"The Grass Is Greener" Syndrome

[Mariana345]

Ah!!! someone opinion please?! :/

[BlazePT]

Easy, Mariana

 

Well, from my point of view, it might be or not... From what you said, he seems to have been acting a bit strange in the past 2 months. So, there might have been warning signs. He was probably already considering breaking up and maybe he was talking about it with his friends as well. He probably still loved you but missed something in the relationship. He felt you guys weren't compatible.

 

So, basically, if he's dating someone already, it's VERY likely that it's a rebound; he hasn't had the time to move on from you completely. Rebounds are known for not lasting too long. I don't want to get your hopes up; I'm just talking about facts.

 

However, we must also consider the fact that he's dating someone who was in love with him before and might have wanted to "test the waters" to see what happens...

 

So, from my point of view, in your case there's really no way to know. Even if it's GIGS, that doesn't mean that he'll be back.

[Samilia]

Hum... I still don't know if he has this GIGS ¬¬

We were having troubles and he was acting a little strange the past 2 months or so, and he said to me that he missed his friends a week before he broke up with me, and that I wasn't flexible (but when I told him to stop seen each other for a while he doesn't wanted to... )

 

Next weekend he broke up with me. He said that he has resentments with me because all the problems and fights in the relationship, That he doesn't feel the same way, even when I look cute or crying it doesn't feel the same as before, but he didn't know what to do, cause a part of him was telling him to stop and the other didn't want to.

 

He even told me that we were incompatible, have different dreams, and that it was for the best, that I need someone else .

 

He also told me that he still cares for me, but he didn't know if he could ever feel as before, that he wanted to MISS ME, to see If that can happen

 

So... after we brokeup he went to party every weekend and even go to the movies with someone else (he paid 2 tickets all the time ¬¬ so, maybe cheating [yeah, cheating, cause he went the day before he brokeup and even lied about it]) and contacted this "best female friend" of his, with who we had problems before, and with whom he drop all kind of contact 3 years ago because she liked him... so, you can figure it out

 

I don't want to excuse his behavior, but I would like to know if this maybe a case of GIGS... because it all was so strange...

 

Eh you know better by now, you know what the "I still care for you" and "I need a break" mean. On a side note, he didn't even bother saying "I still love you" but anyway it would have meant the same thing.

 

The feeling that you were getting that something was going on, that he acted 'strange", was probably him starting to feel like he wanted to call it. Or maybe he was seeing someone else, I don't know; either way he decided to end the relationship and can't give you a straight answer, but you know what that means too.

 

Don't hold on to the hope that he'll be back, decide that he won't, and move on, heal up.. You know it's the right thing to do ..

[wilsonx]

Hum... I still don't know if he has this GIGS ¬¬

We were having troubles and he was acting a little strange the past 2 months or so, and he said to me that he missed his friends a week before he broke up with me, and that I wasn't flexible (but when I told him to stop seen each other for a while he doesn't wanted to... )

 

Next weekend he broke up with me. He said that he has resentments with me because all the problems and fights in the relationship, That he doesn't feel the same way, even when I look cute or crying it doesn't feel the same as before, but he didn't know what to do, cause a part of him was telling him to stop and the other didn't want to.

 

He even told me that we were incompatible, have different dreams, and that it was for the best, that I need someone else .

 

He also told me that he still cares for me, but he didn't know if he could ever feel as before, that he wanted to MISS ME, to see If that can happen

 

So... after we brokeup he went to party every weekend and even go to the movies with someone else (he paid 2 tickets all the time ¬¬ so, maybe cheating [yeah, cheating, cause he went the day before he brokeup and even lied about it]) and contacted this "best female friend" of his, with who we had problems before, and with whom he drop all kind of contact 3 years ago because she liked him... so, you can figure it out

 

I don't want to excuse his behavior, but I would like to know if this maybe a case of GIGS... because it all was so strange...

 

Sounds like GIGS to me...

[Mariana345]

Eh you know better by now, you know what the "I still care for you" and "I need a break" mean. On a side note, he didn't even bother saying "I still love you" but anyway it would have meant the same thing.

 

The feeling that you were getting that something was going on, that he acted 'strange", was probably him starting to feel like he wanted to call it. Or maybe he was seeing someone else, I don't know; either way he decided to end the relationship and can't give you a straight answer, but you know what that means too.

