop here? Isn't this what PMs are for? This was a really nice thread...can't we all just get along? And get back on the topic?

 

Why quote me? They chose to disrespect this thread, Hokie and myself, by making it personal. They took it there, so I'd like a response. I will not tolerate two unhappy, jealous women's degradation of something that is so special just so that they can feel better about themselves.

 

No doubt if he was struggling and involved with someone else, their responses would be very different.

[northern_sky]

Surrrrre you did.

 

So tell me. What EXACTLY were your predictions? Both of you.

 

This is a trap. No matter what we say you will claim that we're wrong.

[OceanGirl]

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good stuff

[northern_sky]

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[OceanGirl]

This is a trap. No matter what we say you will claim that we're wrong.

 

Not only that, but we will also get reported and possibly banned.

[Jannah]

C'mon everyone, this thread started out with good intentions.

 

What Star and Hokie shared was very special and beautiful to them.....so, let's try to keep the thread in it's original context.

[tigressA]

 

(1) Becoming emotionally attached to someone just because they showed interest in you. When you've spent all of your younger years never having experienced someone's affection towards you, you start to appreciate too much, placing that feeling at an almost unhealthy level. It's almost as if you "fall" for that feeling of affection towards you and not necessarily the person. It also causes you to become emotionally attached much too soon, before you truly get to know the person. Again, it's that feeling of being loved that you become attached to before you become attached to that person.

 

(3) Being "blind" to women who might actually be interested and ignoring the signals. If you grew up accustomed to getting little to no attention, you learn to expect that you won't ever get that attention. If a friend tells you that someone is checking you out, you brush it off and say that they're full of sh*t.

 

 

These two I can really relate to. #1 is why I started dating my first boyfriend. WRT #3, there have been countless times when I've been with a friend or a date and they've said something like "That guy was totally checking out your ass" and I said, "Oh shut up, no he wasn't."

 

It took a long time for me to realize when a guy was flirting with me, too. I sabotaged what could've possibly been a really fantastic relationship because I wasn't convinced that a guy I had had a crush on for months was interested, even though he called me almost every weekday early in the morning while he was getting ready for classes at his law school, and sent me flirty messages on MySpace. I thought, "There's no way he's into little old me--I'm just a naive sophomore and he's a brilliant, hysterically funny, drop-dead-gorgeous law student!" Last I heard 3 years ago, he was engaged...sigh.

[Star Gazer]

This is a trap. No matter what we say you will claim that we're wrong.

 

You sure project a whole lot.

 

I have no reason to be dishonest. I am not a proven liar.

 

There are several people here who know details. Let one of them call me out if I lie. Sh*t, let Hokie. He doesn't have it in him to fib.

 

So, really. Enlighten us. If you're right, perhaps I'll pay you to predict my future.

 

Tell us all...what about this thread and what Hokie has posted in this thread confirms your predictions about us?

[OceanGirl]

This is a trap. No matter what we say you will claim that we're wrong.

 

Why quote me? They chose to disrespect this thread, Hokie and myself, by making it personal. They took it there, so I'd like a response. I will not tolerate two unhappy, jealous women's degradation of something that is so special just so that they can feel better about themselves.

 

No doubt if he was struggling and involved with someone else, their responses would be very different.

 

I don't quite see what we have to be jealous of here:rolleyes:

[northern_sky]

Not only that, but we will also get reported and possibly banned.

 

yep, it's another juicy bit of bait.

[welikeincrowds]

They took it there

 

To be perfectly honest, it was my fault. I started the off-topic discussion.

 

good stuff

 

You do know you're the ship in back, right?

 

..............

 

And you, you're the ship in front?

 

Meanwhile, Star Gazer is the righteous force of nature ready to swallow you both the **** up. TURN BACK GIRLS, TURN BACK.

[northern_sky]

You sure project a whole lot.

 

I have no reason to be dishonest. I am not a proven liar.

 

There are several people here who know details. Let one of them call me out if I lie. Sh*t, let Hokie. He doesn't have it in him to fib.

 

So, really. Enlighten us. If you're right, perhaps I'll pay you to predict my future.

 

Tell us all...what about this thread and what Hokie has posted in this thread confirms your predictions about us?

 

Honestly, why do you even care? If you're so confident in yourself and our wrongness about the relationship, then you shouldn't care what we think. This seems insecure.

 

Also, do you really think we'd be foolish enough to take this transparent bait?

 

Now let's get back on topic...

Edited November 6, 2010 by northern_sky

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Honestly, why do you even care? If you're so confident in yourself and our wrongness about the relationship, then you shouldn't care what we think. This seems insecure.

