Bambi28 Posted November 10, 2010 Share Posted November 10, 2010 Hey, So basically i suspected my bf of cheating on me, both partes have denied it till they are blue in the face, my 'evidence' has been easily explained away, and even if it makes me an idiot later, i have decided for now to accept his answers and stay with him, as i love him and cant imagine life without him. All good in theory, but now i cant stop thinking of this other girl, and the silly little lie he told me, and blowing it all out of proportion in my mind, how the hell do i get over it!! Why am i torturing myself like this? Any tips on how to forget all about it? Any help at all would be much appreciated!! Link to post Share on other sites
jenniferlm Posted November 10, 2010 Share Posted November 10, 2010 It sounds as if whether he is really cheating or isn't you could use some couple's counseling! If he refuses, you should probably take it as a sign. Trust me, I should have taken it as sign once or twice and didn't. lol If counseling isn't an option, then out of respect for you and the situation he should distance himself from her, you shouldn't have to demand this or fight about it. You really shouldn't even have to mention it, but if you do, he shouldn't make a big deal out of it. If he does, I'd have to say that's also a sign. Perhaps with some distance between you guys and the other girl, you will be able to forget with time. I'd also think about what is wrong in the relationship that led you think this way in the first place! Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bambi28 Posted November 11, 2010 Author Share Posted November 11, 2010 He has already stopped talking to her in order to make me feel better, and that was without me asking, so thats a positive, right? He now also tells me every time they speak for work or whatever, where as before i didnt even know anything about her. He is trying to make this as easy as possible for me, its my own thoughts i cant get away from! As for what was wrong in our relationship, nothing as far as i knew, he just omitted to tell me he was meeting her for lunch as he thought i would get upset if i knew, and once i found out, i got the wrong end of the stcik as they say. I think the thing that annoys me most is that one silly little girl was able to make me feel so unsure of myself, and now am trying to rebuild my confidence as well as my trust in my b/f, is it possible?? Link to post Share on other sites
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