 

Don't hold on to the hope that he'll be back, decide that he won't, and move on, heal up.. You know it's the right thing to do ..

 

 

Yeah!!! I know... it's hard, but I must let it gooooo!!! For my own good...

 

Easy, Mariana

 

Well, from my point of view, it might be or not... From what you said, he seems to have been acting a bit strange in the past 2 months. So, there might have been warning signs. He was probably already considering breaking up and maybe he was talking about it with his friends as well. He probably still loved you but missed something in the relationship. He felt you guys weren't compatible.

 

So, basically, if he's dating someone already, it's VERY likely that it's a rebound; he hasn't had the time to move on from you completely. Rebounds are known for not lasting too long. I don't want to get your hopes up; I'm just talking about facts.

 

However, we must also consider the fact that he's dating someone who was in love with him before and might have wanted to "test the waters" to see what happens...

 

So, from my point of view, in your case there's really no way to know. Even if it's GIGS, that doesn't mean that he'll be back.

 

 

Uhm... thank you, you're right. Even if this IS... it doesn't change many things... like how hurt I am, and how it broke the relationship forever... I know that I should stop making excuses... but we were together for almost 5 years... so It's kind of difficult to do... arghhhh!!! XD I wish I could be ok soon, I need my life back :/

[BlazePT]

Uhm... thank you, you're right. Even if this IS... it doesn't change many things... like how hurt I am, and how it broke the relationship forever... I know that I should stop making excuses... but we were together for almost 5 years... so It's kind of difficult to do... arghhhh!!! XD I wish I could be ok soon, I need my life back :/

 

Baby steps, dear you'll get there!

[kthomas5]

My ex and I had been dating for almost two years. We've been through a lot together. I'm 20, he's 22. I'm not sure if he suffers from G.I.G.S. We seem young, yes but everyone considers us to be pretty mature. When he began to talk about marriage I would tell him we should take the relationship one day at a time and enjoy each other’s company. We pretty much had a worry free relationship. He broke up with me a month and half ago and his reasons didn’t make sense. He said things like, “I love you but I don’t deserve you” “You are who I want to spend the rest of my life with and have children with but right now I’m not stable” “I love you and I’m in love with you, I just don’t want to hurt you” “You are my best friend and I don’t want to lose you by doing something stupid while we’re in a relationship”…. These were his explanations. As he said all this he began partying, drinking and hanging out with people I’ve never seen before. We agreed to be friends after the break up but it only made how I feel worse. When I told him I needed my space and for him not to contact me any longer, he said with tears in his eyes, “After we get ourselves together I hope we can begin to date again and have a stronger, healthier relationship.” Right after he left from our talk he went to a pool party and got drunk. I’m not sure what to do or think. I’ve started NC with him. But it’s hard because my family still sees him as family. He scheduled a lunch with my cousin to “talk about his feelings”, he’s getting baptized at my church this Sunday, and he said he plans to join my church. I’m not sure if he’s trying to show me he still wants to be with me but he’s not stable or if this is a game to him.

[supermanthatho]

I'm experiencing this right now It hurts me so bad I feel like death is better than this type of pain. But thank you for explaining that so clearly. I'm turning 22 in a few days where as my gf or ex I should say is 21 and she's the dumper for a guy who is 30. Her behaviour right now is the opposite of who I knew. She always said it was disgusting to get with a guy who is that old at our age and to me she's acting all slutty by hooking up around, partying. She could never give me an explanation of everything. We were going out for 3 yrs, well our 3 year anniversary is coming up a few days after my bday :/ I feel so alone

[paras1te]

Hey,

 

Just happend to me.

And it happend before and then I kinda forced my girl back into a relationship with success, but obviously this wasn't the right thing to do, and now a few years later it's the same thing again.

 

So she breaks up and I follow all of the steps letting her go immediately, but still tell I love her. No stalking be respectful. I handled it all in a very good manner. And she know it and thanks me for it and really has a hard time.

 

But I feel a little selfish over it. Like I do it all out of self interest. I just do this because I want her back. Should I have this feeling. Is it actually ok to follow these steps. I mean she wan't to be on her own, but everything I do right now, like letting go and tell her I kinda be there for her (not in a way that makes me begging). Is because I want her back.

