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GF of 3 years, cheated on me and is now in a relationship with this guy! WTF

evilmonkey2008

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so basically give it time, if its meant to be then she will commuinicate me, yeah?

 

But even then, unless she flat out tells you that she really screwed up and begs you to take her back, nothing she tells you will be worth responding to. Hell, it may not be worth responding to even if she does tell you those things. Your call, but don't be surprised if you find you've moved on by that time.

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I 100% agree with jer021. Furthermore, don't ever hate "the other guy". Hating is a reflection of self and when you harbor those kinds of feelings towards someone else, it ends up hurting and damaging you until you become resentful and spiteful. Be resilient and learn to let go.

 

Don't let a girl get you down man. Have style, dignity, and strength . Unleash your inner man.

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alright, alright, you know what i should stop blaming myself, i didnt do anything to her, i didnt say one min i loved her the next im shagging some one else, no i didnt deserve that if she is happy then thats fine, life is too short to worry. i still want to be friends, because i cant hate her, sorry i spent too long with her to hate her. but i let her be the judge of that.

 

btw you know i told you i punched her new guy, the reason being is that i drove up to her uni trying to find her looking for some answers i know worng thing to do, and by blind luck i saw them in a resturant, and there she was smiling and lookingat him, it crushed me guys, so i lost it and went in there and pinched him! i lost it, i lost it

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... it crushed me guys, so i lost it and went in there and pinched him! i lost it, i lost it

 

I suspect you're suffering from a false sense of scarcity. Marketing and sales people use this all the time, and sometimes we do it to ourselves. You have to realize and truly believe that there are in fact a bazillion other women out there pretty much just like her.

 

That's step 1, and it's the hard part. Step 2?

 

Go get a few.

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Its my ex's birthday next month also, I dont want her to think I dont give a **** about her or have forgot its her birthday so I was thinking a simple 'happy birthday, hope all is well with you and the fam x' text and NOTHING ELSE.

 

what you reckon?

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Its my ex's birthday next month also, I dont want her to think I dont give a **** about her or have forgot its her birthday so I was thinking a simple 'happy birthday, hope all is well with you and the fam x' text and NOTHING ELSE.

 

what you reckon?

 

I say stick with NC. Contacting her on her birthday can potentially stir up unwanted emotions on a day she is supposed to be celebrating. Plus, not contacting her on her "special day" may even make her curious. If she's upset and she contacts you, you can use my first reason and tell her that.

 

Even for Christmas and New Years I'm sticking to NC with my ex. If your out of their life be 100% out of their life, that includes holidays, birthdays, etc. If they miss you on those special days, they know how to reach you.

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I say stick with NC. Contacting her on her birthday can potentially stir up unwanted emotions on a day she is supposed to be celebrating. Plus, not contacting her on her "special day" may even make her curious. If she's upset and she contacts you, you can use my first reason and tell her that.

 

Even for Christmas and New Years I'm sticking to NC with my ex. If your out of their life be 100% out of their life, that includes holidays, birthdays, etc. If they miss you on those special days, they know how to reach you.

 

hmm you make valid points, i just cant help feeling like im gonna feel massively guilty if i dont at least acknowledge it. It was only my birthday few months back and she was amazing to me, bought me all sorts, took me out. I think 1 of the reasons she stopped the relationship is cause she thought I didnt care as much as her which is bull****.

Wont not wishing her a happy birthday confirm her thinking I didnt care, thats what i dont want to happen. It's ended on a bad note, which i dont want, i dont want to be in a relationship or back with her right now, it wont work. i know that. but i think a happy birthday text may release that tension a little, and may put me in a better light than 'he never gave a **** and i realise that now' hmm....i hate this. I had got her presents and everything which she wont get to see which i knew she'd absolutely love.

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Or.....she could think that you're being pathetic and reaching for straws and gives her a little ego stroke because you might be still pining for her....

 

Stay NC, she knows it's her birthday, you don't need to ackownledge it.

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cheers guys for the advice, if we all lived in the same country i would buy you all a drink.

 

I know there is no chance, as I punched the new guy she is with, i know i shouldnt of done it. Seocndly i spoke to her mum, and ehr mum said i was the worst thing to happen to her, and i was like cheers!

