kippy Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 Americajin, that was well said. It is really appalling to hear the tone that some people use here in the name of "It is a public forum, you asked, so you got it". Frankly, it is uncalled for. This is outright brutal, antagonistic and totally condescending. Sometimes when one is under such a pressure (read separation or divorce), one's rationality is grossly compromised. However, that doesn't mean they are stupid or crazy, it is just the reality of the human state. I hope those who wish to contribute to this forum take a minute to evaluate their comments before they spew them out. Just as I said earlier, it has all served for the common good, but it took a lot to decipher that jewel in the trash can. Shall we all remember grace, because anything said with grace however bitter it may be, will always be helpful. Link to post Share on other sites
A_GUY Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 When you get down off your soapbox maybe we could all join hands and sing Kumbaya. Link to post Share on other sites
ldybg51 Posted March 8, 2004 Share Posted March 8, 2004 [font=century gothic][/font][color=green][/color] They always prove your point themselves... hhhuuhhh, earthlings.... Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 I'm with Befuddled on this one! People want what they can't have, so it is said. This is a class case example of that. The pill I'm having a hard time swallowing is the fact that you dropped your entire life SO quickly to go and be with someone going through a divorce. Here's something that might help you...the guy you were involved with cleaved to you like he did (which by the way is not the way to start a healthy relationship) because of his separation/divorce. At least, that's my opinion. You were a comfort for him, and a rebound or stepping stone in getting over his soon to be ex. Having your incessant and immediate attention, love, etc. just proved to him that he can still get someone. He certainly did! I truly feel your pain, but in order to change the way you feel and climb your way out of this hole that YOU fell into, you need to change your thinking. It's O-V-E-R with this guy, and I'm pretty certain he won't come back to you. If he does, I would beware...I wouldn't have anything positive to say about his motives if he does. Fires that burn hot and fast die rather quickly. If I were you, I would try to plan and arrange to move back to where you moved from and go back to your support system. Link to post Share on other sites
Fedup&givingup Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 Shanny, I'm a woman. After thinking about you some more, I want you to know I REALLY feel for you! What you are going through sounds terrible and overwhelming. I'm not trying to ridicule you. See, you were dealing with someone that was at a very confusing time in their lives. He had you around to replace what he just lost. He dropped you like a bad habit, and that must hurt. I KNOW I would want closure, too. Sometimes we have to make our own closure. That's very difficult, and it can be very painful. The best kind of closure minded attitude I can offer would be that this guy was NOT ready or worthy of the kind of woman you are and all that you had to offer. That man will come around....again. I truly think that it might be in your best interest to go back home. Time heals all wounds, and you'll be stronger after this. Link to post Share on other sites
observer Posted March 10, 2004 Share Posted March 10, 2004 A_Guy, Befuddled11 and Co. Please end the witch hunt. This young woman does not deserve this treatment. Quite frankly, I am saddened to see how a group of people who claim to care (and probably were drawn to such a forum because of a painful past themselves) can be so utterly and shamelessly abusive. I'm outta here and I hope that Shanny is long gone from this thread, as well. Now you idiots are acusing me of being her while one of you "hunters" is hiding behind by username. Give it a rest. Link to post Share on other sites
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