 

Also, do you really think we'd be foolish enough to take this transparent bait?

 

Now let's get back on topic...

 

Because it's their own business and unless they started a thread that stated " Hokie and S_G's relationship" I would not thoughtlessly use that as a tangent to wreck this thread; namely, Hokie's thread.

[Lady vs Panda]

Isn't it funny how it's always the people with the most hopelessly messed-up relationship track records who can predict other people's relationship futures?

[carhill]

OP, having 'bloomed' far later than yourself and, now, looking in retrospect, I would say number one on your list, combined with a lousy people-picker, were the primary impetuses for my unhealthy relationships and probably a poorly considered marriage as well. The other items on the list really weren't considerations. I ultimately dated people and married a person with 'colorful' pasts, was *very* sensitive to 'signals', 'auras' and 'attention', and experienced this 'lateness' of blooming during one of the most successful, adventurous and confident parts of my life. I literally had placed myself on the wrong path with the women who were my contemporaries. I chose the wrong path. Simple as that.

 

My compliments to you for assessing and reflecting upon these aspects of yourself at such a young age. Good luck

[Star Gazer]

Isn't it funny how it's always the people with the most hopelessly messed-up relationship track records who can predict other people's relationship futures?

 

So true.

[MrNate]

OH LAWD

 

Ladies, ladies!

 

There's enough Mr. Nate to go around for everyone.

[MrNate]

Once again, I can totally relate.

 

I really want to go into detail as to why I believe I'm a late-ish bloomer. But the main things for me have been realizing:

 

- I think too much

- I wasn't emotionally ready for a R for most of my life

- I spent too much time envying other guy's traits, instead of realizing my own awesome traits.

- I was very iffy on what the idea of 'attraction' encompasses

 

After coming to terms with myself, and realizing these things, I've been putting tremendous amounts of effort into becoming the person I know I am. Which is basically awesome. I stopped making excuses, and forgave myself for any regrets I may have had.

 

Ever since, I've really started to make quite a bit of progress. I'm allowing myself to make mistakes while realizing this is all supposed to be fun, and that there are things in this life that I want and deserve. I would love to kick things into an even higher gear but I'm in a SUCKY financial situation..

 

I'm making everyday a conscious effort to get better and better.

 

But, yeah, I definitely understand your plight bud. However, you're just fine man. One thing I have come to realize, that men are professionals at getting trapped inside our heads. I've came to the conclusion that the way to defeat this is through action, because our theories almost never play out.

 

PM me some time bro, I'd like to toss some ideas around. No homo

[denise_xo]

I've came to the conclusion that the way to defeat this is through action, because our theories almost never play out.

 

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This +1. Key to so much in life.

[USMCHokie]

Wow...I step out for a second to get an oversized burrito from Chipotle, which was delicious I might add, and I come back to this...?

 

For the record, this thread was never meant to have anything to do with Star and I.

[OceanGirl]

So true.

 

Actually our perceptions tend to be much more accurate when we are not emotionally involved. My real life friends have been coming to me for relationship advice for years so I must be doing something right.

[USMCHokie]

I really want to go into detail as to why I believe I'm a late-ish bloomer. But the main things for me have been realizing:

 

- I think too much

- I wasn't emotionally ready for a R for most of my life

- I spent too much time envying other guy's traits, instead of realizing my own awesome traits.

- I was very iffy on what the idea of 'attraction' encompasses

 

This is a great list, and every one of those things applied to me at some point in my life, especially number 3...so I started GTL'ing and became the envy of other guys...

[LisaLee]

oh lawd

 

ladies, ladies!

 

There's enough mr. Nate to go around for everyone.

 

+1,000,000,000,000,000

[AverageJoe]

Any other thoughts...?

 

Yeah, dear god. I feel like I have just read a massengale promotional in this thread. It is as if this is a Ricky Martin concert without the hot chics. I see a few Budweiser tents, Radio tents, a swag tent, even a Jagermeister tent. What I dont see is a tampax tent for some of the pussys that have posted here. Including you.

 

Pal, why do you possibly need the approval of anyone? Especially a chic? Are you kiddding me? Know who you are, first.

 

You do yourself a favor and realize you have a set of hairy boys and you are a man. Thats right!! A man! You are a man, arent you? Then get your ass up tomorrow and KNOW IT! You do not need the approval of anyone! Ever!

 

Goddamnit! Seriously, do you think someone on this forum is the hottest piece of ass you could ever get? Raise the bar my friend. Next time you go take a piss you can either sit down or stand up. I recommend standing.