 

Thanks in advance

[antelope82]

after reading this and a couple other GIGS informative posts on other sites, I think this just happened to me too. Its kind of scary how this was all scripted out and I fell right into it. I wish I knew and read about this before I got myself into it, but at the same time, I had a lot of good memories with her. This definitely helps me move on.

[k100danny]

Im sorry but i've read lots of things on here about G.I.G.S and i don't agree with it at all really. Now we all know some people are always looking for the next best thing and never seem happy always moving on et and this can be a personailty trait and a sign of certain personality disorders.

 

I don't believe g.i.g.s is relevant to most cases and it is just a case of they may still care but love is built up of components and obviously the commitment part isnt there anymore, so call it what you will but gigs is just someone who isn't satisfied with the relationship anymore and it no longer meets their needs. yes of course some people then think they have made a mistake but usually they haven if they have left once then it was probably the right thing to do all along.

[Dblock10]

all i want to say is, giggity giggity

[PropertyChaser]

My ex dumped me because I voiced some concerns about her hanging out with a bunch of DJs and club promoters. I'm a busy guy, I can't go out as much as she can, and I trusted her to do the right thing. When I did decide to go out when they were there, she kept us apart. She ended up ditching me one night while we were in the same club to chill out with them. It's like she thought introducing me to them would erode her social status.

 

At the end of the day I am partly responsible for not being present, they sunk their claws into her and my status in her life started to erode the more "favours" they did for her and her friends - meanwhile I was becoming more or a passing thought. She ultimately decided that they could facilitate a better summer for her than hanging out with me. Great.

 

 

In the end they'll probably rail her and toss her out like a cum dumpster. Reality will be a real bitch for her at the end fo the day.

Edited July 22, 2012 by PropertyChaser

[Dblock10]

yeh mate that will most likely happen. but its still a **** situation for you. i REALLY hate girls sometimes

[PropertyChaser]

yeh mate that will most likely happen. but its still a **** situation for you. i REALLY hate girls sometimes

 

It is a ****ty situation, I'm a pretty awesome, smart, reasonably good looking guy who is usually paraded about by the girls that I've dated. This is the first time a girl has wanted to "hide" me from someone.

 

In hindsight I should have anticipated it, or should have had a talk with her about it earlier. On the other hand I may just be very lucky and have got out of the way before anything worse happened.

 

At the end of the day she chose partying and getting wasted over what was (to me at least) a very happy and enjoyable relationship. In her own words, she's going to be a little bit nuts, this is her summer, her time off, her friends are going out all the time (but this really seemed to evolve AFTER she met these people) - I can't help but think they gave her the extra "push" if you know what I'm saying. Maybe that's just where her head is at... but one day when she's down and out, these guys won't have her back, and she might regret what she has done, but I'm not holding my breath.

[rawr2]

Im so glad people are still posting here, especially homebrew and wilson. A couple of these forums get stale.

 

My Ex definetly had gigs, "just want to be single for a while", "there is nothing wrong with the relationship- in fact im scared i will regret this" - then a month later hooked up with the "just a friend" he started hanging out with towards the end of our relationship and told me "its not better just different" and "doesnt know what happened".

 

They are in a long distance relationship this year but will move in together next year. They were together basically after we broke up last year october (so its almost a year) and we went NC in februray where I finally lost it- he had walked all over me and i let him because i didnt want to lose my best friend of 3.5 years! but he made it very clear he wanted completely out with the old and in with the new.

 

He emailed a while ago to apologize, and i said thanks, but im still not ok with anything. We each sent one more "friendly" reply and then i went NC again. I found out he was coming home for a week so i figured the only reason he tried to say sorry was so that it wouldnt be awkward if we were in the same place (we have mutual friends)

 

Im not one to fight, and i hate that their is bad blood, but like Wilsons signature:

"Sometimes you have to lose your mind in order to come to your senses" -Socrates

Anger is a VERY IMPORTANT part of getting over someone. Unfortuantly losing your **** every once in a while is a great form of therapy.

