davisc123 Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 Logic tells me to just forget about it and move on. But it is driving me up the wall. I'm not interested in getting her back, I am under no illusions that we are finished. But the image of those two in my head is tearing me up. After 4 years together she cheated on me. We broke up, got back together and broke up again because although I tried to forgive her she didnt do enough to win back my trust. She kept going back to him saying he pursued her and made her feel 'nice', and she was scared to be alone. After our last break up she still text me everyday, telling me she loved me and how upset and depressed she was without me. But I soon found out that all the while she was back together with him. So I had to force her to leave me alone, telling her how angry I was with her for continually getting in contact. She said she couldn't help it. Has anybody been in a relationship with someone for them to cheat and end up with that person, and has the new relationship lasted? Call me vindictive but I can't help hoping that they make each other miserable. Link to post Share on other sites
Adi Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 Hi, i belive if she really liked him, then she would not even contact you. I think that your ex is getting all of her needs, from the both of you, but she does no understand that, so she thinks, that this over guy is ace, but when you go NC now she will come too realise this, and miss you. The other guy may only just be filling in 5% but she thinks its the hole 100% But i get what you say, you dont wont her back, but dont wont them going off in the sunset, give it a few months and i bet it wont work. Link to post Share on other sites
ReturnToSender Posted November 8, 2010 Share Posted November 8, 2010 If its any consolation, my ex and the girl he left me for broke up recently, after being together for nearly a year. Now after all that time of freaking out over whether or not hes seeing me behind her back (I was no threat btw), shes drinking and moaning about how she wasted a year with him and calling him names. I cant help but to think, what was the tip off? When he cheated on me with you behind my back for 4 months? No? Oh... Yeah, whatever will be will be. I was so convinced they would get married and have kids and be together forever, not cause I thought they made such a great couple, they didnt, but cause I figured...well that would just be my luck LoL! But nah. Karma. Link to post Share on other sites
fun2bewith Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 Hi, i belive if she really liked him, then she would not even contact you. I think that your ex is getting all of her needs, from the both of you, but she does no understand that, so she thinks, that this over guy is ace, but when you go NC now she will come too realise this, and miss you. The other guy may only just be filling in 5% but she thinks its the hole 100% But i get what you say, you dont wont her back, but dont wont them going off in the sunset, give it a few months and i bet it wont work. I like the way you think! Link to post Share on other sites
Author davisc123 Posted November 9, 2010 Author Share Posted November 9, 2010 Thanks for the reply's folks. I won't be drawn back into any of it, I'm annoyed at how weak I've been dealing with this situation. It really has been such an eye opener for me, I just hope I can trust somebody again because I trusted her completely. She was the last person I thought would cheat. Like I say though I am so determined not to let it ruin anymore of my life. I suppose it's their business now, but I do take comfort from the thought that they won't work out. If she left me then met somebody else I would be hurt but I am not a resentful person and if she was happy then so be it. I just can't bear to see them happy after the pain they've cause me. I made an attempt a few months back to go NC when I found out they were together after our first break up. Having ignored her for a couple of weeks she literally chased me down and begged to have another go saying that he was nothing. So I gave her the failed second chance. More fool me for believing her. She was obviously just scared to end up alone, and liked the idea of having me on the back burner. Link to post Share on other sites
YellowShark Posted November 9, 2010 Share Posted November 9, 2010 So I gave her the failed second chance. More fool me for believing her. She was obviously just scared to end up alone, and liked the idea of having me on the back burner. Once a cheater not always a cheater. TWICE a cheater... ALWAYS a cheater. Link to post Share on other sites
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