 

But then if i was that bad why stick with me for 3 years!]

 

meh its all so confusing!!!

 

How old are you?

 

Seriously, you went and punched the neww guy in a fit of rage?

 

You really think her leaving you is HIS FAULT?

 

There has to be more to the story; obviously her Mother thinks there is...

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evilmonkey2008

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21 to be exact! Oh come on she just dropped me like a hat and I was like that's harsh! She lives with this guy at uni, so I didn't have a chance! But still if I lived in the same town I would still punch him! Sorry in my books you don't do things like that! Yh I admit I stuffed up in the relationship, but the mature thing to do is talk about each other is feeling, not go and jump into bed with some one else!

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maybe i got anger issues, guys i think i stuffed up majorly here, i tired so hard in fighting her back that i did more bad than good. So iv should accept that i stuffed up learn from my mistakes and move on, but then i feel guilty that i cant make her happy anymore!

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maybe i got anger issues, guys i think i stuffed up majorly here, i tired so hard in fighting her back that i did more bad than good. So iv should accept that i stuffed up learn from my mistakes and move on, but then i feel guilty that i cant make her happy anymore!

 

We're here to help you bud however if you insist punching a rather innocent guy who your EX girlfriend has chosen over you might as well speak volumes to her choice as the correct one. There is no justification for your actions -- plain and simple its immature.

 

Good luck.

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We're here to help you bud however if you insist punching a rather innocent guy who your EX girlfriend has chosen over you might as well speak volumes to her choice as the correct one. There is no justification for your actions -- plain and simple its immature.

 

Good luck.

 

if hes been persueing her whilst with him then hes not innocent atall, just prooves hes a sly little bastard and he should expect consequences for moving in on his girl. not saying its right to do what he did, but if someone takes away the love of your life, then you arent thinking clearly and its an animal instinct we all have to lash out at anyone attempting to take our woman and interviene our terratory.

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if hes been persueing her whilst with him then hes not innocent atall, just prooves hes a sly little bastard and he should expect consequences for moving in on his girl. not saying its right to do what he did, but if someone takes away the love of your life, then you arent thinking clearly and its an animal instinct we all have to lash out at anyone attempting to take our woman and interviene our terratory.

 

I'm with you mate. If they try stealing your girl they deserve it.

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do you know which bit hurts the most, here i am on a firday night, usually would have my ex here, we would watch a dvd together, just hugging, there! now its gone, it hurts man, it hurts, now she is with some one else.

 

Not saying violence isnt the answer, but **** how can some one just come and take that away from you!!

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You can't think about what you would've been doing. You need to break those habits. I know how you feel. Every day I saw my ex and my weekends and downtime were never a worry because it would always involve being with her.

 

Create new habits, hobbies, things to fill your time. Go out with friends. It makes you forget what's happening when you're with friends, only temporary but at least it passes the time quicker.

 

Keep your head up man.

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Leave her...you are better off without her... She might try to get back to you... If she does..never take her back.... cause she seems to have the cheater's DNA lol.. find someone better

good luck

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evilmonkey2008

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Cheers for the advice guys, I don't know it just seems she was the most beautiful person I have had so far in my life, when I look at other woman all I see is her!!!!!

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Just be yourself and learn to be happy by yourself. A woman should compliment you and if she wants to move on then show her the door and don't look back. Life to too short and there are way to many beautiful good women out there to be hung up on a trickster

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if hes been persueing her whilst with him then hes not innocent atall, just prooves hes a sly little bastard and he should expect consequences for moving in on his girl. not saying its right to do what he did, but if someone takes away the love of your life, then you arent thinking clearly and its an animal instinct we all have to lash out at anyone attempting to take our woman and interviene our terratory.

 

There's no such evidence or discussion suggesting anything to the like. Stick to the facts -- it makes for better advice.

 

Nonetheless, punching the other guy...obviously she is smart enough to make her own choices and apparently she proved it.

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thanks again for the advice guys, i must say you are all legends and it has helped thorugh this diffiuclt period!

 

So im going to have to accept there is no possbility in hell to ever get her back, but then she shouldnt of done this to me!

 

But why cant i still let her go! agh jesus women are mind ****s!

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