 

I would like to be friends again, but i cant if he is with her, and i feel now, looking back, that he dates for convenience- he would only dump her if something better came along, but hes to shy to make the effort. But we will see, im 22 and have the rest of my life to deal with

[digon1631]

My ex had GIGS. She felt like she didn't love me anymore but still loves me and told me she needed a break. I cried and stayed around and talked to her for 6 weeks, shê was giving me mixed messages about how we were gonna get together and that she loves me still. I would do her so many favors and help her out in life still. Until week 6, I thought everything was going great until I walked in on her and another guy having sex while I was taking care of her dog. She says she doesnt regeet her decision and started to talk **** about me. I have never felt so betrayed and used in my life. She told me later she had a crush on this guy when we broke up and hooked up with him 2 weeks after we broke up from a 3.5 year relationship. NEVER stick around, u will only get your heart broken and shattered. Never be a friend, go no contact immediately instead of letting her have her cake and eat it too. She will betray you and break your heart forever. Now I have gone no contact and she has already tried to text me but I am not responding or going back to her. I have never been so treate so poorly in my life. And it is the summer time... Perfect time.

[Jono85]

My ex had GIGS. She felt like she didn't love me anymore but still loves me and told me she needed a break. I cried and stayed around and talked to her for 6 weeks, shê was giving me mixed messages about how we were gonna get together and that she loves me still. I would do her so many favors and help her out in life still. Until week 6, I thought everything was going great until I walked in on her and another guy having sex while I was taking care of her dog. She says she doesnt regeet her decision and started to talk **** about me. I have never felt so betrayed and used in my life. She told me later she had a crush on this guy when we broke up and hooked up with him 2 weeks after we broke up from a 3.5 year relationship. NEVER stick around, u will only get your heart broken and shattered. Never be a friend, go no contact immediately instead of letting her have her cake and eat it too. She will betray you and break your heart forever. Now I have gone no contact and she has already tried to text me but I am not responding or going back to her. I have never been so treate so poorly in my life. And it is the summer time... Perfect time.

 

so u were in the same house as her, when she was with another guy? sorry to ask about it, but what happened there, if u don't mind. that's pretty messed up. but if u knew she was with another guy, A. shouldn't have been doing things for her still, and B. not visiting her house while she's with a guy.

[digon1631]

I had no idea she was with another guy this whole time. She lied to me until I found out that way. I have a key to her house, but I went over to her house because I was fed up of being treated like **** and me taking care of her dog while she blatantly disrespects me. I feel so betrayed.

[Trying89]

My situation seems to be different from alot of peoples so im not sure if my ex does have gigs.

 

We actually have a daughter together she is 3.

 

We were together before thats when we had her and we broke up when she was about 4 months old. We got back together 8 months later.

 

He moved in with me and our daughter straight away. And we got engaged after a year of being back together.

 

Last time we were together a year and a half this time we were together 2 years 3 months.

 

We set our wedding date and started to buy stuff for it and everything.

 

However he has Borderline personality disorder and started group therapy 6 months ago. While being there he has made new friends which is fine but now he has changed.

 

1. He has changed his appearence, dressing differently more like a rocker now.

 

2. His attitude has changed, he use to listen and dance to all different music now he says he doesnt do that sort of thing like its not cool.

 

3. Hes going out drinking alot more, while before he told me hes happy to stay at home becuase drinking all the time isnt all that.

 

4. He hasnt got with anyone new yet but has admitted that he finds one of his female friends at group attractive. He also went to a festival and told me there was a few women there attractive. So I do think he thinks there is someone better than me out there.

 

5. He keeps telling me about his plan for the future says he wants to travel around italy for 2 weeks in a couple of years. How can you plan that far ahead when you have a kid?

 

6. Told me the ol chesthut, he loves me but isnt in love with me!

 

7. Also told me the reason hes leaving is his therapy has made him fall out of love with me. :/ I think thats bull think thats the only explanation he could come up with. Because...

 

....just over a month before he ended it he told me he wasnt sure about us. He talked to his Mum about it and she told him to do what makes him happy. So he decided to stay with me!

 

Also Im the one who asked if he wanted to be with me anymore thats when he came out with hes not sure. He actually took a week to decide to end it. The day after we had that convo he randomly said I love you. So i was a bit shocked but said I love you too. When I called him up on it he said he didnt realise he said it he was reallly tired. I also tried to end it myself, I said i think we should just end it if you miss me you can tell me other wise in my mind were done. But he came back with no I really dont know I just need a few days to sort it through in my head. To me this looked promising. But of course once the week was up he still ended it.

 

This is another confusing part for me. His Step Mum told me after he came back from ending it with me he was already crying when he came through the door. I think he felt really bad and also later told his Dad that he had mixed feelings about the whole thing. But hes also told me he might have feelings for me after his therapy he might not and I should move on its not fair for me to wait.

