C'est La Vie Posted November 7, 2010 Share Posted November 7, 2010 (edited) I mean, why don't I have friends? I mean TRUE friends. I have several acquaintances - people I can go out with on the weekends, chat with online, etc.; however, when it comes to having people to share that "deep, personal bond" with, I really have nobody. Heck, I really don't even have this with anybody in my family. The majority of the people I talk to are guys; however, I cannot make and keep male friendships. What happens a majority of the time is that the guys end up wanting to date me, sleep with me, whatever... and I tell them no... and then they're gone. The only male friends that have stuck around are the gay ones and three ex-boyfriends (we're completely over, and all of us have moved on). Honestly, when I try to make friends (female), I am typically drawn towards the more "extroverted" type - the ones you'd see hanging around in clubs all the time and stuff. Now, I do like to go clubbing, but it is definitely NOT a high priority in my life; in fact, I have been completely sober of alcohol for a bit over a month now. I like to party and have fun, but I'm not a hardcore party girl. Most of these girls usually are, and they all judge me by appearance... I have a "baby face" so they tend to think that I'm more of an introverted, stay home, not have fun type gal. When I try to befriend the more introverted types, we typically don't have much to talk about because... they think I'm too outgoing, and too much of a partier. And they're more into arts, crafts, cooking, books, etc. I'm honestly not really into that stuff, so... I don't know. It's just bumming me out... everybody with such close friendships and those deep connections/bonds... and I don't have that. I just don't know why. I never try to be anything I'm not. I'm me... but somehow, being me is just a complete turn-off for most people, it seems. Gosh, even the girls my age that I work with... they will talk to me at work, but when it comes to making plans outside of work... they always call and make plans with each other, but never really ask me if I'd like to go with them. *Sigh* EDIT: I forgot to add... I get along GREAT with older women. Heck, my "best friend" at work is a 75-year-old woman, LOL! And the managers... younger ones and I really don't mesh well, but I get along great with the older ones. Perhaps I'm just too much of an old soul? -sigh- Edited November 7, 2010 by C'est La Vie Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted January 2, 2011 Share Posted January 2, 2011 It is probably the self-deprication. Seems to be a little depression or not feeling your self-worth. Try to concentrate on your nicer traits and mayeb even feel like you are marketing them (don't be phony) but just put it out there, be really really real as well. Don't just tell people what they want to hear, give a strong opinion. People are attracted to confident people. Also, don't isolate yourself, try talking with a variety of people. Link to post Share on other sites
Scottie Posted January 2, 2011 Share Posted January 2, 2011 How old are you (ish) if you dont mind me asking, I am 22 but I am quite switched on for my age and I tend to get on with slightly older people than myself more than I do of my own age, although I do get on with people my age. Link to post Share on other sites
diann3tes Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 In order to find a true friend, you must be one. You should bond with your acquaintances, listen to them and open up things about you. You'll surely get one or more the soonest. Link to post Share on other sites
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