gulo Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 Ok so my husband has decided to have his sister stay here with us in the US to go to college here and live with us..It started without him consulting me and just telling me she is coming here to live with us to go to school.. I had no voice or matter in this situation because i love my husband. So it has been seven months already and it has gotten worse..meaning- i never ever have alone time with him, ever... everywhere we go she goes. she's home all the time and in my space.. and yes they are from a different culture and are very close i understand but is it really appropriate to spoon with your brother on the couch and kiss after kiss and hug after hug and speaking their language all the time around me..i know im the wife and that's his sister but even others have noticed this odd behavior and find it weird. She does not do anything around the house ever only when her brother is around to act as if she is, it makes me so mad. And now im ignoring her and my husband is starting to fight with me over this, saying i am acting immature and dumb and is angry that i would bring up the closeness the have and baby her. I have stopped going places with them when sundays used to be our day..I hate being around here looking at her makes me soooo mad. I dont know what to do i dont want to loose my husband but i have a feeling i am. And she is loving it.. Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh Posted November 13, 2010 Share Posted November 13, 2010 Yes it is strange. I have known people from many different cultures and nationalities and I have never known of one where it is okay to act like your brother is your husband. I have to wonder if he is sleeping with her too. I know that sounds crass and vulgar, but with the way he acts like a **** toward you, makes me wonder. Link to post Share on other sites
Vesna Posted November 15, 2010 Share Posted November 15, 2010 I am not taking sides here but please hear me. My brother married for security and plenty of money, something we didn't have as children. While my bro and I are not overly affectionate with each other, nor do we spoon on the couch, we do take great pleasure in talking about the nicer and funnier aspects of what was our shambolic upbringing. SIL has all but gone out of her way to destroy the friendship by putting me down at every turn, NOT letting me help around their home and seeking as much negative in me as she possibly can. I am working through my fragility via therapy and doing good things but this woman is my worst living nightmare. I just cannot stand up for myself to this woman. On the one day I love to have bro with me, that is the anniversary of our father's death (we were young teens), I noticed in the last few years that she has had him 'prebooked'. These days he sneeks over to visit me for coffee and a chat. She is making things worse for herself. I was told recently that if she had her way, My brother and I would never see each other again. She wants to protect her daughter from beautiful women, which is impossible in this shallow and phoney world. I am pretty, but I am not plastic-fantastic. This came from a reliable source of information. In fact, since their daughter was born, SIL just gets more vicious with me every year it seems. If what you are saying about your bro and his sister's physical relationship is real, talk with him. I have seen many siblings be very affectionate with each other and I think it is innoccuous. Don't let your jealousy destroy a friendship/marriage in so many ways. Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyLeigh Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 Siblings may be affectionate, but this guy doesn't even respect his wife to consult her about his sister moving in. They are acting like a couple, not siblings. They are rude and don't include her in conversations. I don't think anyone will ruin this marriage except the husband. I think that your situation is a whole lot different than the OP's. Link to post Share on other sites
Vesna Posted November 16, 2010 Share Posted November 16, 2010 OK, I admit I didn't read the whole story from start to finish but now I have done so. Your husband is disrespectful and so is his sister. His is an incestuous cunt and she is a narcissistic bitch, taking great pleasure in your anguish. Both of them are sick! Regardless of their culture, they do not respect your presence. It is also monumentally rude to discuss things in a language that the third person cannot understand. They are ****ing pigs and they are made for each other. Get rid of him and get your life back, before she gets pregnant. Run a mile! I'm sorry you are in this hell of a situation. Link to post Share on other sites
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