I Have A Date To The Prom, Now What?

[AdviceSeeker]

I asked this girl I like to go with me to the prom. She said yes, which is great. The problem is, how to I go about advancing our relationship? I talk to her everyday at school, but never outside it. I know more about her than she knows about me. My goals are to become closer friends with her and to go on a pre-prom date if possible. I'm nervous about the whole thing, this being my first prom, and I don't know if I am up to it, especially the dancing. Transportation, seating arrangements, after-prom activities, matching her dress, the list of worries go on. I know I am blowing this thing out of proportion, but that's just what i do. Anyway, back to the original question, how to I get her closer to me?

[befuddled11]

Seems like it would be a good idea to learn a little more about each other, prior to the Prom..seeing how the Prom is a pretty special time in one's life...would be nice to share it with someone you feel comfortable with.

 

Why not suggest something casual.......get a group of friends together, plan to all go do something.....bowling, indoor rock climbing, whatever you and your friends like doing......(I'm talking guys and girls)....and invite her along......then it's less awkward because it's not like it's an official "date"....just more casual. Invite her to bring along some of her friends if she likes, too. Then sort of see how that goes......then you can get to know each other, and spend time together, but in a less formal, pressure-filled setting. If things go well, then you can suggest maybe going for lunch some time...just take it slowly.

[morrigan]

Call her up on a weekend and ask her if she'd like to get something to eat with you (fast food, no fancy restaurant). As Befuddled said, invite her with some other friends to go to the movies or some other activity.

 

As far as prom is concerned, just dress in a nice tux, if she wants to dance, dance with her a couple of times, even if you hate dancing. A good amount of guys aren't expected to be good dancers, just laugh it off and have a good time. Your prom isn't going to be the most romantic thing of your life. When you're older, you'll look back and see it as a just a fun time you had. Good luck!

[SweetLou22]

I had this same problem in high school. I just asked the girl if she wouldn't mind getting together for a movie and maybe dinner so we could get to know each other better before the prom. The key in this situation is honesty. Tell her that you'd rather get the akwardness out of the way before the prom.

 

Now for the prom itself I would suggest getting together like 2 or 3 of your buddies and their dates and making it a group thing. You can always split from them if you want something more private, but in a group there is always less pressure.

 

Here's what I did (about 5 years ago mind you): Me and 2 friends and our dates met up at one of the guy's houses - we left from there to a restaurant (pre determined with reservations). After a late dinner (930-1030pm) we made our way to the prom. We danced and did the whole picture thing. Then we went back to my friends house (changed into more comfortable party clothing) and had a few other people over. It turned into a small party (sans alcohol) and was very fun. The next morning after 2 hours of sleep me and my date went out for breakfast. Later she became my girlfriend and that lasted 2 great years.

 

The best advice I think I can give you is to make it light and breezy. Don't take anything too fast or too serious. Try and be relaxed and funny - the rest will fall into place.