 

So to me it seems hes started to experience new things with his new friends and its made him think theres a better life out there for him without me. But to me it seems like he does still have feelings for me which is why it took him a while to actually end it. Could he of been struggling with his decision because he loves me but needs to experience things on his own now? What do people think?

[ReLode360]

I've been reading these things for some time. Some to see I'm not the only one that has feelings, and some just for entertainment value. Then I figured I would go ahead and sign up and supply my 2 cents worth.

 

First of all Facebook is the devil during a breakup. Having such easy access to seeing the person you love appearing to have a much better time without you than with you is the digital equivalent of them bringing 5 guys/girls to your pad and forcing you to watch them do whatever nasty dear penthouse things they can come up with.

 

Telling yourself you could have done so many things different with them if you could go back is just stupid. Unless of course you beat the crap out of them, shot them down, duct taped them to a stool and threw monkey turds at them etc. Most of the time all the things you would have done differently would have been things completely our of character and would have not been the real you in the first place. What's the point of being with someone that doesn't want you for the person you really are?

 

Grass is greener, eh I guess. Hard truth is that they no longer like what you were offering. Even if 20 minutes before they gave you the foot they were telling you how awesome you are and how happy they were and all that other stuff that makes no sense as to why they would break up with you.

 

Being a man! This is absolutely 100% correct. However, you can be a real man and at the same time be nice. You can tell your ex to f off, wish him or her to get fat as a pig or whatever other vile evil thing you want, but keep it to yourself. Do not let them know you wish festering boils on them because how we treat people is a view inside ourselves. If you broke it off with someone would you want them to personally tell you things like this? I wouldn't, I have dignity for myself and I'm not going to project my anger on someone just because it's going to make me feel better for a few minutes. Everyone that does that feels like total crap not long after.

 

Contact or No contact right? The first few weeks or months it doesn't matter either way because talking to them and getting shot down over and over feels just as bad as not talking to them and getting shot down over and over. However, there comes a point where you will get tired of doing either one and start to actually laugh at things again. Maybe at how big her ass has gotten since you broke up and how awesome your abs are now that you've focused some time on yourself You will feel better eventually and nothing is going to make you feel better other than time.

 

He or she is going to do the same things with other people that they did with you no matter how much you want them not to. Did you ever kiss a girl before you kissed your ex? I certainly did. Did you ever give anyone some sweet loving before you gave it to your ex? Yep I did that too. So will they, fact of life and human nature. We all want sweet loving and will get it again no matter how much the though of even seeing another person romantically at the moment wants to make us vomit demons onto the carpet.

 

Wait for your ex to come back? That's a bad plan, but there isn't much joy in your life for the first month or two anyway so set yourself some time to say if this person doesn't contact me by this amount of time then I'm going to tell myself how wonderful I am everyday and not even mention their name. You'd be surprised at how your mind can heal you when you tell it to. Then shower, shave, put on your good shirt and go someplace you like. You will feel good about yourself that you managed to get out of the house, not to mention looking pretty good since you showered and have on a good shirt that you will start to notice other people might actually be attractive. Don't rush up to anyone and ask them to marry you or anything, but you get the point. However, it might be a good idea to ask someone out to a casual outing. Even if you aren't attracted to them one little bit it is nice to have a couple hours of getting someone's point of view on the world that differs from what you've been experiencing for the last couple of months. Do this enough times and guess what. You start getting excited again about living. You start looking forward to Friday after work to get a few brews and chill with like minded people instead of tying a noose in a rope and daring yourself to put it around your neck for the weekend.

 

It ain't easy man, it never is. WE WILL ALL SURVIVE. That is a fact that life goes on. Try calling up your credit card company and ask them if you can not pay for a couple of months because you got dumped. They don't care because life is still happening.

 

I'm probably older than most of the people on here and having a broken heart sucks at no matter what age. I've had lots of dates, girlfriends, and whatever else you call the person you spend time with. Two of those people changed my life. The first one was "the one". We bought a house together, made wedding plans, did all of that future planning stuff. Then I got an I love you before work and a take a hike after work. Hurt like hell for a good long time. I was angry, hurt, confused and all the other range of emotions you can imagine. I got over it, she's unhappily married, and has a huge ass However, I now have no resentment and enjoy running into her and saying hi when I'm out and about my routine and run into her. The second life changing event was about a month ago. Dated a girl for a year and a half, she had great qualities, relationship was great, lots of love and little gestures that just make hearts melt. Then BAM, out of the blue it's the cliche "You're so good to me, we work great together, I will probably regret this choice, but I'm leaving." I was nice to her, treated her with respect and dignity, let her know how much I cared for and loved her. I don't regret treating her like this at all. If I had gone out of character and treated her like crap just to try to keep her around then I would have been cheating myself. I have no problem with being a nice guy, it's just who I am. The way I've always been. However, I know that there is someone out there that will enjoy what I have to offer, and appreciate my kindness. I don't want to find them right now because I feel damaged at the moment and no awesome worthwhile guy/girl is going to want you while your still a bit broken. I ain't scared though because I never ever though I would get over that first girl and now I can't even remember how sad I was when she left. So, I know that after some time I will be back to my old self again. That's called HOPE, not that one will come back, but hope that I will come back to my awesome self.

 

All the people that are damaged and broken right now I can tell you this. You will get yourself back to where you want to be. Then people can see how amazing you (unless you're just naturally a douche bag of course) People will take notice of the fixed you and one day you won't even remember how you feel right now.

 

Ok, maybe that was more like $3.50 worth instead of 2 cents but oh well.

[look-but-don't-touch]

Your ex has just dumped you because of G.I.G.S. i'm in the same boat. my ex of 3 years left me 3.5 months ago for her co-worker. she cheated on me emotionally & physically. life's a beach. from here on we go no No Contact to heal. look to the sky and keep your head up soldier. respect yourself. no amount of begging/crying/reasoning/sulking will bring them back. if they do, they'll be a completely different person. would you want that? of course not, we fell in love with who they were NOT who they've become. remember that!

 

Starting TODAY we need to focus on ourselves and better ourselves. whether it be physically, emotionally, spiritually etc.

 

-Go to the gym guys. pump some iron! get lean, get ripped!! you too ladies go work on your money maker!

-Meet new people, start socialising. contact old friends.

-Pickup a new hobby.

-Go out and discover yourself again!

 

 

I can assure you, we will meet someone better. have some faith!

 

 

Regards,

[Consultant]

This post makes tons of sense and like others, this has happened to me.

 

I am 24 and had been dating and engaged to a 23 year old. We were together for over 4 years and she left me and immediately got in a relationship with another guy. Every thing you mentioned is exactly what she said to me:

 

1) Loves me, but not "in love with me"

2) Still wants to be "friends" and hang out like we used to

3) Keeps the possibility of getting back together in the future alive

4) Interested in my love life

5) Still "thinks about me" all of the time

6) Reason for dumping me keeps changing

 

The fact that she wants to keep me around as entertainment really hurts my feelings. You would think she would want to just push me out of her life. For my sake, I wish she would.

 

Fortunately, I have been pretty distant from her and hope to remain strong and continue it.

 

I actually don't think she will ever come back unless something catastrophic happens with the new guy. I agree that even if she does one day, I will be at the point where I won't put up with her crap. The fact that I don't trust her is what makes me truly sad. If you can't trust your fiancee and best friend, who can you trust?

 

Another reason not to get into a serious relationship at a young age!

[ReLode360]

Nothing wrong with getting into a serious relationship at a young age if you feel it. There is always going to be a risk with taking a chance on someone. The problem I've noticed in the last few years vs. many years ago is that people see other people as disposable. Throw them away at the drop of a hat. Someone may have been thinking about breaking it off for a while, but instead of letting the other know whats wrong and giving it a good chance to change those things within reason, they just tell you to take a hike. I blame fairy tales and romance comedies. They always show the knight in shining armor coming to the resucue and everything is full of unicorns and rainbows. They never show afterwards when the knight comes home after a long day of slaying dragons and just wants to sit on the couch for 10 minutes and have a beer

[look-but-don't-touch]

I actually don't think she will ever come back unless something catastrophic happens with the new guy. I agree that even if she does one day, I will be at the point where I won't put up with her crap. The fact that I don't trust her is what makes me truly sad. If you can't trust your fiancee and best friend, who can you trust?

 

I feel your pain. good to know your going no contact. it's time for us to heal and move on.

 

 

 

Another reason not to get into a serious relationship at a young age!

 

Amen to that!